We're not that complicated. We are the way we are because it's natural and comfortable. Stop trying to make us be something we're not.
We don't wear make up and try to hide our true identities. We don't feel the need to "show our emotions" because not much really bothers us. If and when we feel the need to cry, it's possible.
We like "guy stuff" because we're guys. We like to look at pretty women because it's stimulating...that's how we noticed you. Can't you just accept that and leave it alone?
2006-08-23 03:53:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
1. because we don't think like you.
2. because when we do figure you out, youre usually not good enough for us. But by this time there is an emotional connection, and its much easier on our emotions to just stick with a guy and whip him into shape than go shopping for a new one.
OK, I was joking. Seriously, guys are not as simple as they think they are or make themselves out to be. girls make an effort to get to know them because they care and because it makes them feel closer to the guy in their life. We are not trying to annoy, we are just curious about you, and want to make sure youre happy.
not all girls try to change guys, some of them love guys for who they are, but living with anyone is difficult because they have different habits and tastes, and it takes compromise on both sides to make the arrangement more comfortable for the other.
I baked peanutbutter cookies and cinnamon rolls on my day off last week because I knew my husband loves them. Not because I had a huge urge to make a lot of work for myself.
And he washes the dishes because he knows its a chore I dislike, not because he is gung-ho on cleanliness.
doing for the other, folks. it makes life that much richer.
2006-08-23 05:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Okay, calm down. You're getting some answers here, and that is good. You started a good topic. But the fact of that matter it this..men and women think differently. Unfortunately, the majority of women in American culture today (especially American culture) is all about control. There was a movement way back in the 60's called feminism. You probably have heard of it. It started a whole onslaught of mindset shifts in how women think. It went from your "June Cleaver" type to your for lack of a better example here...your "Britney Spears" type. The thought processes of women and men have always been vastly different, but in today's culture a huge paradigm shifts has taken place...women wanting more control. It is a competition.
And it is unfortunate, because honestly...women are not to be either the June Cleaver or the Britney Spears types. They are supposed to be women, period. Where do you find out about that? Honestly, the Bible.
And to stand up for women here a moment, many women do not wear make-up to hide thier identities. Make-up for the most part is worn to enhance the beauty and qualities that are within a woman. The only time it becomes a mask, is when the woman already chooses to hide herself by controlling others; men and women alike. And no men do not need to show thier emotions, they are not designed that way. Women are emotional creatures, but women also need to learn how to temper thier emotions (I learn daily). How can a woman learn how to do this? Again, the Bible.
A lot of guys today are having a challenge in this area. So the best thing I can say to you personally...is to stop taking it personally. Women are not out to get you. They are just as confused as you are. But one way to keep your eyes off the agitation, takes steps to help yourself. Pick up a book on relationships. If you want to know more about the female psyche, read about relationships. If you want a more in depth answer, read the Bible. Espcially Proverbs 31 and the book of Ephesians. A good book to understand women better, Captivating by John and Staci Eldredge.
2006-08-23 08:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by Bible Trekker 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-29 21:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i learned long ago, you can't change anyone but yourself. I think women like to "mother," "nurture," etc, but make the mistake of doing so with an adult male. I tell women all the time, you better assess him as he is and not how you would like to have him after you have "worked on him." There are fundamental differences in men and women and that's what makes us all unique and interesting. I think what has helped w/my husband is not nagging him--but rather allowing him to be inspired--and then he voluntarily gives.....
2006-08-23 04:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
They do not have enough to keep them busy.
But in defense of women. Cultures became civilized when women were introduced. Example: Wild West. Some women just carry their ideas TOO FAR
2006-08-23 04:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by Annie R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who knows, maybe they like to tame us, you know, and keep us like a trophy of their "hard work", but changing a man is a sacrilege to nature, you can't change a man, we are just to far in. My grandfather has a saying " You can understand how any man thinks but it will take you another lifetime to understand how a woman thinks. " and my dad used to say that " women are just another unexplained universal mystery ", they both are things to live with and are very true.
2006-08-23 11:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by Faust 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women are just plain weird, even if they do smell nice.
Like Jill Taylor on "Tool Time" with the oil light on the car- "I dunno, I thought it'd turn more red or something"
By the time that red light comes on, it means its time for a new engine.
My wife thought it was funny, I said if that every happened- especially since I sent her to Truck Driving school- I'd file for divorce. And I ment it
2006-08-23 10:12:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Grandmother says “A changed man is a dead man” I thought it was pretty funny, but it is also words to live by. We mean well, really- but it’s best to be the man that you know how to be and she’ll either accept it or move on – You win either way.
2006-08-23 05:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by mother pearl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well their is one simple answer to your question dude, guys are very hard to understand and that's why some women are always trying to figure us out cause if they do we are vulnerable. And you may think were not that complicated to figure out cause were guys, but to women, were jigsaw puzzles.
2006-08-23 04:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by lover8564 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
women are nosey and want to know it all being a woman myself i like to know about men not change them so much as just to know about them because as i said i'm nosey and i want to know what makes men do some of the thinks that they do
2006-08-23 05:54:51 · answer #10 · answered by just_a_fat_chick_9669 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋