someone is really depressed or having problems with relationships, alcohol, drugs or whatever and the best friend or group friends or loved ones are there beside them trying to make them feel better and to get them out of the house and happy, what happens when you dont have that, when you reallly do have no one not family, not friends nothing, its really rather depressing
2006-08-23 03:51:08 · 15 answers · asked by lily paige 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to get involved in your community. Try volunteering at an organization that interests you. There you will meet other people, likely with common interests and you can strike up some friendships. Local animal shelters and rescue groups are always looking for someone to walk dogs or care for the cats.
Try taking a class at a local community college. Join a church and get involved with the youth group (or whatever age oriented group you closely relate with).
Do you work? If not, try to find a part time job where you will be able to meet people with common interests. Sitting at home and chatting on the computer will not give you the enriching relationships you are needing.
First you have to be comfortable in your own skin. Confident of who you are and what you want. This confidence will draw people to you. A needy, depressed person is most certainly worthy of our compassion but sometimes they drain us of our positive energy. This is what makes us avoid them. Be a positive person that feeds those around them with positive energy and people will want to be with you.
All of this takes time, but you've got to get out there first. Start your new job or volunteer gig without any expectations of the people around you. Remember that you are doing it to enrich yourself and the organization first. The rest will come naturally.
These may help you to get started: http://www.volunteersolutions.org/volunteer/
or try this for a list of several volunteer opportunities: http://dir.yahoo.com/Society_and_Culture/Issues_and_Causes/Philanthropy/Community_Service_and_Volunteerism/Organizations/
If your emotional/mental situation is more dire than you indicate here then it is time to seek professional help. Try this website to get some initial ideas on what is available: http://www.nami.org/
Best of luck to you.
2006-08-23 04:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by wibbsite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would need to know more about your situation to give you a true answer. The best I can say is about what everyone else has told you and that is professional help. However, considering you are asking for help with this online I am sure you could find support here, an online support group, etc. Good luck.
2006-08-23 11:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by missyb5884 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lily, thank goodness that you examples are drawn from the movies. Those are examples of lives of fantasy. Please try and face the reality. No other medium should be substituted for human friendly support in times of depression and difficulty. Several guys and gurls are on this site who are willing to be your friends. Please link up with them. Be sure that "a problem shared is halve-solved". And, if you don't mind, I'm willing to be your friend too. But note that I'm a guy. You may contact me through my profile, if you can. Cheers!
2006-08-23 11:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be someone, there always is, that person might not b ur friend but someone that u just know, there is a lot of good ppl in this world try to open up and u'll find. U need other ppl to survive through good and bad
2006-08-23 10:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by leed 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, but remember that you are here for a reason &
that the days to come can be better if you allow them to
go to a singels group @ a church you can meet a lot
of nice, caring people there
and PLEASE get some help fr. a Dr. if you can't afford it,
call your township & ask them about a clinic or low
priced Dr. that you could go to
remember your life is what you make of it & God
cares about you no matter what !
2006-08-23 11:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well life's not a movie... we don't live in that fairytale land, unfortunately... so nothing goes smooth.. growing up is about solving your own problems by yourself... and i'm sure if you look hard enough, there will be that person who IS reliable and worth talkin to, but u choose to close ur eyes to the option
2006-08-23 10:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seek professional help. There are lots of support groups and therapists out there from whom you could benefit greatly.
2006-08-23 10:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call 1-800-273-TALK it will connect you with counseling or emergency services in your area.
2006-08-23 10:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by WEIRDRELATIVES 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is always God, and most people fail to remember Him in those times... that's why they turn to everything else.
2006-08-23 10:54:14 · answer #9 · answered by seraphim_pwns_u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow... that is depressing.
there are helplines and free services available to assist you. Check the phone book. I am almost sure that help is readily available.
2006-08-23 10:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by aprilc232 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋