iv loved a guy for a year...hes now my closest friend. see i had to do somethin to make him jealous so i made up that i had got a boyfriend on holiday. then he and my girl-pal were having a laugh and he sed somethin that implies am ugly in a jokey way. he is always jokin... so i dont know if he meant it.
everytime i say somethin that implies to me lovin him he brushes it off...and when i was having a laugh with him one day i told him i wasnt goin to speak to him ever again and he said that'll never happen... now i dont know if i should confront him and tell him i love him and i have to get over him. do u have any idea of any solution to bring closure...please xx
2006-08-23 03:38:42 · 22 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
1. You shouldn't have lied about a boyfriend...friends don't lie to each other. Plus, it doesn't sound like it worked.
2. From your info, it doesn't sound like he's interested in you as more than a friend.
3. Him saying "That'll never happen" sounds like he already knows that you dig him and he is quite confident that you'd never stop communicating with him.
4. If he were interested in you, he wouldn't say things about you being ugly, joking or not.
I would cut your losses...don't tell him how you feel because I don't think he'd care. Good Luck.
2006-08-23 03:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably knows you like him. You should tell him in a NON THREATENING way that you have strong feelings for him.
Start off by saying I've known you for such a long time...I think my feelings for you have grown...I'm not sure if I'm in love with you or what these feelings are....and see what he says.
Be honest and say you don't want to lose his friendship but you don't like that your feelings have changed and that you feel you have to keep them to yourself...that it's driving you crazy and that is the reason you are telling him.
Say if you don't feel the same I understand...it doesn't have to change our friendship but I needed to tell you and I hope I won't lose you because you mean a lot to me.
That way you are not putting pressure on him at all to have to return your feelings if he doesnt' feel the same, and you will have told him which will release you from that agony....one way or another it will resolve itself and you can either move forward or move onward!
And then come clean and tell him there was no holiday guy...it was a silly way you thought of to test his feelings which didn't work.
2006-08-23 11:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by EVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is quite confusing. Why did you feel it necessary to "make him jealous"? That is called playing with fire my friend. Rather than being honest with him you thought it easier to play a game. It very possibly backfired on you. Now what?
You have only one choice...be honest with him. Tell him you like him. If he asks about the Holiday Guy, then tell him "there wasn't one, I was foolish and tried to get a reaction from you. can you forgive me?"
If you're lucky, he will be honest with you. If his response is not what you hope for, then be prepared to accept it. Tell him you understand and that you don't what the friendship to change. And you do have to accept it, you cannot change what he feels.
Be sure to commit yourself to be honest in your relationships. It is the best way to attract people who will be honest with you. You deserve that, don't you? So do they.
Good luck!
2006-08-23 10:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by wibbsite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uurggh! Your story sounds so familiar! I was in love with the boy across the road for 5 years - he also happened to be my best friend and also happened to make jokey comments if I ever suggested anything ;) I never plucked up enough courage to confront him and so to this day he never knew. I guess I just got over him with time but make sure you still enjoy hanging out with him, its sometimes nice to have that secret crush! enjoy it! I think confessing your love for him would make things awkward and you might loose your best friend.
2006-08-23 10:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by Fiona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows that you love him and you are doing so much to make him see it. If he hasn't done any thing by now may be you should change your way and see if he makes any move, may be you need to ignore him a bit so he can find some space to think about it. Good luck
PS. You can't also be just friends with him while you love him so make things clear for good
2006-08-23 11:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by vero 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever go after someone who is not interested in you. It only makes chances lower. If he is always joking or brushing you off it should be a sign. Find someone else you know that he is not the only guy in the world
Besides never allow yourself to be in love with someone who doesn't love you back. You are only hurting yourself
He sounds childish to me anyways
2006-08-23 10:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want more answers? ok... well my opinion is that he likes you but might be shy to say something because he might think that because you are such good friends you might not want to spoil that with a relationship (that's what happened to me...) well give it a try, you'll never know if you don't try(and if you are good friends then even if he says no, then it shouldn't get in the way of your friendship.) he might have said stuff to make you feel jealous too. it might have hurt him that you suddenly got a boyfriend on holiday (considering you barely would have known him...)
good luck.
2006-08-23 11:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by wad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus tell him u have to let it out it might hurt cuz he might not feel the same way but jus do it u cant keep it bottled up forever and maybe he likes u to but is to scared to tell u but who knows if nobody will talk about it......but if not then he wont be ur last love becuase u will date other guys but lnly if u let ur self do it.....so tell him an find out an try to move on i know its hard cuz im doin right now to but u will let go a little a time maybe not completly but sooner or later u will
2006-08-23 10:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by fat_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are slow on the up-take so do a little more than just hint that you like him - An odd peck on the cheek or get touchy feely and you might just get the response you want? Sit on the fence and you will get nowhere - blurt it out and you may get embarrassed
2006-08-23 10:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by TD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look..it's very simple....confront the issue head on....take it from me....the worst thing you could do is not speak your mind and your heart....Regret is a b***** and never live your life regretting anything but if you don't tell him how you feel today you will look back one day and REGRET it....no matter what the consequence might be.....confront....good luck
2006-08-23 11:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by Tiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋