So I'm 20 years old and just recently got divorced, my choice, from my husband of two years. But, lately I've been wondering if I did the right thing because we never were physically were together except for maybe a few months. Is this normal to have regrets... we talked today about it and he feels this way too. What should I do?
2006-08-23 03:02:54 · 18 answers · asked by Kristina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You may be lonley, or it may be you two still love each other but the fact of the matter is you are 20, and i know how it feels when paople say your too young for this and that but they are right. I am 25, i got married at 21, had a baby at 22 and now i am almost divorced to my son's farther, i have been trying for 2 years to get a divorce. Yes i has some reservation about leaving him, but their was a reason i left him as their was a reason you left your ex husband, that reason has not changed.
Date,talk explore a relationship with him over the next few years, if feelings are still their in a few years then that's great but give it some time,trust me.
Jenn
2006-08-23 03:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Army Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always have some thoughts of regret after a divorce, you just have to think about the reasons you divorced in the first place. You're very young and married even younger, you have your whole life ahead of you. Perhaps part of the problem is growing up and who knows, in the future you two may find that you were truly meant to be together.
2006-08-23 03:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're already divorced, there's no need to rush back into things. You guys can date again, but don't be exclusive - date other people, and be honest about it. I'm not saying you should share any details, but don't say you're going out with a girlfriend when you have a date.
Eighteen was way too young to get married. People change too much between 18 and 25. Some marriages can work out, but too often the people mature in different ways and realize that they want different things out of life.
Give it another chance, but don't commit yourself to only him. Dating other guys will open your eyes to what is out there. Perhaps your ex is the best man for you. Perhaps you'll find someone much better. Only you can make that call.
2006-08-23 03:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are divorced at the age of 20. I guess you were married for the wrong reasons. So why would you step back into that kaleidoscope again? Gain a better perspective, see more, learn more before you make a commitment again. This time, for the RIGHT reason : you truly love the person and want to share your life with him, through thick and thin, richer or poorer, better or worse.
That is : BOTH of you want to, and not a situation where one wants it more than the other or worse still, OTHERS telling you to get married.
2006-08-23 03:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by icol918 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what did you get divorced if for cheating then no dont' get back together and if you both think and feel you want to be together then be together and juat not get married again and well you can try to work it out untill the devorce if final because the devorce will not be final untill both are not liven together nor sleeping together after like so many months i think 6 moths to a year or something. so do what your heat says and try to work it out. you still very young though... talk to each other about why you got a divorce and then talk about why youd get back together and not just because you both live each other thats stupid... try is all you can do... you never fail untill you stop tring
2006-08-23 03:08:36 · answer #5 · answered by abbie24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you had a falling out and instead of trying to work through it...you gave up quickly. That happens when you marry too young. I would have done the same. Marriage isn't about the wedding, it's about a life long commitment. If you find yourself, like many others, back together with the one you divorced...work through the problems...don't be so quick to give up.
2006-08-23 03:07:10 · answer #6 · answered by green is clean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have regrets. I was married for 19 years and have regrets that we could not communicate better for the sake of the kids. It has taken us a long time but now the kids are almost grown. Time heals.
2006-08-23 03:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back, your WAY too young, I got married at 23 and now I'm 36 and getting divorced. Live your life, meet all kinds of people, be picky, travel, be selfish because once your married and have kids all that ends.
2006-08-23 03:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask each other what the problem was the first time. You had a reason for leaving. Alot of times people are scared to be alone and that is why they stay together or get back together even if they are unhappy. Y'all probably have alot more talking to do.
2006-08-23 03:06:11 · answer #9 · answered by neicee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This usually happens right after a divorce, hopefully you tried counseling before making a decision to divorce. Give it time, you should try to move forward instead of go in reverse.
2006-08-23 03:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋