im a happily married mother of two and she is a happily married mother of one. She is always telling me that she wants to kiss me and is always asking if i would sleep with a woman..she constantly makes crude remarks about wanting to sleep with me or kiss me...i really do love her heaps as a best friend but thats it..how do i tell her to back off without hurting her feelings?
2006-08-23 02:58:21 · 16 answers · asked by megs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just as a side note she has slept with a woman before
2006-08-23 03:03:26 · update #1
Just be honest with her tell her that you love her as a friend but that's where it ends, explain that you enjoy spending time with her but that her remarks and advances are making you uncomfortable. Ask her to please respect that you are in a relationship and your decision not to pursue the relationship past the bounds of friendship.Good luck!
2006-08-23 03:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by shae 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell her some time later when u r in different mood that u hate Ladies who have sex with Ladies but I dont know why I love u. Tell her let us keep Good Friendship Intact & not discuss Woman sex any more.
Or We will loose the warmth in Friendship.
2006-08-23 10:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by Beware_I'm_Here 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are happily married to a wonderful man and that you do not swing that way. She needs to find a female that will do what she likes.
2006-08-23 10:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by red1967 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had this happen to me too. The only difference I do like women as well as men but, I am not attracted to my friend. It was hard but I just told her that I valued our friendship too much and I was not interested in persuing her advances. It worked.
2006-08-23 10:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by Miss J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her where this is coming from and tell her you arent interested in no uncertain terms and if she doesnt stop you wont be able to continue the friendship. What about your feelings.??
2006-08-23 10:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she coming out, or just wanting to explore new avenues? I would say there is a very big difference. If she is just being curious, tell it to her straight. You are not into that, but you are flattered by the invite. If she is coming out to you, let her know that you are there for her totally and you support her in everything she does and everything she is, but you are not "into her" like that.
2006-08-23 10:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes you just have to be rude and this is one of those times. She is not going to stop and it's going to get worse. You're better off breaking the friendship. Sounds rough, but she won't stop asking to eat your muff.
2006-08-23 10:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Velociraptor 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell her that u have a husband it that the time isn't right tell her when your ready u will tell her but the fact is that u will never be ready so that fixs the problem or u could just tell her u have stds or something
2006-08-23 10:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by razer911 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You gotta tell her you are both married. You aren't into girls and you hope you can stay friends.
2006-08-23 10:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it, tell her,,, you love her,,, but thats it..nothing more...kissing won't matter. I believe... but to have sex with her and you do not feel comfortable about it... just tell her...
2006-08-23 10:08:24 · answer #10 · answered by yulnores 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋