I am almost 6 weeks pregnant, i take care of my husbands brother who has a mental disability and i just turned 26 yesturday. My hubby forgot my birthday!
My head is turning from all the crying ( i am sensitive cause i am pregnant i guess). I feel so hurt. When my hubby got home from work yesterday i had dinner ready, i dset the table and even bought my self my own birthday cake. usually my hubby is the sweetest person, but when he realized he forgot he got mad at me and tried to make it seem like it was my fault that he forgot! I dont understand why he couldnt just apologize to me and try to make it up, instead he ignored me all night while i cried and didnt even bother to sing happy birthday to me or cut the cake.
So my question is should i be mad at him? if so, how long? what should i do? how should i act around him? should i even talk to him, answer his calls?
If i dont allow him to know that i am really hurt he will always be this way
2006-08-23 02:49:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sorry , i meant to say i was 6 MONTHS pregnant, not 6 weeks
2006-08-23 03:03:02 · update #1
Happy Birthday, ive been married 4yrs and my hubby has never even bought me a card or gift. dont feel so bad. tell your man how you fell and be done with it. he probably feels bad that he forgot. i also want to give you props for taking care of his brother. good luck!
2006-08-23 02:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by angeleyez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly as long as you would want him to stay mad at you if the situation was reversed. It was an accident, and I would bet he feels horrible about it already! There was nothing on that drive that is worth holding a grudge over! You can take more pictures, or if it was a specific family event, find a family member that took pics as well and get some copies?? Yea - they will not be the same ones but they will be the same people on the same date. If he has to somehow make it up, then maybe it's time you (and he if he is like this too) quit keeping score and begin to just forgive and move on! Provided you want the marriage to last, then you need to be ready for events like this to happen from time to time, and decide your life mate if more important then anything! If he HAS to make it up, how about he gives you a full body massage, or makes you dinner and then the massage? Good luck!!!
2016-03-27 02:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hold a grudge too long, all the negativity and stress isn't good for you or the baby.
But, you should let your husband know in no uncertain terms that his reaction to forgetting your birthday and his coolness that followed really hurt you and you want him to apologize. My husband can't remember my birthday to save his life, he remembers the day and the year but almost always thinks it's the month after. But he's never acted like it was my fault he forgot...
The stress a father feels during his wife's pregnancy can manifest is strange ways. It can charge their behavior and mood entirely. A baby is something they know they had a hand in creating but can't grasp the concept that it's up to you and nature to finish the job, a lot of men find that hard to deal with as they can't directly effect it.
2006-08-23 03:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by Alpha Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one time my husband forgot valentine cause he work and it was on sat so on mon i went to the flower store bougt myself a big beautiful plant . hung it on the porch about 3pm i called him and said " i am sorry i got so mad at him i knew he loved me and would do something if he had a chages " after several line it wasnt me babe i said thank you any way and hung up . when he got home he asked the girl across the street did she see it get delvered andshe knew what i did and tod him a good looking man sat it there ask for me by name .
that just upset him more he even call my folks to see if they gave it to me/ an hour later our friend at the florist came to the door w/ a big fren with 3 doz roes in it . he told me "this is from me and i dont know who the hell brought the other one but his rear ismine when i find out .
i promised the friend from the floist i would tell him the whole story b/f he went 2 bed . she said he asked if she sold one like the one on the porch she told him no.
while laying in bed i said" babe if i tell you who sent the other plant do you prmise not to hurt them or fuss he agred
I said it was me !! he started to laugh and said after all these yrs of marriage life w/ u is never dull !!!and thing got good b/f we said good nite then he ased how did u pay 4 it i laught and said i put it on yur acct at the florist
he learned a good lesson forget me again and it will cost you double !!LOL forgive him but let him know the next time it will cost him your bd is the same day ever year it not something that slip up on him and its important
2006-08-23 03:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shouldnt have been mad at ou that makes no sense at all.Instead he blew your birthday off like it never mattered and turned it on you i would be upset to.Sit down and talk to hubby let him know how you feel and ask why he treated you that way.Im guessing he had bad day and took it out on you.Or hes stressing due to work and you being pregnant and mentally challenged brother.I say this cause u say hes normaly a sweet person sounds like he had bad day or he could be ashamed of himself that he forgot your last birthday before you become a mommy.Talk to him
2006-08-23 02:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
life goes on...u need to think about self n your baby...guys can be very mean n uncaring at times remain who u r...how u treat someone who means u no good shows your true character...you r definitely a sweetheart..thank god the brother has u to care for him,but anyhow take care of yourself...if husband continues to clownnnnn.....he will burn his bridges so low that he will one day look for u n u will be gone...let's hope he does better..take care also..let him know in a nice calm way how u feel..after all u say he can be sweet at times..i think he may be having moodswings from the baby u know it does happen...let's jus hope he doesn't start eating pickles/icecream
2006-08-23 03:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by Gemini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may have alot on his mind at the moment what with you being pregnant(congratulations) and the fact its gonna be hard dealing with his brother when the baby arrives tell him you were hurt but can understand why he forgot and ask him too share his problem with you.
deep down he knows he hurt you and probley hates himself for it have a chat and try to sort things out
2006-08-23 03:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has my gifts bought weeks, if not months in advance. It comes down to how thoughtful he is and your husband isn't very thoughtful at all. So sorry to hear it!
2006-08-23 03:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋