We have been married for only 1 month now and I have been real suspicious about her "friend." This friend is a dance instructor that she started working with to learn to dance for the wedding. Since then she has gotten really close with him and very distant from me. She's even gone to the point of saying she doesn't think she wants to be married, but cannot give me a reason why. She says that its nothing that I did. She is starting to lie about every little thing like questionable phone calls on our phone bill. She just finally admitted to me that she kissed him, but swears it only happened one time. Do I believe her? Could she be hiding bigger things from me like cheating?
2006-08-23 02:48:54 · 16 answers · asked by blindedbylies 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You've been married for only one month and already she has told you that she thinks she doesn't want to be married to you? (That is a red flag alert)! It is beyond obvious, she has the hots for this dance instructor and seems to be upset with the fact that she is married to you and are making excuses to cover for him.
Yes, she cheated on you! She kissed him already! She is not hiding anything, she told you she has kissed him, which, sounds to me as if she has done more than that. But, who is to say, only she can tell you that. This is a sign for you to fly like a bird...
By your genuine concern for your marriage, I would sugguest you ask her, does she want to remain married to you and straighten up her act and avoid this dancer all completely, or should (we) meaning you two, break up and move on with your own lives.
Don't let this eat you up inside. Let her go, and spend time with yourself and some of your closest friends doing something constructive and fun...for instance ..movies, parks, ball games, indoor/ outdoor activities.... It is pretty mean when the person you have fallen in love with cheats on you. She should have been a mature enough woman to tell you (before) she had gotten married to you that she was having doubts, which is fine, if she did, but she should have really thought it out before jumping into the holy matrimony thing.
You seem like a nice person, although I do not know you. But, you deserve a person who will love and cherish you for you. Don't settle for anyone, learn to be selective in choosing your women, and raise the bar abit higher when it comes to standards for choosing such a women of your choice!
You will be fine..Just figure out what is best for the two of you and take it from there. (Get the engagement and wedding ring back)..She doesn't really quite deserve it...
Good luck with your decision.
2006-08-23 04:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like there is something going on with this dance instructor if she even confessed to just a kiss.....that should not be happening with another man when she's married to you. If she's lieing then she's hiding much more from you. You need to sit down and talk to her now about her feelings because it sounds to me like she's playing you for a fool. Women when they want out of a relationship always say that it's not something YOU did!
2006-08-23 02:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably is lying to you. The grass always looks greener on the other side. Women cheat for emotional reasons. Distancing herself from you is typical. Sounds like she was not ready to get married if you have only been married for a month. It is not a good situation. You should go with your gut instinct that she is cheating. She has telltale signs and your gut instinct is telling you.
2006-08-23 02:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say annul the marriage. If she is like this after one mo nth imagine her after 25 years ort more.
Did you rearlly know her well enough to be married to her?
Maybe you need to cut your losses and move on.
She sounds like a big time player. I can't imagine why anyone who marries and then can't be faitful. Do people forget so quickly what the marriage vows say?
Soundsl ike she will be a life time of trouble if you don't nip this in teh bud now.
You deserve better
2006-08-23 03:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a person lies about things to protect themselves.1) give her the whole leash,let her go 2) if she sweared to God then she is lying they always ask for help when they are lying.3) have you been insecure and jealous acting? go the other way,be unavailable,that always works 4) if you want to save your marriage have a sit down and find out as brutal as it may be what and why she doesnt want to be married...and look at yourself there may be things that you have let go of or did ,that wacked her out.goodluck
2006-08-23 03:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by eternallygrateful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 10:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's cheating. dance lessons are over and counseling is an option but with only a month in and she was probably messing around before the wedding I would say you've already lost her.
2006-08-23 02:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by chattykatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow just one month, personally i do not like lieing, without truth and honesty, you can not build a foundation off that, you will always wonder, never trust her and eventually start resenting her. Kissing is the first step to cheating, if she hasn't already. be careful, do not let your guard down and good luck sincerely...
2006-08-23 03:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by 67camarolvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she felt this way before the wedding she shouldn't have married you.
She has commitment issues, seek an annulment!
2006-08-23 03:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider kissing someone else when I'm married cheating. What do you consider cheating?
2006-08-23 02:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋