I don't understand why you people think that just beacause your husband or wife knows and lets you do it, that it's okay to sleep with others. What is the difference if your cheating behind their back you are still having sex with others.Once a cheater always a cheater is not true if you are happy you should not have to sleep with others. If my husband truely loved me he wouldn't ask that of me or be okay that I did it. Just curious
2006-08-23 02:47:22 · 23 answers · asked by Raineybaby 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no way my husband would ask me this. I would not do it anyway. My husband is way to good to share.Honestly I just wanted how many people did it or thinks it's ok
2006-08-23 03:00:35 · update #1
My husband would never cheat on me because I keep him happy and keeps me happy. Just beacuse I won't let him **** somebody else does not mean he would cheat dumbass
2006-08-23 03:23:47 · update #2
I just keep seeing things about cheating and openess on this ? site so I thought I ask it's not for me. I would do it personally. But what you do is your life to live.
2006-08-23 04:37:47 · update #3
Well it's a matter of opinion. If both people are truly happy and honest with each other, then that is all that matters. Because it is not natural to be monogamous...it is society that tells us that we must be. Many couples have a different way of thinking and if all people involved are happy consenting adults then it's no one Else's concern. I personally do not have an open relationship per say however, I am a female and my hubby knows I am bisexual and is totally supportive and in fact he is my best friend I can talk to him about anything. But it doesn't work for everyone. I happen to be very comfortable in my own skin and with my sexuality.
2006-08-23 02:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by Miss J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would have to say an open marriage would be very tough to deal with. Unless, from the beginning, the two people had and agreement where , the open marriage is purely sexual fun. I guess.
I know a couple that do the Swinging thing, I DON'T, but they are happy as two clams. Pardon the expression and no, they're not Lesbians, ha haha
2006-08-23 04:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by six7foru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got been in an open marriage for variety of 15 years, and characteristic no longer had any issues concerning to it. It comes down on your suggestions-set in the direction of intercourse - if intercourse is, in the two companions view, some thing which could or could be possessed or constrained, then an open marriage can't artwork. Nor will it artwork if intercourse is equated with love. the affection I share with my spouse isn't some thing in accordance with intercourse, yet on comparable emotional, psychological and character characteristics. We only artwork stable at the same time and help one yet another. intercourse is agreeable with one yet another or with others, and however we would locate some bonding with our outdoors pastimes (they're particular), there is not any danger to our elementary courting. there's a severe diploma of have confidence, and little jealousy. this won't greater healthful you. in case you have doubts, then dont do it. while you're curious, try it for a constrained volume of time (over the summer season?) and see if it works - with the flexibility to call a halt at any time. My spouse and that i did that for the duration of opposite - went unique to one yet another for a number of months. It didnt artwork out for us.
2016-11-05 10:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The term "Open Marriage" is an Excuse to Cheat! Normally, a person in this type of situation wants their cake and ice cream. If you are not comfortable with this type of situation, why put up with it. I know it must be easy for us to say this, but think of it..you do not feel comfortable with this type of situation and your significant other does, you need to seriously consider weather you want to continue on in this unhealthy marriage.
By not letting him know how you feel, and in a sense, in denial, you are allowing him to treat you like dirt. You can do better..Don't use the excuse (but i love him so much), just to stay in a relationship. He is not respecting you, nor does he respect or care for your feelings. (That is not love sister, that is abuse) and he is using this (open marriage excuse) as an opportunity to screw females whenever he wants to..
(This might hurt your feelings, but I am going to lay it out to you), he does not love you!
If he (TRUELY) loved you, he would not ask you to do as he is doing. Why doesn't he just divorce you and go single? Does he have alot to lose if you do consider divorcing him..there is something holding him there, but it is not love, you must be doing alot for him at home and when he is out, others are doing him!!
Think about your situation...you are not happy with it..if so, you would not have been on here!
Make a decision!
2006-08-23 04:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Technically, my husband and I have an open marriage. The deal is, if we want to sleep with someone else, we have to get approval from the other.
It's just a statement, because I doubt either one of us would ever agree to it. Although my husband does say he is not the jealous type, and it isn't sex that is important to him, it's my time and attention that he wants. So if us sleeping with someone else detracted from the time and attention we give to one another, it would not be agreed to.
Based on this platform, I doubt either one of us would agree to let the other sleep with someone else. The other thing is - neither of us is looking to sleep with someone else, we love each other. So i think the fact that we say that is more of a statement of how confident we are in the relationship we have. I.e. we don't have to feel threatened or jealous at the concept of another person coming between us, so we don't need to make bold statements forbidding it - so we agree to be open to it in a mutual respect agreement - and something i HIGHLY doubt is ever going to happen.
Sorry that's so long... just our take on it. BTW - if I gave him permission - then it isn't cheating really, because he isn't lying or going behind my back. it isn't betrayal, but it IS NOT being monogamous.
2006-08-23 04:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think open marriage is healthy, my husband cheated on me and we decided to stay together it's just hard because you always have that on your mind, it's still fresh 3 months. I could never go for an open marriage, the thought of him with someone else really does sicken me.
2006-08-23 06:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by tryme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that healthy relationships involve good communication and explicit negotiation of terms between partners. Monogamy is one way to have a marriage, but so is (ethical) non-monogamy.
A polyamorous relationship takes a great deal of work (exponentially more than a diadic relationship) but it's not unhealthy inherently.
And it has nothing to do with how much my husband loves me, or I love him. I love him with my whole heart, but I also love another woman. And I love my daughter. Love multiplies as it divides; it is not finite.
I don't *have* to sleep with other people to be happy. But I don't see why I shouldn't.
2006-08-23 05:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by kalirush 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree totally that outsiders coming into a marriage is wrong. morally as well. I believe that once it is permitted to happen with consent of both people, that in the long run is going to come back and cause very serious damage to the relationship, mainly the trust factor.
2006-08-23 03:57:36 · answer #8 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think an open marriage is healthy at all. In fact the only plus I can give for open relationships is at least they're not married.
2006-08-23 02:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are probably VERY few people who can successfully pull off an open marriage. Once that's taken away, what's left?
2006-08-23 03:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋