I have been dating the same girl for about 4 years now and I really love her but she hates kids..and Seems to never want them. Her views haven't changed in 4 years...I thought maybe in time she would change her mind but she is still the same. I don't know what to do because our relationship is perfect other then that but I can't imagine never having kids...I am 24 and she is 21. in her mind she completely rules them out....and thats the only thing we fight about. What should i do?
2006-08-23 02:35:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You may just have to decide whether or not having just her in your life will be enough. Women like her rarely change. I work with a woman who had herself sterilized at 21 because she hates children so much. She is now 35 and says she has no regrets. These people, in my opinion are self centered. It is up to you if you can deal with someone like that for the rest of your life.
2006-08-23 02:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 7⤋
Decide how much you really want children. It sounds simple, either her and no children or someone else and some children.
If you truly can't imagine not having children than it is probably time to look else where, you will probably not change her mind.
2006-08-23 02:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by sweet smile 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if you want children then you need to end this relationship. Thats the problem with a lot of todays relationships....people trying to change people....she hasn't minced her words...she don't like kids....you can't change that.
2006-08-23 02:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My best friend was the same way until she was about 25. She couldn't fathom the idea of having a child and had negative opinions anytime one of us had a child or got pregnant. Now that she is about 27, she has had her first child almost 2 years ago, and it has completely changed her life.
I never woulda guessed it because she was so selfish and self-centered, but it changed her.
I think eventually your girl may want a baby, but she is too young now anyway.
2006-08-23 02:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by ushouldnoidontplay 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Dont stress it. Your both still very young. Wait to have kids, she has a valid point. Trust me when she gets older she'll want to have em, give her time. Like five to ten years should do it. Dont rush life, try and enjoy it! Peace!
2006-08-23 02:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by sublime7912003 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you're set on kids and she's set against them, you need to break up. It's hard, but this is one of those issues neither of you are likely to bend on.
2006-08-23 02:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At least she is letting you know this upfront, that way you can decide whether you want to marry her or not.
2006-08-23 02:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else. You have to worry about your own happiness.
2006-08-23 02:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋