i am divorced.i know this young man online ,he say he loves me ,we haven't met in real life ,he lives in USA and i live in singapore, maybe i have a good looking,but he is very young,i hope i can love him ,but i don't have the confidence,today he ask me "Do you love me &want me for real?to be married & have a family?"do you think he wants to get married with me? are all men in USA so romantic?
2006-08-23 02:23:51 · 59 answers · asked by annesweetyfl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DONT U SEE DUMB ROMANTIC MOVIES????
2006-08-31 02:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by Waxxxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm living in Singapore, am also a very romantic guy (honenstly, i'm telling you the truth).. i m soft spoken, straight person, love to joke, sensitive at times, love sight seeing, some time i do cry when i'm thinking of my love one that pass away..
Anyway, we may have not chat much, but also had never met in real life too either..
BUT Do you find me romantic?? would you want to marry me and have a family; if i were to propose to you?
Sorry i'm telling you the truth; but if another guy came to you, doing it the same thing; would you think the same thing again, if so, you have to ensure that this time this man wont end up divorcing with you again...
2006-08-26 00:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say but you are way over your head. Common sense is much needed in the predicament that you are in. I learned my lesson to never get involved with guys online. It is scary and online chats or worse possible relationships to be involved. Here are the top 4 reasons of why and what these online users can lie about...
1.) Their identification-who they are as a person can be a total lie. I have done that myself. I have said that I am somebody else. My real name is christina but i have gone by melissa or catrina...just b/c to see what happens and for the most part if i change a few things on my profile then ...bam! They think that they are talking to someone different even though I am the same person.
2.) Hair/eye color:easy to change that ...
3.) Height and weight-same deal.-Can be easily changed.
4.) Age...for all you know this guy could be really young or really old.
5.) Possibility of him being a pyscho serial killer...This day and age there are a lot of sickos out there and you cannot be so easy to trust others or so naive. My advice and for your safety is to seriously meet people out in person. You will be able to know everything at once in seconds-eye and hair color, weight and height, age...and even know their personality from a date once you get to know that person. You can get to know people much easier and better by seeing them face to face rather than online. Online-people can be whoever they want to be and lie about anything and no one would know the truth. The internet is useful but it is also pretty useless too. Hope this helps...me being to you honest and tellling you the truth may hurt you but it is a fact. Good luck and be smart.
2006-08-23 02:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Last year I met a man online that was true to his word and we live together today. But I would not trust a over seas enough to give up everything in your life. Honey the men in the usa are mostly dogs. Not all but most. The normal us man just wants in your pants will tell ya the world get ya and leave to the wolfs.
2006-08-30 13:06:30 · answer #4 · answered by mzbratkid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell. Finding the right man on a website, will not help you find the right man for you. Only you will know that. What you need to do, is Spend time with the man and feel him out. Anyone can tell you he loves you, but only you will know if he is the right man for you. Don't let simple words get the best of your common sense. Think of your future with this man and see what he has to make you a better life. Don't be Fooled by American Words. Good Luck and thanks for asking. Aloha from Hawaii.
2006-08-30 22:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by rechsteiner1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How young? Age doesn't really matter if you're talking about love...I mean let's be realistic tho'...I'm not talking about a 16 yr old and a 30 yr old ok...Online dating is normal...Hey that's how I met my husband =P...Just believe your instinct...First of all, are you trying to marry just to come to USA?...You mentioned you lived in singapore...DO you have family here in USA?...These things you have to think about...Getting married and having family is a hard job...You are going to end up relying on this guy...You have to have awhole lot of trust girl...Btw, how long have you been chatting with this guy?...I suggest you ask him to come take a long trip to Singapore first and see if there's chemistry between you two...Then take it from there...
Well good luck girl...
2006-08-30 12:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by $&$& 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met a 25 year old lady on the net at the end of April this year, we instant messenger live for the next two months listening to each others voices & points of view, I am 46 from Australia, not to mention entirely single. I made a plan to meet up in Manila as she was from a southern Island Mindanao, we met, we spoke of our feelings openly, the pro's & con's of our meeting as marital prospect, with no other mention of marriage for 3 days we just had allot of fun & got to know each other more & sex was not at all a factor as it was not bought up or even tried in any way what so ever. She asked me if SHE was worthy to be my wife? Because she liked me enough to want to be my wife, we got engaged July 1st 2006. She also had already applied for work in Dubai & I was aware of this, she went there 3 weeks ago, I'm going over there for a week because I fell in love too, this might be the biggest decision of your life just now god bless your decion because I am.
2006-08-28 00:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mosez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I'm not saying that the cynics here are wrong, I will tell you that I was where you are a short year ago. I met a man who lived in a foreign country and we talked for a while. We decided to meet in September, so I traveled to his country to meet him and his family. We realized that we got along even better in person than we did online and for the following six months we made concrete plans to be to have a life together. In March he traveled to my country to meet my family and help me pack my things and moved to his country, where I live today. We were married in July, and I couldn't be happier.
So basically, before one of you decides to make any plans of being together, you need to meet and spend a week together to see if you can get along in person as you do online, and then decide from there.
But even under the best of circumtances, your problems won't end there. If you guys decide that you belong together and you move to the US, prepare yourselves for a lot of intrusion and scrutiny into your personal lives. Also, you may have to remain in Singapore indefinitely while the US Immigration make up their minds as to whether your marriage is legitimate or not. I'm having to go through similar problems in my husband's country.
2006-08-30 13:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by enlightenedwell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady your communicating with a young man over the Internet and he says he loves you.
No... He loves to email you and loves your replies.
He could be telling you anything you want. He doesn't have to worry because he is in the USA and your in Singapore.
Love isn't just emailing and talking.
2006-08-23 02:28:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, although I don't know how to help you, I could tell you jokes to help you feel better. The jokes goes:
-Doctor! I have a serious problem, I can never remember what i just said.
-When did you first notice this problem?
-What problem?
One more joke:
A guy calls his vet and says "What should I do with my cat?Vet says "What do you mean? Guy says "I had a leak in my lawnmowers gas tank and the cat drank the gas. Then the cat began to run around and around the yard, climbed a tree. then fell out of the tree stiff. Vet says "Is the cat dead? Guy replies "nope he ran out of gas.
Last of all just want to tell you that whatever you do, just don't give up. Also you must love and care for the people around you. In that way they will also show you the love that you show to them. Just be yourself and happy everyday. Wish you all the best and good luck!!
2006-08-31 00:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he's a liar....men that you meet online are usually liars and crazy. Be careful cause that's crazy for a man to want to marry you and he hasn't spent one day with you. Read between the lines and take it one day at a time. Oh and men in the USA are NOT romantic...they are azzholes
2006-08-30 22:41:40 · answer #11 · answered by sexy_n_chicago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋