you know wedding vows are serious. we have been married 18 years and have 3 daughters. age of girls 19, 14, & 12. to have this continue is not good how do i get him to seek help.
2006-08-23 02:20:43 · 23 answers · asked by Valencia M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow! It's a serious problem. Especially for the kids. U know what's right or wrong but your kids.....hm. They might take him as example. Tough. You have to convince him to accept help. Especially if he loves you all. Remind him of the times he acted right. Remind him that he has 4 girls(including you) that he has to take care. And he'll not be able if he's dead. All of you have to tell him that u love him and that u want all that is good for him, that meaning for him to accept help.
2006-08-23 02:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by marianaadrianaioja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been married for 18 years, you should have stopped him from doing it in the home many many years ago around the kids. if he refuses to get help for this situation he is going to get busted and weather you smoke it or not your kids will be taken away from you and put into foster homes.. The kids should never ever see this happening. kinda makes people two faced to tell there kids they can't do this when they are doing it.. do you really want your kids doing as there father does. tell him to get help in stopping or he has to move out of the house for the sake of the kids.
2006-08-23 09:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get tough. tell him that he has to get help to quit this, or you are leaving. Make sure you have a plan such as a place to go, and then if he doesn't get the help, LEAVE.
I am going through the same thing with my husband, he smokes pot. We have been married 25 years, I kept thinking he would outgrow this (we were 17 & 18 when we got married), but things have not changed.
We both need to put our foot down.
2006-08-23 09:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by tweetymay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he has to quit or you are leaving. Then do it. You should not let your kids be exposed to this kind of behaviour. If he seeks help, wait awhile before going back to see if it sticks. You don't need to file for divorce until you see if he is going to put you and the kids before the drug.
Good luck.
2006-08-23 09:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by slimsmom@sbcglobal.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the fool. If he's that stupid, to risk his family's welfare and security, you don't want him around anyway. Wedding vows are serious, but the Bible says don't be unequally yoked, too. He'll probably be bringing some unsavory characters around if he's into that, and you don't want some perv mollesting your kids, do you???
2006-08-23 09:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by Andrew B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him. Explain him that his a very bad example for your kids. Furthermore, inform him that what he's doing is very bad for his health. If he ignores what you're saying to him, I think the divorce is the best solution. However, if you are still in love him, or do not want to do this, you're not obligated to. As for your kids, you'd better talk to them about the disadvantages of doing drugs. If they don't about their father's habit, tell it to them. It is much better to hear it from you than somebody else.
2006-08-23 09:28:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is so addictive that he can not stop without being locked away from it. Get that man to rehab.
and when he gets out his addict friends will be all over him trying to bring him back to the dark side.
Leaving him to battle this alone will only result in self deprecation.
2006-08-23 09:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can only be helped IF he wants help. If not have u acctually measured which is more important: wedding vows or family happiness?
2006-08-23 09:29:18 · answer #8 · answered by Bojana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he lights up call the police!
That should help everyone in this situation!
He doesn't have the right to have a family when he does that kind of drug!
2006-08-23 10:15:29 · answer #9 · answered by lostintheclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that the kids shouldnt be exposed to this kind of environment...
that you suggest that he seeks help for this addiction...due to he loves you and the kids...
if not...that you might consider leaving due to your girls are more important...and you want a better life for them...then to let them see there dad being a drug addicted loser!
2006-08-23 09:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Sugar_Plumzz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋