Why am i scared of being myself? Is there something wrong with me?

Question

I act different around different people

Answer 1

You are trying to be what you perceive other people would like to see. But if you aren't being yourself then people aren't going to know the real you. I think that you are afraid of the rejection of other people. You are afraid that people won't like YOU. The real you. It's OK nothing is wrong with you. 85% of people do the same thing. You are just adapting to different people. But try to be yourself. Let people get to know you. It could be real exhausting trying to be different all of the time. Sometime you just have to say screw it. I don't care if people like me or not. For every one person that doesn't like me there are two that do like the real me. Good luck you seem like a nice person. The real you.

Answer 2

WHen I was in High School I must have changed who I was at least a dozen times. Its a good way to find out who you really are. You have to experiment with different personas and different groups to see where you both fit in and enjoy yourself the most.

As I've grown older, I'm 27 now, I find that I prefer to be myself most of the time, regardless of what others think. "F**k 'em" I say. But you know where that can get you sometimes? People in this world expect you to behave in a certain way in certain places or in certain roles. You've gotta play by their rules if you want to be successful. So wearing different hats in life is inevitable.

Its only when you can meet that special someone who you can truly be yourself with that you will be happy. That's why you shouldn't put up a front when meeting someone, because eventually you'll start to be yourself, and if they don't like the real you, it's over.

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with you. To a certain extent, it's normal to slightly adjust your behavior depending on where you are and who you're with. I think that the most common reason that people dramatically adjust who they appear to be in the presence of others is simple insecurity. When you are around a group of people that you aren't entirely comfortable with, it is common to feel like you are being judged. If you let them judge the person that you really are, and they judge harshly, it would be considerably more painful than if they simply didnt care for a mask that you were wearing. What you need to do is develop more confidence in who you really are as a person. If you come to know that you are a great person with a lot to offer, you won't be so insecure about what people might think. Besides which, if you end up surrounding yourself with the same people repeatedly, bits of you will come slipping out eventually wether you want them to or not. You might as well just be who you are up front and if they dont just dig you for you, go ahead and move on to a different group of folks with whom you have more in common. I know you'll find your niche!

Answer 4

I don't think that there is anything wrong with you. As much as we would all like to think that we are strong individuals who will always be ourselves in any situation, reality just isn't like that. Different situations and different groups of people sometimes require us to only show certain parts of ourselves or our personalities. For example, you may be different around your partner's friends, to around your friends. There may be a work you and a home you, etc.

I'm very much like this, However, I do feel that it is really important that you do have some people in your life that you can be totally yourself around. It took a while, but I now have a group of wonderful friends that I can always be completely myself (for better or worse) when I'm with them.

Answer 5

Lots of good advice in answers so far. As you have found, realising it is not the same as stopping the habit. But it CAN be changed. It's not something wrong with you - that would be subjecting yourself to others' judgements again - but it may be something you would like to alter for your own reasons. Go deep into yourself, repeatedly if necessary, and work out what you are doing and why - true knowledge of a situation usually suggests its own answers.

Answer 6

I used to be like you. Always shy and retiring, scared of what people thought of me. Then shall we say I grew out of feeling on my own, my insecurities went. Because thats all it boils down too, is your self-esteem and confidence. Change your hair-do,clothing things to make you feel better about yourself. Take up a hobby where you can meet friends+people who will understand u a bit more and will praise you for the YOU. Change your so-called friends who possibly intimidate u, etc. Obviously there is an underlying problem here, until you can pin-point that,that is when you can do something about it. Take care x

Answer 7

Its normal to want to be liked by people, which is why we do pretend we're different. It's hard sometimes to be yourself because you're afraid your friends won't like the 'real' you. It's often hard to overcome. You need to stop and realize when this is happening, then change it. In order to be yourself you need to love yourself. This can be difficult, it was for me. But I know that I'd rather be hated for who I am than be loved for who I'm not. Once you realize you're not being yourself take a minute and run it through your mind. Figure out why and what you're changing, then change it and become yourself again. It takes time and can be a scary transition, but you can do it.

Answer 8

Absolutely nothing wrong with you, I think all of us act differently round people, some people make you feel happy and confident, some people make you feel low and miserable, some people make you feel like your a nobody, the best thing to do is be yourself and if people don't like what they see in you, not your problem.

Answer 9

To a certain extent, I think everyone does. Mannerisms, talking, conversing etc. seem to shift from person to person. For example, I have a Scottish friend who speaks a perfect southern accent around me, and reverts to a deep scottish one when with his family. It's called fitting in and wanting to be accepted. It may mean the others have the dominant role in the relationship though, but they may have changed slightly as well and you've arrived at an equilibrium. I wouldn't worry about it.

Answer 10

No, there's nothing wrong w/u. It's the way some ppl react in society because they're afraid of not being liked by the other party and the security they feel when around ppl. Ppl are afraid 2 lose that security and stand by themselves.There's nothing wrong w/being yourself, being who u truly are is one of the most wonderful things u can do. It doesn't matter if they like you or not, what's important is that u like yourself.