I have always gotten along with my inlaws but lately they seem to pick everything we do apart. I should say he (fatherinlaw) can dish things out but when you give it back its wrong. then my mother in law says one thing to us runs back tells him another then comes back and says something different to us again. I am very frustrated with this and we are ready to just tell them to leave us alone. Does anyone else have any issues like this with thier inlaws if so i would really like some advice.
2006-08-23 02:02:54 · 19 answers · asked by spoiledrotten 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
omg, yes! you need to visit www.motherinlawstories.com
it's let me get a lot of my frustrations out. good luck girl
2006-08-23 02:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by mamabird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My inlaws like to spend the night at our apartment all the time. Like every 3 or 4 weeks. It doesn't matter if we have plans or the fact that we are newlyweds either. They even came over here one week after we came home from our honeymoon, I had just moved in here and we both had the flu! It doesn't matter that we have asked them to stop cause it keeps on happening. SO inconsiderate. Some people are just so selfish
2006-08-23 09:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not since my divorce!
Seriously, can't you just talk about the weather? If you tell them to leave you alone, sooner or later your husband will resent it and that will cause problems between the two of you. Try just smiling and keeping your mouth shut. Then rant to a girlfriend. It is never a good idea to say anything bad about the in laws to their child, even if they start it or agree.
2006-08-23 09:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by Deb 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In laws can cause a lot of problems in your marriage if you let them. Just make sure you and your husband discuss things with each other. Your father-in-law sounds like a control freak, picking apart everything you do. Your mother-in-law sounds like a meddling, backstabbing old bat. Don't let them win by letting them cause trouble for you and your husband.
2006-08-29 04:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was married twice and had great in laws both times. i loved them like they were my own. the first set was so great that they sit me down and told me that even if i divorced their son, that i was still their daughter.
i live with a man who has the mother from hell. i wasnt expecting her to be such a witch. she has done everything that she could think of to split us up. i have never did anything to her other than love her son. she was so bad that she expected his brother to take her on his honeymoon when he married 5 years ago. and she is better to the brother than she is to mine. she has lied about me to most of the family thinking that i would never meet them. she has tried to make him feel guilty so that he would leave me and move back in with her because she didnt want to be alone. she keeps saying that she is sick. i wish that i could be that sick. she has animals that she treats like her kids and expects to take them everywhere she goes and wants them to come into the house with her. we have dogs. i finally told her not to bring her dogs inside my house again so she ran and told my man that i told her never to come back.
we have been together for 9 years now and he knows how she is and we do avoid her most of the time. we dont go over to her house for holidays. we dont visit. the only time we see her is when she wants something.
2006-08-27 13:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think almost everyone has problems with there in laws!! lol!!!! Move farther away.... thats the only thing i have ever seen work... when they are not in your daily life its harder for them to pick everything you do apart.... then when you visit there just happy to see you... and will pick you apart behind your back where its supposed to be... lol good luck!
2006-08-23 09:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by Roxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are now in the majority,put some distance between the in-laws and limit the discussion to nonconfrontational subjects.some in-laws try to hold strings so don't live in,borrow money or ask for favors.prove your own family's independance and the relationship should result in adult to adult not parent to child.
2006-08-23 09:17:48 · answer #7 · answered by desayunogratis 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
most people do have problems with there inlaws. tell them you guys are adults and you wanted there opinions you would have asked for it
2006-08-23 09:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by gingersnappz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married the baby and his mother couldn't part with that until I firmly but sweetly told her I was his wife and although we loved her, it was our life and we had to live it our way.
2006-08-23 09:11:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its just one of the joys of marriage. You have to take on this other mental family!
2006-08-27 15:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋