but he got addicted to drugs. he never told me abt zat. nw he tld me to leave him bkoz he doesn't want me suffer bkoz of him and this will affect my future, my family etc. we both can't stay wizout each other.
please tell me wat should i do?? should i accept him like he is even my family wnt agree or should i leave him and continue my life
2006-08-23 01:59:45 · 25 answers · asked by angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems like the right thing to do to make a compromise, but, the real question is, are you ready to handle the situation? could you deal with the everyday pains. being with someone who is addicted to drugs isn't easy, it's very frustrating. so, ask yourself if you are mature enough to cope with the problem. the best thing, though, would be if your boyfriend decided to give up on drugs. that would be a perfect situation. but, in the end, do what you feel is right. i would advise you to move on, cause it makes more sense. it's your call in the end.
2006-08-23 02:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youngsters have a tendency to believe "love conquers all". It will take a few years to be mature enough to understand that while this may be the case, there has to be mutual love and respect for this to be true. Right now, he loves you, but he loves the addiction more. While this is the case, there can be no truly happy future for both of you together.
My advice is to cut off the relationship and hope he comes to understand that while the drugs rule his life, he cannot find true happiness with anyone, especially you. Hope that he comes to his senses and leaves the vile things in his past and make a life without them.
It won't be easy to break up with him, but this is too important an issue in your life to continue with him while he is an addict. Believe me when I say that even though you may think you love him, that will fly out the window when the time comes that he chooses a fix over food on the table, rent being paid and being able to be there for you when you need him to be.
Good luck
2006-08-23 09:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by slimsmom@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ya
Depending on how old you are!
If you love him don't leave you don't have to get married and have kids to show someone you love them
2 Years is quite a long time you two would already been though allot together and although he is telling you your best off without him, you won't be and he definitely won't be!!
Put the Kids / marriage on hold and sort things out...
If your partner wants to get help and get clean so you two can get married and have a happy marriage and bring healthy children up then you can be there for him
But be aware it won;t be easy trying to get him to am-it to giving up, the reason he would have been saying to leave him is the addiction, he would be feeling down and useless
Doctors are the best people to spk to abt these things
Hope it helps
2006-08-23 09:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by rachael s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to get married, then you have to have trust in eachother, stay engaged for now let him prove he is serious about the future with you. Just because he is an addict it doesn't make him a bad person, he needs love and support, but most of all he needs to get help not just for you he needs to want to get help for himself. The best thing you can do is follow your heart and head. If your family do not agree and you know he is the one for you, actions speak louder than words. Get him help then get married and have the kids and then your family will say. I'm sorry I was wrong. Everything will be ok as long as you are true to eachother and if he lies again. You have to do what's right for you, you cannot be with someone who lies to you.
Good Luck Chick
All the Best
2006-08-23 09:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you accept him for what he really is then you will be living with an addict for the rest of your life ( or at least until your divorce). I attend a weekly support group for the families of addicts ('cause I have an addict in my family too) & believe me, living with an addict is pure hell, & every one of the people in my group would tell you it is not a life that you want to volunteer for. I suggest to you that leaving him would be far easier than sticking it out, but that is something only you can decide.
2006-08-23 09:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you can write correctly, that is without "wiz", "bkoz" or "wizout", I wouldn't recommend you are allowed to use sharp scissors never mind marry!
2006-08-23 09:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by e404pnf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not in your family(if they wi;; agree or not), but it is in him, i do not think that you should relate your self with such a weak guy, the first thing he thought about is to leave you for you not to suffer, if he loves you that much why don't he think about leaving drugs, lrave him while you stilllove him better than leaving him and you hate him or lost your life.
2006-08-23 09:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by wispercall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has an addiction and he can`t cope with it, this means you will always have problems. If he can`t control himself and put the logic before acting,what makes you think this love would be forever.
2006-08-23 09:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must get away from him.
A drug addict can only be helped if he seeks help for himself.
Get on with you life,you might find to each other again when he is well again !
2006-08-23 09:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He chose the substance over U. Leave him. Choose your freedom over him. Dont worry, he will call you in the future. He will call you to ask for money or bail. Gone, and change contact info.
2006-08-23 09:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by James S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋