He has to pay 34,000 on child support but i dont want him to go t o jail or anything happend to him, he is a good Father and helps theme out. Where we can go to resolved this matter.Can i go to court and say i dont want child support? I need advice. THanks
2006-08-23 01:55:24 · 13 answers · asked by latina19672001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, you can go to court and say you don't want child support, but remember if you if you do that -and the judge grants it- you can't change your mind later (or, at the very least it will be so hard to reverse the decision, it might as well be impossible). As in NO CHILD SUPPORT FROM HIM-EVER. I'm hoping that you (and your children) are well off enough not to need the money, and have a nice next egg in case of emergencies because in some cases, the court can mandate you receive child support if the judge feels the children cannot adequately be taking care of on your income alone.
I do have a couple of questions though.
1) Does he have to pay that amount because he is behind on child support, or for some other reason?
2) Why is it that you don't want him to pay any child support?
Usually the total amount is not due all at once and even if he owes from previous times a payment plan can be an option.
Anyway, my best advice is to be sure that this is what you want, that 10 years down the road, should circumstances change, you won't have to wish you'd made another choice. This isn't just your future we're talking about, it's your children's as well.
2006-08-23 02:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad thing is that you believe he is helping the kids out.
Child support is for the child not you.
The child is going to be an adult one day and might want to go to college. HMMMM Who is going to pay for it?
It is very selfish on your part to not take the child support, you need to think about your child. There is a reason that the court awarded it, if you were a millionaire then they wouldn't have. Obviously you are not able to aford the kids on your own. SO you would rather have your kids suffer than have that man grow up and take care of the children that he helped create.
You need to come to the realization that he is NOT a good father when he does not give the money he should.
VERY SELFISH OF YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-23 02:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 00:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the divorce agreement, child support should be calculated by your incomes. If you ex doesn't make enough then the calculations were wrong. The other issue could be as to where he is to send his payments. If he is supposed to send them to you and you chose not to press charges when you don't receive them then who would know but if he is instructed to send them to child support then you will have a problem. I would contact the lawyer you used to see what should be done.
2006-08-23 02:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would he be going if you didnt pursue it? More then likley the state is taking over the case and your might be able to ask them if you can basically let him off the hook. But if you where on medicade they might want some of that to reinverse the expences for the medical coverage and they are entitled to that. But I would just make sure. Call a lawyer and just ask advise.
2006-08-23 01:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by bobsdidi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe yo can go to the court and say to the judge he is a good father, you can declined child support because he was close his kids when they needed him. My guess is you can get it.
Disculpa mi ingles yo hablo español. Tengo 10 años mas que tu y vivo en Seattle, Wa.
2006-08-24 12:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by ZEPELIN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know in canada where i am,when the court rules the amount a father must pay per month,its enforced by the family maintenance,they'll garnish your paycheck,hold your tax returns,even take away your drivers license if your missing 2 many payments,,maybe you could work away 2 show he's paying the full amount just to keep them happy,even though your only getting the amount you want
2006-08-23 02:04:42 · answer #7 · answered by steve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you are. But in the state of California, child support is required by law and has nothing to do with whether you want it. And he should be supporting his children!
2006-08-23 01:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you would have that money in an account for your children they will have even more chances for success later in life. Their options will be wider open. Isn't what THEY deserve? It's not about what YOU want.
2006-08-23 02:33:35 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he can't be all that good if has fail to pay child support....you are stupid if you let him slide with this.....if the situation was the other way ..he would not hesitate to take you to court....come down to reality
2006-08-23 02:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋