You're married to a man for a few months. Then you accidentally found out from his emails that he had an affair with another woman for a year. Months before you two got married, he ended his realtionship with that woman and later decided to marry you. Should you never read his emails, you'll never know abt all of this.
What would you do?
2006-08-23 01:44:27 · 12 answers · asked by adlex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-08-23 01:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reassure her she has nothing to worry about. Take her by the hand and lead her to the computer. Go to your email while she watches and delete all the past messages from the former gf. Tell her, from then on, she may look at your email anytime she wants and you will do the same with hers. Unless she is retarded, she will get the message, and you will both have a totally open and honest relationship. If there is nothing going on, there should be no problem doing this.
If she doesn't want to give you access to hers, then she sounds controlling and you need to get that squared away right off the bat.
BTW, one doesn't "accidentally" get into another person's email. Perhaps this is something you need to question more?
Good luck
2006-08-23 09:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by slimsmom@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be so pissed off if I found out my husband had done that. Yea you should never read his emails but that is not the point at all the fact that you cheated on her when you were dating for that long is the bigger issue. Drop the email part out of it now if you think you can stay with her. That was very deceving and mean of you to do that to a person.
2006-08-23 08:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go looking for trouble you will find it. As already stated, you don't accidentally get someone's emails. Before accusing him, ask yourself why don't you trust him? You say the relationship is over, so is he cheating or do you have trust issues? Either can destroy your marriage. If you want to stay married, find counseling. If you don't want to stay married, then keep on doing what you're doing...not trusting him and spying on him, if he ain't cheating now, he'll soon tire of your accusations and spying and go elsewhere looking for an end to the drama.
Can't you just be happy he chose you?
2006-08-23 09:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very upset. I would let him know I read them and ask him about it. As long as he hasn't cheated while you were married. He'll probably turn it all around and make it about you reading his emails and not trusting him. I would be concerned about why he still has these emails, or if he's still talking to her and they're recent. Good Luck! Give him a chance if he's basically a good guy.
2006-08-23 08:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well there should not be any secrets in a relationship especially when u are married
if it happened before marriage its not ok because u still cheated
and no u should not break up its a new page now and its in the past but yeah i would check his emails because he betrayed once who says he wont do it again
2006-08-23 09:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whats that saying ignorance is bliss i would prefer never to know but ...why would you keep said emails if you weren't harbouring some residual feelings for you're ex fling.....get rid of the emails they will eventually pop up and bite you in the ***
2006-08-23 08:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by angelina_mcardle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a snake, always a snake and I wouldn't be reading his e-mails unless I was really thinking something was up.
2006-08-23 09:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch a movie called khabi alivida naa khena its all about what your talking about its indian and sha rukh khan comes in it
2006-08-23 08:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when it comes to love there isnt much you can do about it but if he cheated on u once how do you know if he will do it again
2006-08-23 08:58:01 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgirl21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to read them. It would really hurt tho, he was with me when he was with her. Its all a lie. That is not good.
2006-08-23 08:55:04 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋