She told her husband that my husband is good looking?

Question

My husband good friend/co-worker has a wife who has cheated on him. Everytime we have been around them she makes it a point to be flirty and stand close to my husband. She told her husband the other day that she thinks my husband is good looking, he didn't seem to mind. We have a birthday party this weekend for our son and I have invited them,because they have a daughter the same age. What should I look for and what should I say to her if she flirts with him again? I trust and love my husband greatly, I just don't want her to think she is all that and that she has anything on me. My husband although he probably enjoys the attention, but thinks she is acting stupid.....Your opinion please?

Answer 1

I say let her have her fun, but only so far...you know what I mean :) I would act as if you had no worries...be proud he's yours and your his! Show this "chic" just how much in love you guys are...and that she has know chance with your hubby. Good Luck!

Answer 2

I point out good looking guys to my husband all the time, he points out good looking women to me all the time, it doesn't matter, we are together because we want to be & because we love each other, we're not blind.

The fact this woman told her husband shows she has no hidden agenda, if she was after your husband she would not have told hers.
When she next flirts with him and she will, she is a flirt (I said flirt not ho) join in the conversation by agreeing "yes he does have lovely eyes" or "yes he does have manly shoulders doesn't he, I love the way they get all muscly when he carries me to the bedroom".
Your husband isn't taking it seriously, he's enjoying the attention, we all would, don't make such a silly thing become an issue treat her like the joke she is

Answer 3

You are seeing red flags for a good reason. If she has cheated on her husband in the past, chances are... she'll do it again. There's a line that we do not cross and flirting with another woman's man is crossing it. Be right up front and honest with her that you don't put up with that type of behavior because it is disrespectful to you. If she continues to flirt, exclude her from anymore activities and let your husband know that he has to put a stop to it because his words would have more impact on her than yours. You have every right to protect what's yours and demand respect from other women when it comes to your family. I wish you the best.

Answer 4

Well...If you trust your husband then you have only few thingz to do...If you want to get your husband's attention on you then say some sweet stuffs to him before she say something to him...But dont say anything to her infront of your husband if she flirt coz that would turn thingz worst and other way around...

But i must say here that gents react very fast and arouse very fast so better you avoid them next time...It is a global fact but never start to fight with your husband unless you see something on your own if you doubt him...

Answer 5

We all like to be put on a pedestal, and that is what the friend's wife is doing. You can do the same with your husband. With that said, you need to talk with your husband, not the flirty wife. Let him know what you will do to him if you catch him with her, in big bold plain english.

Answer 6

I would talk to this woman's husband yourself. Nicely of course, but tell him that it makes you uncomfortable when she behaves like that with your husband and you don't want to cause a scene but you want him to be aware of it.

This may or may not prick his male pride and make him at least pay more attention to the way his wife is behaving.

Also, YOUR husband needs to sort of discreetly disengage himself from this woman when she is hanging on him. He should quietly move away so as not to call her out or anything.

When she talks to your husband, he needs to be polite but distant. He needs to answer questions in as few words as possible and make sure he stays out of 'personal' range.

After a while, she should get the hint. If not, you need to directly confront her and try to talk to her about how the situation makes you feel. Be aware that she will probably be indignant and angry but if it's bothering you, you need to address it.

Answer 7

Start getting flirty and chummy with her husband and see what happens. If she doesn't mind and you're still mad, get a mud pit and get your frustrations out by mud wrestling each other. I actually know 40 year old women who did this.

Answer 8

I think you are little insecure...If this is a good comment I think your husband and you should accept it...Saying good doesn't mean that she is in love with your husband...But if you feel little insecure try to react it in-front of her in a good way(please don't over react or show that you r jealous)..Like if she say in front of your husband that he is handsome and try to catch the attraction. Say that yes and his son is also like him...And see to it you clear everything with you husband too ...Let him also know that what you feel... so that next time he will be with you to handle her comments

Answer 9

you should break ties with that couple. even tho you trust your husband you don't want to have to look over your shoulder every time that woman is around. if she will cheat on her husband she will surely cheat with your husband. she has the morals of an alley cat...what part of her character do you really like? life is too short to have to worry about that sort of thing. surround yourself with people like yourself

Answer 10

Just watch her. She will probably be all clingy to your husband and flirtatious. Don't say anything unless she gets too bold. Leave it to your husband to put her in her place. If he doesn't, then have at her!!!! Good luck.