im pregnant at 15 and i dont know what to do. we have been together for 3 years, but doesn't change how i feel

Answer 1

I was in your position at 15. I went on to have my daughter, and im not going to lie to you; it was hard work. I missed out on going out with my friends, going to university with them, all the things a teenager should do. But, i love my daughter more than anything in the world, and i wouldnt be without her. Unfortunately, the relationship with her father didnt work out, and this is a real possibility for you, but if you want this baby then you will find a way to make it work. When my daughter went to school i went back to education, and i worked really hard to get all my qualifications. It isnt the end of the world.

Just make sure you have a strong family support network, and feel free to email me if you want some advice,

Love D x

Answer 2

why are people so angry and hurtful all the time go pick on someone else for a change Im sure your lives are not perfect. Ok so pregnant at 15 isnt a great idea but its happened and the girl is asking for support if you cant give that then you should not be answering the question. Hunny I feel for you I really do although it seems like your world is falling around you, this is not the end of the world. Talk to someone you can trust, please dont try and take this on alone. When i fell pregnant i was 19 nearly 20 and i was terrified of telling my parents I hadnt been with the guy that long (i am still with him 3 years on) and they had only just met him, I felt so bad, surethey will be upset to start with but they are your parents and im sure they will be a lot different than what you think they will be. This as you know its a huge decision and one that you really cant make without the support of those who love you. Get your b/f and your parents in the same room and talk about it. How your going to bring it up... if you want to keep it etc etc whatever happens make sure it is your decision dont let people bully you into getting rid if you dont want to or keeping it if you dont want to etc at the end of the day its for you and your b/f to decide. No matter how young you are its your final decision, only you know if you are capable of doing this. I wish you all the luck in the world sweetie take care and good luck xxxx

Answer 3

Wel first ly to all you so judgemental people here give the girl a break its easy to sneer after the thing is done but thats not going to help anyone but yourselves.

Anyway , I agree with the others in part firstly you need to find a person /adult you can confide in.You do have several options, many depend on your religious beliefs and how you might feel in the future.
This is a difficult situation even for a woman 30+ if she actually didnt want to be pregnant.
As for your child having social problems and stuff, im not a professional but I am educated in other fields.
There is always room to change the norm and you could look at it both ways having a child grow up in care imay well have problems that last forever at the rejection it may have felt , but you may be young and things may feel bad but there is a way round everything .
Even if your relationship doesnt last you can still raise a child there are many options.If you dont feel able to break the news to your parent or guardian yet try your local family gp practise they may be able ot give you support until you have the courage to tell.
what ever you do........Don't do as a girl i knew and called her mam in labour!!! its way too much for all to deal with then.
Your parents may be annoyed and exasperated at first but theyll get over it and so will you..You r not the first and I doubt very much youll be the last.
Firstly you need to get some support on board.Im not sure where you are but here in the UK there are teen pregnancy clinics and help centres to help talk through your options and even help you with you r parents.
Ultimately only you can decide but the earlier you do it the sooner the dust will settle then you can go on and enjoy this experience although your very young your human and youll love your baby.Despite what others are saying here your life doesnt stop when you have children its a shock at any age but once they grow up a little there is a time for you to begin to flourish and develop your life theres pplenty of time there .This is but a moment in time and youll manage..but please get some help from someone , oh and you didnt mention if you have spoken to your partner yet...?
Try to recruit all the support you can,and go to yours docs..sorry to waffle on here i really feel for you I wish i could be of more help .let us know how you get on.Best of luck whatever you decide...

Answer 4

I really don't think the comments about going on benefits and sponging off the stare are helpful, nor the comments about having sex at 14/15. I;m not condoning underage sex and I think it is wrong but the fact is that it has happened and resulted in this girl getting pregnant.

The first thing you need to do is get help be it a teacher, Mum, Aunty etc. Then you need to sit down with your boyfriend and think and talk long and hard.

At the end of the day follow your heart but also think seriously about the future, how will you continue your education, support the baby etc.

I will be thinking of you and I wish you all the best.

Answer 5

To the ones who answered this question negatively, yes, including you SusieQ, its not too bad! I had a baby at 16, and i am very responsible, her dad did stay around to change nappies ect, and he now has her every weekend! I carried on with my education - studied law and IT! I now work full time and starting a degree in teaching in September! I see my friends all the time, have a new boyfriend and everyone is supportive! I wouldnt change my life for the world! Dont listen to these mindless people who can only judge u because they have no experience of this and basically havent got a clue! your life will become what u make of it, what u want u can have if you try ur hardest to achieve it! It will get hard at times but you will pull through if you believe in urself! you will be judged, but thats society so u just have to ignore these idiots who have nothing better to do than judge before understanding, their moron's! Hope it all works out for you!

Answer 6

You are very young and you must know it is very difficult to raise a child and expensive. I suggest that you and someone that you can confide in should talk to your boyfriend and his parents.

One thing that I've realized is that even though I'm married the father of the baby doesn't always understand the implications of raising a child, may it be financial or emotional. I feel for you so deeply!!!

Just remember that having a child is a blessing and you should thank God profusely for it. If you are uncertain about the baby may it be raising it or keeping it , I suggest you should enroll on the baby website : www.americanbaby.com or www.babycenter.com

This will take you through all the weekly fetal developments and after birth all the growing milestones.

Good luck and remember you shouldn't do it alone.

Answer 7

That's true, but your childhood and teen years basically are over, and the odds that you and he will make it for the long run are pretty low, and the chances of social problems with your kid are very high. How irresponsible of you, I hope you are happy. Do you really think a teen boy is going to sit aroound watching you change diapers? Not in this world honey. I hope you have loving and supportive parents because your child will need some responsible adults in his life, and in reality, you are not that person.
And "how you feel" really doesn't matter because this is reality now not a fantasy. You will be that girl who had a kid. What about your education? What about his? In short this is too big of a situation for you to face alone. Sit your parents down and get the worst over with, and mourn then for the life you could have had.

Answer 8

You really need to talk to someone. Don't do anything drastic, having a baby at 15 is not great but it's not the end of the world either. You are old enough to make your own mind up and if you can talk with your family Im sure you will be ok.

Answer 9

investigate all ur options, this is ur life, and u need 2 decide if u r ready 2 be a mum, it's not a five minute job it's forever, u have a multitute of options for u to consider, u do not have 2 continue with the pregnacy, theres adoption, if u do decide to have the baby, or u can keep the baby, and be the best mum u can be, u are very young to be totally responsible for another person, just make sure what ever u decide it is ur decision as u have to deal with the consequences

Answer 10

listen this is part of life and you should never feel bad about any situation ok not the best move but you can adapt to it my mum was fifteen when she had me i now am a healthy 21 year old the only sad thing is that she had to hide the pregnancy till the day before she give birth listen whats the worst that can happen your parents cant tell you off its your decision if you want this child yes they are a lot of hard work but worth every moment listen to your heart keep it real