2006-08-23 01:20:33 · 22 answers · asked by Sexy Boy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is not enough information in the question to allow an informed answer. While initially this situation seems wrong, there could be many mitigating factors.
It might be argued that one cannot simply and instantly "stop loving" another. However, if one is working to put unchristian thoughts out of mind, than one is doing the right thing. If one is working to avoid interactions with his extra-marital "love", than one is working rightly. If one is working at strengthening his marriage, than one is doing right.
Also, no detail is provided about what kind of love is being discussed. Perhaps the married man and his wife have produced a baby girl; it is certainly "right" for the man to love this "other girl". Perhaps this question is describing the affection the married man feels for the loyalty of his female pet. Or the man may be considering the bible account at 2 Kings 5:2,3 and feelings of brotherly love well up for the bold Israelite girl who was instrumental in Elisha's miracle toward Naaman.
Even romantic love for an "other girl" cannot be condemned without more information. Perhaps the man, after marrying, has survived the death of his wife. There seems to be no grounds to argue that the widower cannot at some future point begin to "love another girl".
(James 1:19) Know this, my beloved brothers. Every man must be swift about hearing, slow about speaking
2006-08-23 03:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well seeing how I am in a simular situation I can't tell you that your wrong in doing so. I have been talking to this married man for some time now. We both know that he is not going to leave his wife because he does love her too, but we have such a good connection that we admittingly do love each other as well. He tells me that it is nice to have a second person to go to for help and advise (and sex, but that is besides the point). We really love each other but there is just that understanding that nothing more will happen... DON'T LISTEN TO THE OTHER IDIOTS ON HERE. DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY, AND FOLLOW YOUR HEART!
2006-08-23 02:03:23 · answer #2 · answered by kssunflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got married to fast and was not ready for true commitment. You took vows that are meant to be forever til death.The best advice I can give you is for you to focus on your wife and forget this girl. But I don't know the whole story between the two of you. So weigh the good and the bad. But give your marriage a chance. You get what you put into it.
2006-08-23 01:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know it's wrong or it wouldn't be a question. Get your crap together and either get a divorce or drop the gf. A good move would be to get away from both women for a clean start. Fall in love one at a time. Not at the same time.
2006-08-23 01:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by ticklefoot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The atrocity of your grammar and spelling is mindboggling. To answer your question(!), yes, it is very wrong. And, by the way, the next time you enter a question you may want to look above the block in which you are typing. There are these two words in blue that say "Check Spelling".
2006-08-23 01:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by taff's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your wife what she thinks! It's up to her to tell you right and wrong here. After that it's up to you to be either right or wrong, i.e. keep loving the other but staying married to your wife or get a divorce and marry the other woman, or she doesn't mind and you can all three be happy somehow, some way!
2006-08-23 01:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by groovusy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
MMM,girl???I thought you where gay??Your last question stated you where in love with a married man.Maybe you are bi.No matter what your sexual prefrence,you should wait awhile after divorce before getting involved again.Or it will become a rebound relationship and they are very heartbreaking also.Good luck God bless:O)
2006-08-23 01:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this is very wrong. if you did not love your wife enough to marry then you should not of married her. also you write like a little boy. your spelling is awful. when you marry, you are suppose to marry for love. remember you are the one asking her to marry you.
2006-08-23 01:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man can love more than one woman at the same time .
2006-08-23 01:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by rabb b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is wrong. You need to get out of the marriage now if that is the way you feel. It will only bring you heart ache and misery.
2006-08-23 01:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by iamlsu 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋