could he be cheating?

Question

my husband called me from work one day then a few minutes after we got off the phone he called me back and asked if I called cause the secretary said some woman called asking for him.I said no then he immediately said it must have been a woman that is from a different company.
He has been leaving work early and coming home about an hour later than usual.He is more into his looks than he has ever been. Talks about working out. Leaves the house at night to go to the store even though I tell him I don't want anything.Has a sudden interest in things he wasnt interested in before. Could he be cheating?If so how should I approach him on this

He doesn't have a cell phone and I have tried get records of phone calls that have been made at home but I can't get anything cause we have unlimited minutes so the phone company doesnt have any calls on record.

Answer 1

Yes, honesty is usually best, if he is cheating, he may not admit it. Surprise him by showing up unexpectedly at his job, if it's possible to do so, at his normal time to leave and invite him out to dinner, and see what he says!

As far as the interest in new things goes, that's good in a way because there may be some things you may discover that would be fun for you both together. Things can get kind of boring for you both over the years if every day feels the same. Also good if a guy takes care of himself, working out and all, there are many who do not.

There's also nothing wrong with you finding things you enjoy too. Like hanging with girlfriends, taking an evening class, etc. Sometimes a marriage just needs a change. And why should you be the one sitting around waiting for him to get home?

As for cheating, I wouldn't be accusatory in any way right now. Give him a chance first to tell you what he's been doing after work.

Hope this helps :)

Answer 2

Sounds like trouble to me. Don't know that I'd ask him outright, yet, though. If he's heading out to the store at night, jump up and go with him. Start meeting him for lunchtime, unexpectedly. If he wants to start working out, suggest a home gym or find a place you can both be members and even though you might not really be interested, tell him you want to do it together. If he rejects any of these, start keeping a better eye on your finances.

Meeting him or showing up at the office when he's about to get off work (make up a reason- dinner, shopping or the like) and without him knowing just when or where you'll be, will make him think twice about risky behavior. Try and keep a big smile on your face.

If you confront him before you have proof, he'll deny it anyway and make out like you're just being controlling or paranoid.

Answer 3

Those are quite a few classic symptoms of a man cheating. By confronting him all you will do is make him defensive. He will slip up in time. Men always do. They get very sloppy. Does he have a cell phone? Snoop through his phone and see who he is calling or who is calling him. Can you follow him after he gets out of work and see where he goes. I bet he is leaving at his usual time. Find out what gym he is going to and see if he really goes. He is probably using the gym as an excuse to get out of the house.

Answer 4

bring it up. there's no sure way you would know, until you ask. talk about cheating, make reference to it by talking about some friends, movies, whatever, anything; tell him what your opinions on cheating are and observe his reactions. if you still don't get anywhere, then, just ask him. and tell him why you think he is cheating. if nothing else, ask some of your close friends, people you can confide in to keep an eye as well, for something out of the ordinary, cause more often than not, it's the others who know all about it before you even have a clue. so, snoop around a l'il bit if you have to, you wouldn't be wrong, it's your marriage honey, it is a big deal. good luck.

Answer 5

hi,i have the same problem with my parents,i am only 13 who also i am looking 4 help but in another website writing my problem,if u think ur husband is cheeting on u,u shoul spy on him follow him like my mom did,or u can talk 2 him about this thing,or u just can site there thinking & west ur time.i think the better thing is 2 do is follow him then if u c him with another woman tack a pictuer of him & his woman & tack the pic 2 the policestation & work the thing out.good luck.

Answer 6

It sounds a little dodgy - however this is all circumstantial - dont do anything yet - just keep an eye on the situation.
My hubby was behaving a bit like yrs so i jumped in feet first accusing him of allsorts - he wasnt cheating at all - and my suspicions did more harm than good

Just be sure

Answer 7

Next time he leaves the house, walk with him to the door and ask him, "Where are we going?" When he talks about working out, tell him that's a lovely idea, what gym will you and him be joining? When he goes to the store, tell him you're going to and will push the cart. See how he reacts to that, listen to what he has to say.

Answer 8

Midlife crisis, perhaps. I mean leaving for work early and coming home later doesn't mean anything, he could be working out, he could 'actually' be working lol, he could be doing something then again he could be completely innocent, call his secutary and find out what hes been up to, when he doesnt come home when he would of usually, call him and tell him your "worried" and find out where hes been.

goodluck.

Answer 9

I'm sorry to say this but yeah...it seems like hes playing the field...especially if he's working out and more into his appearance...well how old is he? Maybe hes having a midlife crisis? You should sit down with him and just talk to him...without accusing him of anything...

Answer 10

Sounds like it, I have heard these are all the signs of cheating. I would really be concerned. Do some investigating, you will find out the truth either way!