Lately, when we sit on her couch and watch tv, she sits holding a pillow over her stomach. When I try to lean over and kiss or hug her, it presents a barrier between me and her. When I ask her why she holds the pillow, she says it's because she's self-conscious about her stomach/weight. I told her I love her, but it doesn't change anything. She keeps holding the pillow. I can't help, but feel that she is using this pillow to create some distance between us because of some feelings that she doesn't want to talk about. What do you think?
2006-08-23 00:24:22 · 16 answers · asked by Treblacram 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hit the road, Jack...
2006-08-23 00:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sometimes a pillow is just a pillow, she just doesn't like how her stomach folds over (if it does) when she's sitting relaxed. She covers it because she doesn't want you to see it and think it's ugly.
Bottom line: SHE IS PUSHING U AWAY TO SEE IF YOU'LL COME CLOSER. That's what girls do sometimes, especially if they are insecure about there bodies.
Hold her, tell her she's beautiful no matter what, and stop freaking out about the pillow!
If u want to be with her, u'll accept her with her quirks, insecurities and imperfections. If not, don't you dare tell her it was because of the pillow!
Good luck!
2006-08-23 00:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sandra Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check along with her, tell her precisely what you in basic terms stated. enable her ok now the style you sense and notice have been it is going from there. while it is composed of love no you could actually help! i'm sorry to declare, I even have not been on your place, yet on the brink of it and that i are conscious of it hurts. We ended up asking our artwork for sooner or later without work a week to spend at the same time and that they well-known that and it made each and all of the differnce might that artwork for you possibly? possibly she is doing this additionally to get you to be conscious
2016-09-29 21:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might just be self conscious about her stomach/weight. Telling her you love her doesn't help her get over that. Telling her how sexy you think her stomach is, might help.
DO NOT, and I repeat - DO NOT tell her to join a gym or go on a diet. That doesn't help. She will resent you.
2006-08-23 00:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by brand_new_monkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes in a way it does seem your right. try comforting her by saying i like you for who u r not what u r . mayb even steal the pillow and tell her u need it cause u have a problem with ur weight :P
2006-08-23 00:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by learchie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK... There could be many reasons...
Maybe she does have body image issues...
She could be pregnant???
Maybe its a comfort thing...
She could be depressed???
Without knowing about other behaviours shes recently started doing its a tough call...
Maybe try talking to her at a time when shes in a good mood... Fix her a nice dinner or run her a big bubble bath with candles etc... then bring up your concerns and feelings...
2006-08-23 00:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is something else bothering her. It doesn't necessarily mean that she is wanting to create this distance between you guys, but something is bugging her and she is dealing with it. Be supportive, and ask her to please tell you truthfully what is going on. She may be having some huge issues being unhappy with herself and not believing that you could still find her attractive. Good Luck
2006-08-23 00:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by {Lisa} 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
throw the pillow out!
2006-08-23 00:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by T-bag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just ask her if there is something that she wants to talk about? Maybe you are not paying enough attention to her.
2006-08-23 00:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's self-conscious about her stomach. Don't read more into it than there is.
2006-08-23 00:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
entice her man do something exciting
if it does not work ask her the reason behind such a behaviour
2006-08-23 00:30:53 · answer #11 · answered by might 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋