My friend her husband cheats on her but she although very upset about it said she satys because she loves him so much and can't do it again? Please help me understand this...she is so upset but she won't do anything about it.
2006-08-23 00:15:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My quess is that in a twisted way she enjoys the drama from it and secretly laps at the chance to play victim.
2006-08-23 00:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Emporer_Smiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people stay married because they really believe in the vows they took "for better or worse". They may think that things will change back to normal and the good times to come will make up for the bad times they have now. They also learn to make excuses for their spouse and why they cheated. It makes it easier to stay with them. Plus, she may be used to a certain lifestyle and would rather put up with her husband's cheating than having to start over.
The only thing you can do as a friend, is to listen to her vent. Don't tell her what to do. Have a girl's day out for some stress relief and just be a friend.
2006-08-23 00:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by blue eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation, maybe ur friend still love her husband and want to stay because of the childrens and also can support her life, money also important to make a living. She really have a strong mind to let her husband cheat on her, if she can stand to live with him. If she won't do anything about it, maybe she want the relationship going on without any difficult.
2006-08-23 00:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by ann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was married to my wife for 12yrs. The last 4 of which she was having at least one affair that I knew of. I suspect more. I love her very much and would have done anything for her. She moved out 9 months ago and is now living with another man. If she didn't leave, we'd still be together because I made a vow to her when I asked her to marry me. I wouldn't break that vow. Also, we have a son together, who I have custody of. I didn't want him growing up with out and mom and dad together. It is very hard. I knew she didnt love me anymore and it was very difficult knowing she was having an affair but I always hoped she would decide to come back to me and love me again. Its hard to end a marriage after 12yrs when you love someone more than life itself and remember when they loved you and how life was.
2006-08-23 01:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by scheib65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did stay, after the FIRST one. I believed my ex when he told me he was sorry and it'd never happen again. You know the usual excuses - we were fighting, he was drinking, etc. But as soon as another girl came along, he did it again.
Some say, "once a cheater, always a cheater", but I don't believe it. Some people do make mistakes and genuinely sorry, but the majority of people just can't stop themselves. Just be a friend and if it should happen again, don't say "I told ya so".
2006-08-23 00:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has made her choice and as a friend you should respect it. That does not mean you have to agree with her. I myself would not be able to stay in a relationship in which trust is lost, without trust you have no real relationship. My wife did have an affair, I was aware of it, we both needed to explore, our relationship changed but trust was not lost.
2006-08-23 00:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my spouse only tried to do it but i straightened it out before it went to full blown cheating.
2006-08-23 01:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too little self-respect!!
and yes, love.
she might give him a second chance (tell him!) but make it SO clear that he can **** off the next time. and that she cannot put up with such a respectless man - and that there are better men out there. she should really mean what she says..
good luck
2006-08-23 00:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either the money is good or she has some self-esteem issues.
She needs to speak with a counselor.
2006-08-23 00:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have and it's messy, confusing and painful! not for the faint hearted....
once the trust is gone, its usually gone for good. Sounds like a co-dependancy relationship to me...
2006-08-23 00:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋