Have you ever participated in a threesome? How did it turn out? did it ruin your relationship??
2006-08-23 00:06:53 · 18 answers · asked by dollydolly70 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You could be taking a big chance.
2006-08-23 01:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I participated in a threesome during my marriage and it was great! However, our marriage wasn't secure enough to deal with the insecurities that followed the incident. My husband (at the time) thought that the other guy and I had a thing going on before and after the threesome. So it ruined whatever trust was there. But if you know everyone can be mature enough to have fun and nothing further will happen, go for it.
2006-08-23 07:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have.
No it didn't ruin the relationship. There is a difference between physical intimacy and emotional intimacy. If you and your primary want to invite someone else into your sexual time then it's not violating anything since the two of you are doing this together. However, if one of you goes to see that thrid person on their own, later, then it is violating the emotional intimacy connection with your primary. That is cheating.
However, I have found that it actually improved the marriage I had with my wife because we did this thing "AS A COUPLE" we only did it TOGETHER.
First thing you need to do is establish rules:
1. Neither of you are allowed to have sex with that person by yourselves. Nor are you allowed to get into a friendship with that person alone, (because that would mean that you are emotionally intimate with someone other than your spouse).
2. Pick someone who you both are attracted to and who also understands rule number one. (don't pick an immature idiot who will blab about it later.
I hope I answered your question. do you understand?
tom
2006-08-23 07:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by a1tommyL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many
no it did not hurt anything, people that say it will or does, are the ones that have never really done it.
It is fantastic, a wonderful way to play and explorer,
we each have needs that our partners may not like or share
what greater gift can one give than allowing your mate to enjoy\what they miss.
2006-08-23 07:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by timestamps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me & My ex-wife had several. We split for other reasons, but while we were having 3-sums, our sex-life was incredible, so much as she wanted to have more than 2 men at a time so she could be the "queen" and be fulfilled !!!
2006-08-23 08:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by Bill Allen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you even go in to a 3some make sure your relationship is good. There is always a chance that one or the other might like the other person involved or whatnot so be sure.
2006-08-23 07:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by livetoromance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done it. It's not all it's cracked up to be. No, it didn't ruin the relationship, but, honestly, even if the sex is good, I don't think it's healthy for any relationship. It's best to keep this one as an unfulfilled fantasy, I think.
2006-08-23 07:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by Perplexed Music Lover 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have tried it a long time ago,,but before me and my boyfriend did anything with the third party we talked and had rules we went by,,,the rules are very,,very important,,in order to keep your existing relationship,,,and hun nothing in life is a guarantee.
2006-08-23 07:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by ladydi_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have, but only with open minded partners. I have had partners where it would not be accepted, so I respected that and did not try to force them into it. It's been awhile now, sure would like to have another.
2006-08-23 07:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by Velociraptor 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we all three were nuthing but friends, and it was fun & exciting and trusted each other, that was actually her last night in town before moving to another country, about 13 months later she came back on vacations and everything was just normal between us 3
2006-08-23 07:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by Charlie Mejia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have and it goes way way better if you have a chat to start off with so everyone is aware of everyone elses boundries of what they will and wont do, what they want to try etc. it goes way way better this way and when you know what everyone wants and know what to stay away from so as not to upset anyone. it is incredible and fun. good luck.
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2006-08-23 07:15:28 · answer #11 · answered by mournyngwolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋