I'm Thai 24 and my bf is English 25. We together a year already. Now bf staying in UK for working. He has been there a month already. He promised me b4 left would back on October. But yterday he called me and said miss me too much, would I go but my parants don't want I go!!! They said can't stay with guy b4 married!!! Hever, I had sex!!! How should I do??? I want to meet my bf but I don't want to make my parents angry or sad too!!!
2006-08-22 23:18:24 · 24 answers · asked by nonglnalak 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
parents will always be there for you and will love you unconditionally, but you can't be sure about ur bf
2006-08-22 23:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should have to choose between their parents and their significant other. From what I can tell, you only have 6 weeks to wait. I'd suggest waiting just a little longer. It would be tough, but if you and your bf love each other as much as you say, the wait will make things better for the both of you.
2006-08-22 23:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe by already having sex in your culture you are considered spoiled goods now,so what does it matter. too bad he couldnt respect your culture.hes probably not going to have any respect for anything else ethier. I think he just wants to prove he has the most control. A man that has so little respect for your parents isnt worth a damn,but you do what you want to,it will break your parents heart,is he worth it?
2006-08-22 23:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my advice to you is that you don't go there before marriage. Your parents are right. You should obey them. Ask ur BF to marry you. If he really wants u with sincerity, he would marry you. Remember no one can be more sincere to you than your parents. They want you to be happy but they aslo don't want u to be spoiled. I think u must have understood the situation by now. Good luck, bye
2006-08-22 23:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by Fraz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about it: boyfriends come and go. So does love. Your family will always be there for you, they're your only stable ground and environment. Don't give up on them for a simple flirt.
Explain things to your boyfriend, tell him that you can't meet him. If he values and loves you, he will understand.
In this way, you will see if your boyfriend cares about you and you will also get to prove to your parents that you respected their decision, which will make them favour you and listen to you. And they will also see that you're relationship is serious and stable and will most likely change their views.
2006-08-22 23:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by Cheshire Riddle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know girl, if your BF loves you so much and misses you he should marry you and take you away that wud be the proper and wise thing, yr parents dont want to see you hurt,remember they want the best fr you and sometimes the advice they give is worth lsitening to.
2006-08-22 23:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is thai parents...I dont fully understand their traditional values. Would they abandon you or understand you? I would not go for the English guy. Its too big of a risk. There are plenty of others.
2006-08-22 23:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by James S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see dear parents r always first they r the one who loved ucared for u so much they lived difficult life only to comfort u so how can u make ur parents angry., i lost my love b'coz i wanted my parents to be happy now i m happy in there happiness, u had sex that was for ur love u gave ur part of love to him now u have to play part for ur parents, ur parents r right at there point try to understand there feelings,if possible try to kkeep urself in there place then u will understand there feeling ok rest is on u what u want to do
2006-08-22 23:25:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart andd compromise w/ your parents. Get a hotel room and stay there. You need to understand your parents values and explain to them you understand and then let them know where you stand and propose the compromise.
Good Luck.
2006-08-22 23:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wel i really think u shud listen to wht ur parents hv tld u afterall they knw u ever since they gave birth to u and they'll alwys choose the bets fro u
2006-08-22 23:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with what your heart tells you. You parents need to understand that there isn't anything that is going to stop you from loving your boyfriend, hopefully they will accept that. If not, then your boyfriend should just understand your parents rules and respect them. If he truly loves you he'll wait for you.
2006-08-22 23:20:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋