I know its hard to tell anyone but is there any way to be happy and find happiness? well, im Philippines and people here is too conservative about gender issue.
2006-08-22 22:36:59 · 15 answers · asked by brian_chris 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You will not be happy until you leave the closet, at least partially. You don't have to announce your sexual preference to the whole world (especially not to your family and friends, if you don't want to), but, unless you act on your desires, you can never be happy. Try to find someone like yourself with whom you can have a good relationship.
2006-08-22 22:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by Perplexed Music Lover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you mean "In the closet" not "on"
That would be over the top. Sorry about the bad pun
You will have to pick your own time to open the door and exit the closet and explore.
Look for a gay and lesbian community center in your city and find some reason to visit it.
If your city doesn’t have one, volunteer at some other community help program near the gay part of your town. I know you will find a gay person in just about any community outreach program.
In spite what some people think, most gay people care and do a lot of volunteer work.
The best way to exit the closet is with local support. You aren’t the first person to go thru this.
We all do. Life is one big trip, and being happy is all about enjoying the journey. Happiness is an inside job. The really cool thing about it is, it will find you, and no hunting is required.
When you move on to sex, don't let anyone talk you into unsafe sex like barebacking, (having anal sex without a condom). AIDS doesn’t just belong to my generation.
Sex should be fun, and safe.
Remember according to statistics it is believed that one out of seven people are gay. So you really are not alone.
Take it easy my friend you'll be fine. It all works out with time.
Someone said, "Never sweat the little stuff, and it's all little stuff.", was right.
I hope this helps..
2006-08-23 00:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by Spark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no happiness in a closet, just clothes and shoes. Open the door and get out and see the world. Get in turn with yourself more. Believe it or not you'll soon be able to tell who's who by feeling the same spirit. Like spirit can always tell each other apart. Good luck.
2006-08-24 03:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by donlide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading answers from the rest of the gay community makes me feel good about our resolve. As a gay therapist, I feelt that i've gained experience is the methods of "support" and "understanding," but I am so impressed with the asnwers in here. You're young, you will make choices, happiness will be yours one way or the other. Take care, best wishes. CB
2006-08-24 20:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to leave the Phillipines, try finding the most gay-friendly city there (Manila?).
You don't have to tell anyone about being gay. But you need some support from accepting friends (gay or straight). I recommend carefully asking indirect questions to decide whether your friends are accepting. Women are usually more accepting.
Also try using websites (or newspaper classifieds) to meet friends--gay or straight--who live nearby. And especially use web & classifieds for dating. (I recommend match.com for dates, but can't think of a site for finding non-date friends.)
You can also use a search engine [Google] to find out if there are gay restaurants or clubs in your area.
If you can afford it, I recommend finding a therapist. They can be a big support. Be choosy--don't continue seeing anyone you're uncomfortable with.
Mabuting kapalaran! / Good luck!
2006-08-23 05:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perplexed is rite!!!!!!! Ive never herd of peeps in da closet dat R happy. Sorry wish dat could happen.
2006-08-22 23:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the Philippines......step out of the closet..........LOOK, HAPPINESS!!
2006-08-23 01:30:43 · answer #7 · answered by buldawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck with that one. everybody i know knows about me but my co-workers. it was the worst thing that i went through, coming out, especially because everybody found out inadvertantly. sorry about the spelling. conservative republicans in the U.S. are the same way. just good luck.
2006-08-22 22:54:54 · answer #8 · answered by johnny_on_the_spot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you will have a hard life in the Phillipines babes
ever thought of moving?
2006-08-22 22:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just don't see any problem about one being gay. live your life the way you want it and be happy.
2006-08-22 22:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by (coco) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋