at the begining of our relationship he would tell me that he didnt love me the way i loved him. then every night when we would go to bed he would get mad at me because i would be touching him and he said he was tired. once he punched me in my forhead. still to this day he says that he is not in love with me but he has feelings for me. so what should i think?
2006-08-22 21:55:31 · 19 answers · asked by huera_317 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave,.....don't beat a dead horse.
We all deserve someone who really loves us...
2006-08-22 21:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should already know what to think,, he doesn't love you, he probably only likes you, but how long have you been together? i think if he punched you, you should just leave him and find someone who feels the same, because i was in a relationship where my bf hit me,, trust me they don't ever change, they may say sorry, but like 3 years down the road the sorrys stop,,,he also may mean that he loves you, but he is just not in love with you,, it doesn't sound different but it is very different
2006-08-23 04:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by mami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had a look at your profile, and read the only two questions you have asked.
I will piece the two together, and see if I can’t help you…
Two days ago, you asked “How do I start my life again, and be able to stand strong, now that he hates me, and wants me gone?”
You added to that… “I’ve been together with my daughters father for 14 years, and I have forgave him for a lot of things he has done to me. He cheated on me, and got a disease. He would hit me! Now, after all these years, he tells me that I make him sick, and he can't stand looking at me. Five years ago, we got married, and it got worse. He would push me away, and tell me things that would hurt me.”
Now, in this question, you are asking if we think he ever loved you?
Damned if I know… You were the one who married him… Don’t you know?
Unless I have got it wrong, you have been with him for 14 years, but it is for only the past 5 years that you have been married to him. Why did you marry him??? How did he treat you before you got married??? When you married him, did you think he loved you???
Probably the most important thing to sort out here, is how your relationship is affecting that beautiful daughter of yours. If I am going to feel sympathetic toward anyone, it isn’t going to be you or your husband… The one I feel sorry for is your daughter, because she is the one who has to put up with the crap from both of you!!!
You and your husband are supposed to be mature enough to be able to sort out your differences without it affecting your child. From what I can gather from reading your questions… your daughter, who quite possibly is going through hell, hardly rates a mention!!!
Hey, you are a big girl now… time to make a decision for yourself!!!
Are you a punching bag?… Are you in to self-harm?… Do you like being cheated on?… Do you like being told that you make someone sick?… Do you like being pushed away and abused?
Sh*t, if you can’t work out what to do for yourself, then let me give you a hint…
Get the hell out of that relationship while you still can!!!
If you can’t do it for yourself, then take a look at that beautiful daughter of yours, and make a commitment to be the mature, responsible mother she needs you to be!!!
2006-08-23 07:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you, period. Leave him. There is no use trying to make someone love you if they didn't in the first place. He has told you already. He doesn't even want you touching him. What other proof do you need? Just move on. You can do better than this.
2006-08-23 05:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, please do yourself a favor and just ditch him. He has no respect for you AT ALL and you deserve soooo much better. You need to have more respect for yourself, and realize that there are so many guys out there who would LOVE to treat you so much better! You don't need to go through this, you're not his b****. You're a person too, and you should be treated like one. It doesn't matter if he has feelings for you or not, he's not in love with you. So go find a guy who will love you so much more than this jerk.
2006-08-23 04:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by clueless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That ur a burden for him dear. Go away from him (i didnt say back off, but see how he react) if he comes like a fool after u then he loves u and dats the only way.
2006-08-23 04:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel that he is returning your affections then it's a good sign that he is taking you for granted. There is someone out there for you who will love you as much as you do him. Don't settle for a selfish bully. You deserve happiness just like everyone else. best of luck.
2006-08-23 05:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by D baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is no love. He never loved you in the first place, he doesn't love you now and don't believe him if he says he loves you in the future. Why would you want to hit anyone that you love?
2006-08-23 05:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave him. He's said it clearly, he doesn't love you. Maybe he's just by your side because he is the kind of guy that needs to be w/ a woman to feel complete. You deserve better. You will find someone who really appreciates your love. Move on PLEASE!!!
2006-08-23 05:07:12 · answer #9 · answered by t_rex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are being stupid to stay in such a relation ship u are being a door mat and he is using you because you have made it so obvious to him that he can.
No i do not think he ever loved you and i think deep down you no it.
Its probly pointless saying this to you but why dont u just pack ur bags and leave, it sounds like you have nothiung to stay for.
2006-08-23 05:07:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he punched you harder than you thought - he tells you he doesn't love you, you still live with him - he gets mad when you touch him and even clocked you for doing it and you're still with him???
Kick his loser *** out of your bed and house and find someone new!!
Aloha!
2006-08-23 04:58:43 · answer #11 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋