I am so sick of it. When men do this and you catch them they say oh it was just a reaction. A reaction to what? Your dick wondering? How come women don't have this reaction? Can any woman relate to me?
2006-08-22 21:49:20 · 18 answers · asked by foeversexygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men are pigs. They make us feel inadequate and then they tell us it's our fault for not being more appealing or whatever. I bet you 10-1 that if we did it, they'd be pissing and moaning just as bad. Here's this one for a kicker. Try being the one who promised not to look out of respect and common courtesy and you uphold that promise and yet he still gawks and every two-bit skank he sees and then totally lies to you about it when you catch him doing it. I have asked him not to and he does it anyway. I agree that I've had it too and I'm about ready to file for a divorce because of it. He could'nt grant me trust and safety and security inside of our marriage so, it's over. Don't mind me, just venting. Felt like a good place to do it.
2006-08-22 22:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by liz 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I completely understand.My husband and I just got married a month ago and I swear he's been looking at other women.Not all of the time,but once in a while He says that I'm the most beautiful woman he's ever seen but yet I still think he's looking around.He always denies it and says that I'm crazy for thinking he's looking.I almost believe him and think I'm imagining it but then it happens again.But yet I don't have any desire to look at other men.Is there any man that doesn't do this or is it a male trait that we're unaware of?
2006-08-23 06:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by jayne s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. I am a very pretty woman and guys always do this to me. I try to ignore it but I usually say something like can you keep your eyes off other women when you're with me I feel insulted when you do that. Some stop out of respect some are just cold and keep doing it. Needless to say I don't continue to see the ones that don't stop. It gives me insight into what kind of selfish pig that they are.
2006-08-22 21:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to learn to lighten up because ALL men look. And they will continue to look until they are old and blind. It's just a guy thing. As long as your man isn't drooling and making rude comments, it just means he's being a man. It's testostrone! So lay back and enjoy it. He can bring all of his fantasies home to you and you'll live alot longer without stressing out over something this trivial that you can't control.
2006-08-22 23:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys have eyes. That being said ,they look at and see things. The world around them women included, they also hear them, smell them and in some cases even feel them, along with many other elements in the world we live in. If you can't deal with it, maybe you should blind him ,would this provide a level of control acceptable to you?
2006-08-23 05:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I dont believe for one second that women dont look.
Secondly, there is nothing wrong with it. I mean if your guy hadnt looked at you, you wouldnt be together. Looking is perfectly healthy, it is what we are designed to do and any guy who says he doesnt is a liar.
The key point is action. I look at pretty girls all the time but I would cut my parts off before doing anything with any of them because I love my girl to bits .. and thats the difference....
In the same way my girl looks at good looking guys, but I know I can trust her completely .. I do know I am lucky to be in this relationship but there are lots of guys and girls out there like us I am sure.
2006-08-22 21:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are biologically diffrent than woman, as one of the mates said before it's just an intinct to look around. same with woman and shopping for example, why would you by yet another pair of shoe when you already have 1000??
When a man looks around, it doesn't mean that he doesn't like you, or that he loves you less ... On the contrary, it means that he's relaxed around you, and feels that he can be himself without any masks .... So he acts around you same as he would when he's around his mates ....
2006-08-22 22:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by Hunter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women do the same thing. I know I do. I just don't do it to a point where it's disrespectful to my husband. My husband's the same thing. I know he looks at other women but doesn't do it to a point where I'll get pissed. If your husband's behavior bothers you, speak to him about it. Maybe he can refrain from looking excessively at another woman when he's with you. However, it's unrealistic to tell him to stop looking altogether. He's not blind. He still needs to look at where he's going, making sure not to bump into people.
2006-08-22 21:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we can all relate. Men, biologically speaking, are visually stimulated, whereas women are tactily or emotionally stimulated. That's why there is a bigger market for porn for men and romance novels and dildos for women.
It's hard for women to accept, but men truly do not compare women as much as we think. As women, we say, "Hey, her butt is bigger than mine, her legs are longer, her boobs are bigger..." So we think a man looks at a woman and thinks, "He boobs are better than my wife's..." In reality, they think, "Hey, nice looking chick!" and we don't even cross their minds. I know, it sucks, but they can't really help it. It doesn't excuse obnoxious behavior, but it does help if we are honest with what they're up against. It's not like our society makes it easy for men to turn away from looking at half-naked women. They're EVERYWHERE!
It's probably healthier for women to accept that men are naturally that way, but hold them accountable for how they deal with it. In my house, my husband avoids certain TV shows and has never watched porn because he's decided not to entertain that temptation. I then try to do all that I can to keep myself visually pleasing to him, so he's not tempted. I'm not insane about it, but I do try to wear outfits he likes, keep my hair in a style he likes, and just put some time in myself. He appreciates the effort.
You are never going to be the most beautiful woman on the planet. It's asking a lot to expect your man to think so. Be happy that he limits himself to noticing another woman is beautiful, because he doesn't get mad if you notice your friend's husband makes more money. As long as he behaves himself, let it go. After all, it's not about you.
2006-08-22 22:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Testosterone is the answer to that. Man are just like that. We look around. It's a thing we have to do. Back in time we had to look around to see dangerous things before they saw us. And to find food. Now we need no longer worry about those two but the instinst to look around is still there.
And what should we look at? Women and cars.
Just let us look. It doesn't hurt and we don't do it because we don't like your looks.
2006-08-22 21:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by ak2005ok 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋