We've been very happy for the past years,but ever since he comes closer to me and when i've become addicted to him,i've grown ultra possessive (always checking and asking who he calls or texts). He is now not talking nor texting me since 3days am very upset wat if he leaves me?If i remain silent will he come back to me? how long might it take? Please some guys i need ur opinion to know the mind of a man.
2006-08-22 21:23:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you shouldn't be possessive and territorial, it's a sign of insecurity. plus it's also saying you don't trust him, and that really hurts his feeling. you should trust him until you are absolutely suspicious that he's up to no good. what you both need to do is talk to each other about the situation. communication is the key to a healthy relationship. so you remaining silent isn't going to help the situation. just express your feelings...but more importantly, let him express his opinions about your action (and LET him talk! don't interrupt otherwise he thinks you're not listening).
2006-08-22 21:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by mymymissmai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a reason for being possessive? (ie has he done something to betray your trust?) If so then you need to leave him since being this wound up is not good for you and if he has caused it then he doesnt deserve you.
if he hasnt then you still need to chill out because you will lose him if you keep proving you dont trust him. .. talk to him .. explain how you feel and perhaps he can help you to overcome it ..
Either way you will need to back off for a bit as you have obviously pushed him too far at the moment and he needs to cool down otherwise things will be said that arent meant, that hurt and that cant be taken back
2006-08-22 21:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - stop being so possessive!!! Just reading that freaks me out!!!
You have to realize that he's with you - and who ever he's talking to or texts doesn't matter - cause at the end of the day, he's with you, right??
Go talk to him face to face and get it settled - and promise him you'll work on not being so possessive!
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-08-22 21:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trip! If you have to go playing Investigator, you are not in a good place. We need to remember that we are not entitled to be in another person's space. We are only guests in our significant others' hearts and we do not ever have Carte Blanche to invade their personal space or encroach on them. Do not act like that.. it only makes you look desperate. Also, I believe that people live up to or down to our expectations of them. My point being, if you expect someone to be faithful, loyal, and good to you, guess what? They sense that and they live up to said expectations. On the other hand, if you expect someone to disappoint, lie to or deceive you, they will feel that energy and probably either cheat on you or leave you.
Don't waste your energy looking for proof your loved ones are dishonest or deceptive. Trust others, and walk in love. Above all, do not make a fool of yourself by obsessing. If it gets to that point, leave with your dignity intact.
Mari
2006-08-22 21:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by Siren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to not be so possessive for one !! Another is , you need to think about if this is actually the one for you, if you have all these doubts and you don't trust him ! Usally, your doubts tend to be true , cause every one is a little intuitive about things! It just comes natural !! So, just trust yourself and try to move on !! Life is all about the experiences and learning from them!!!
2006-08-22 21:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jacob K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are a control freak! This only leaves him 1 option that is to say no I wont be involved. Back off!
2006-08-22 21:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 15:42:54 · answer #7 · answered by cordell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman, but my advise is to detach! Never be too available for any man. Make him stew.
2006-08-22 21:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gosh give the guy a break.
I am ready to leave you and I don't even know you.
2006-08-22 21:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk and settle the matter once for all
2006-08-22 21:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋