he asked her a question about me, and admitted that he said, "someone i live with"...makes me feel like he's not serious about our marriage, and granted we haven't been married long either. how would that make you feel?
2006-08-22 20:41:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he says he doesn't know why, and i am wondering if i'm being too sensitive over this. and, i asked him how he would feel if i did the same thing, but again, he said he didn't know...
2006-08-22 20:48:09 · update #1
also, we didn't live together b4 marriage either! i go back and forth on how i feel about this, but it would help if he could understand "why" he did this himself! but, how could he answer this any other way really?
2006-08-22 22:30:27 · update #2
ok, another detail, but this is the final one...she's in honduras, which is where he's from. we live in the u.s.
he contacted her to find a dr. specialist for me, but i'm still not his "roommate"
2006-08-22 23:46:13 · update #3
I don't know that you should be mad… I think I would be inclined to just let it go!!!
How often does your husband see this doctor? Is it something he said only recently?
You should be able to get a better idea of how serious your husband is about your marriage, other than something he said to his doctor! What is his general attitude toward you and the marriage like? Does he generally appear as though he doesn’t care less?
Admittedly, referring to you as ‘someone he lives with’ is pretty slack, and could suggest that you are there only for his convenience… but that isn’t necessarily the case!!!
How would I feel if my partner said that I was someone she lived with? I’d probably throw in a sarcastic remark like…. “Yea, until I can find someone to take her place!” and just let it go!!!
You are the best person to determine if there is a problem in your marriage or not. Try not to base any decision on one solitary event… keep focus on the whole picture.
Sorry if I have wasted your time reading my response, but one slack comment from your husband, doesn’t make for a failed marriage. If you have concerns, perhaps you can do something to spice things up a bit. Give him plenty of reasons, to care!!!
2006-08-22 20:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mad. It is definitely a reason for discussion. Though, I'm sure he won't have a good explaination for it. I can assure it's not because he doesn't love you. We, men just do some things that are a mystery even to us. It's like those little devil and angel personifications of our conscience that sit on our shoulders went on vacation and left their retarted brother in charge.
oh. ..... Is the Doc good looking?
hmmm...even so... what I said holds true.
2006-08-23 03:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by theenormusnorm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, It just probably takes sometime for someone to get rid of old habits, he's probably just used to saying that from before you got married ..... Don't freak the dude out!
2006-08-23 05:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by Hunter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a problem saying he is married. He needs to figure out why. He needs to tell you. Tell him your not someone he lives with your his wife and he better not say it any other way again.
Hold your ground on this.
2006-08-23 04:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone I live with isn't good referring to a fiance either. Yea, I be mad too,
2006-08-23 03:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember, marriage is a big step in life. so chances are, he's not use to that big change. it was probably a slip of tongue when he said that. when my husband and i just got married, he kept calling me "wife" over and over again, so he can grasp the new title.
i say you should spare him this time...
2006-08-23 04:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by mymymissmai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be puzzled but... since you're newlyweds, maybe he's just not used to saying "my wife". If it happened only once, I would just let it go. Of course, if it happened more than once, then that would be a different story.
2006-08-23 03:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has some issues, NOT YOU. Dont make him feel like its not ok to be upset about it. He should really explore why he is saying these things....
2006-08-23 04:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by TrueSoul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not overreacting, get help or get out. all signs point to the fact that he is not ready for marriage and she should not be practicing medicine. she can not get involved with him and if she does turn her in.
2006-08-23 06:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by kelsey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes!
2006-08-23 03:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by j g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋