I love my friend more than anyone in this world.But I toocant make her unhappy for my happiness.
2006-08-22 20:21:22 · 16 answers · asked by Rossy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Remain mere friends. Tomorrow might bring some changes.
2006-08-22 20:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by 50+Brat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I knew someone who made a lover out of a very best friend. This friend was always there for her, was a nice guy, etc. After it ended, they were not even friends. Most of the time it is best to just keep it friends. If it bothers you more to be around her, and cannot be her boyfriend, if you really love her, let her go. You know, don't know if you have ever heard this before, but if you let them fly away, and they come back, then you really did have them. However, if they never come back, you never had them anyway. It is up to you and how bad you want her as a friend. If you can't, just have a talk with her about it. You need to look around, you are wanting something that does not apparently wants you the way you want her. Let her go, you will only get hurt.
2006-08-23 03:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are going through. Don't feel sad about it. It's great that you love her unconditionally... And I will not tell you to stop loving her just because she has rejected you.
Carry on being her best friend. Perhaps, her feelings for you will change some day. She will realise how much you love her.
If not, you might find someone better later on in your life. All you need to do is wait for that right person to come along!!
2006-08-23 03:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by Janice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her if she wants you in her life even knowing that you have feelings for her. If she says yes, then try to get over your feelings and try to see her as a friend. If she said she can't see you as a "lover" now, more likely her feelings will stay the same in the future, so don't expect her feelings toward you to change. They say that time heals everything and surely you will overcome this rejection sooner than you think. Her honesty will help. Good luck!
2006-08-23 03:49:32 · answer #4 · answered by metztli99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as you rightly see it, you cannot make her unhappy, which shows that you indeed care very much for her.
Could it maybe be that you are only very young and mistake some kind of attraction for actual love?
It is very importnat to keep your best friend, as she is very valuable to you, even in other ways than a love-relationship one.
If you can accept this fact and still be "best-friends" with ehr, it shows that you probably are ot as "in love" as you thought. She might be uncomfortable now however, knowing how you feel for her, and she might not confide in you as much anymore. It happened to me. I had a very good friend with whom I could tal about everything. When he told me he loved me I was really scared. I did really like him, but had no other than brotherly love for him. Because of this, we started seing us less regularly, as I too had the feeling I was maybe getting his hopes up or so. We are not seeing each other very often now, almost never to be honest. We will meet for a goodbye meeting on Friday, as I move out of the country, but we never got as close again...
I hope this won't happen to you and your best friend. my best wishes are with you
2006-08-23 03:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to take your thought from your mind and concentrate in your work/studies. Be as usual as a best friend to her. These type of friends are someone special whom u can never forget in your life.
The memories will last long even though when u r faraway from her. So take it easy. Never try to hurt her even by your behaviour.
Let she be also happy and u also be happy. You might have a little bit of pain in your heart. You have to bear it for your friend.
2006-08-23 07:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by ramkeshav s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things in the future may change but don't count on it. If she is worthy of your love then she is worthy of your friendship. You can tell her to take your feelings as a compliment and let her know that your friendship is the same as it ever was and that you still value her friendship.
Just watch yourself and try not to weird things between the two of you, which could happen if you decide to bring up your feelings again and again.
2006-08-23 03:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by Dan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not Just a feeling of romance. it is more than that. One should willing to love her for life time. It is a commitment and will to love the partner. Love is hard work. if you are ready for that you can talk to her personally . she /he will accept you.
2006-08-23 03:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see rossy...first be sure wether u really love her.if u do, then give her some time.if ur love is true,she'll come back.ill like to quote some lines for u
"if u love someone,let them free,
if they return,they're yours;
if they don't, they never were yours"
2006-08-23 03:31:42 · answer #9 · answered by nirali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay good friends, your problem is that you broke it to her too quickly. try going alittle slower this time, some people are just like that. Eventially she might warm up to you also.
2006-08-23 03:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by Miabella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋