I am a Buddhist and a married man. Three years ago I met a married woman and we had an affair. We both knew we did wrong thing. We enjoyed being together very much we had so much fun in doing things together including sex. We knew very well we could never be together as we each had children. Many times we both cried when we talked about wanting to be together for the rest of our lives. Sad, it hurts so much being met someone already belonged to someone else. Wish we could be together in our next life. This is my life and I need to live with it until the day I die.
2006-08-22 20:00:37 · 15 answers · asked by Rod 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know, it seems that many people who cheat say the same thing until they settle in with the person they cheated with and find that the grass is not always greener on the other side. Like they say, you always want what you can't have and once you finally have them, you'll find it's not at all like you expected. Instead of pining for the other woman, why don't you just work on your own marriage instead and let her do the same?
2006-08-22 21:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I am not here to judge for that is not mine or anyones place..Is nice to know that you both did wrong though..Im sure your wife, no matter the reason for you commiting such an act, is hurt and she has the right to be..But remember,,even if you divorce your wife, and she divorces her husband,,how do either of you know that yall will last? Sometimes we end up with others out of something missing in our marriages,,but dont sound like yall had that much to fall in love that fast...Slow down a bit,really look at the big picture..Sure would hate for things to go the wrong way and you both regret it forever..Pray and seek what you need to do ok...God bless
2006-08-23 03:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by glowworm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adultery always have the ripple effect of killing the family relationship. sexual apatite can never be satisfied only inflamed. it seems that you are so much attached with the new women. i do agree after so many years of marriage it is tough to love the women whom you married. Stolen honey may appear sweet. but morally it is not right to continue the relationship. it will not leave you with out burning you. get away from the women go and reconcile with your wife and live and die for her. God can never forgive you if you are stubborn to keep the affair away from marriage. do not waver in your mind.
2006-08-23 03:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an affair too. If you would rather be with the other woman in the next life, than the one you are with, ? Then do the one you are with now a favor and leave so she can find someone who deserves her.
If she aint doing it for you buddy, chances are pretty good you aint all that either.
2006-08-23 03:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by N search of truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And your question is that you wonder if you commited adultery? Or are you just feeling so guilty you need too tell us about your affair with a married woman? Can't undo it. Youw ill have to live with it. You knew what you were doing was wrong.
2006-08-23 03:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't Buddhism about trying to create the perfect day, by living each day better then the last? Way to stick to those religious tenets. Is there anything in your religion that says "run away from your responsibilities by seeking comfort in another desperate housewife and then fantasize about something you both know will never be"???
2006-08-23 03:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by Christopher B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do with the situation, except stop the affair before it gets ugly. If you continue seeing her, you will get attached to her more and more, and so as she.
Since you are both aware that what you are doing is wrong, you have to stop it before you hurt your lovedones, like your spouses and your children.
You should focus on your family, and your children's welfare. Make them your priority.
2006-08-23 03:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfotunatly yes you will have to live with it for the rest of your life. But if you don't love your wife it's not wise to stay in a marrage just for your kids.
2006-08-23 03:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by jenn_burks311 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to examine your marriage. If the relationship is that sour, maybe you need to move on. This is something you should also discuss with the other woman!
2006-08-23 04:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wrong you should divorce your wife you already broke your commitment to her by cheating and you and the other woman deserve each other I'm not trying to be mean but it was wrong what you did I feel bad for your wife and her husband marriage is supposed to be sacred.
2006-08-23 03:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋