I want clauses in the prenup that my fiance wants me to sign?

Question

Yeah that's right. Clauses that protect me. Which means that if he decides to fvck around with some *****, I GET PAID$$$$$$$$.

Also, being that this is being imposed on me and I am not the one initiating it, I think that he should pay for my lawyer also if he wants me to sign.

So basicly, I cheat or decide that I am not inlove with him anymore and want a divorce, then I walk away with what I entered into the marraige with.

But, if he cheats, causes physical abuse to me, decides that he wants to leave because he claims he is not inlove anymore, I think the prenup should become void.

I can see if he wants to protect his assets, but I'm not gonna have it backfire on me.

So Yahoo people, what do you think? Can you come up with some drafts for me?

Answer 1

As an attorney who has written legislation in Ca, the spiritual homeland of the prenup, on this issue, you're crazy not to put some protections in for yourself, and the ones you mentioned are typical--especially the no-violence one. If you get resistance to that one it's time to walk--and I don't mean down the aisle. In Ca., you have to be given time to take the prenup to an attorney for review and advice--you should do that, but you need to pay for it. You want the attorney loyal to you only.

Answer 2

You have the right to put whatever restriction or allowances whatsoever into any prenup. The only thing that can go wrong is he laughs at your items and refuses to sign, then winds up marrying the lady who was going to be your bridesmaid and goes 50-50 on a lottery ticket they buy at the gas station across the street from the wedding chapel in Vegas, and then the ticket will win, leaving you without a husband and the half of 125 million dollars the ticket won, after taxes.

Answer 3

This is something you should talk over with a lawyer, but the bottom line IMHO is that if you two are bickering over a prenup, I'm concerned about how the rest of the marriage would go.

A marriage has to be based on mutual trust and respect. You've got some valid concerns about the marriage if you're thinking he could cheat, beat you, or lose interest.

What happened to love?

Answer 4

I can understand wanting to be protected, and not wanting to get screwed over. But if there is that much concern now, is marriage to this person really a good idea?

I agree, if you go through with this, that he should be paying all lawyer fees concerning the prenup. However, i think its unfair that he gets punished if he cheats, while you just walk if you cheat.

Answer 5

Well if youre worried about money and stuff like that you two shouldnt get married.. cause either hes going to leave you or youre going to leave him and you'll still be broke in the end... you 2 need to learn to trust each other and not anticipate a split because signing a prenup is exactly that anticipating a split.. then that was a waist of money because you two are so worried about whos going to get what out of who...
my husband and I didnt get a prenup we're not worried about money we have so much more in life to anticipate like the birth of our baby in January.... but I wish you luck

Answer 6

I think you should not marry this guy at all. If you are thinking like you are going into BUSINESS with this guy,

#1 This is a wrong step to do in a marriage.

#2 Why would you decide to cheat, if you choose to get married? DON'T YOU THINK YOU, IF YOU THINK OF CHEATING YOU ARE NOT MEANT TO BE MARRIED??

#3 Since when Marriage became a solely money making business ??

Sorry dear, No drafts from me for pre-nup. Best of luck with the choices in your life.

Answer 7

If he cheats, physically abuses you or decides that he wants to leave, for whatever reason, you feel you should be compensated. Okay. The agreement can specify payments for any of the above should you wish it, in percentages or actual dollars. It will not, however, become void. If I were your fiance, I would have no problem paying for your lawyer in this matter.

Answer 8

Here's a suggestion. Consider what the future will hold for you if you marry this example of selfishness. It won't get better, and you can find love and happiness with someone else. Unless you are marrying him for his financial security, I see no reason to tie the knot with that guy.

I had a pre-nup presented to me by her lawyer/mother, whom I summarily told what to do with the pre-nup in a highly non-politically correct way. The act of a pre-nup told me that there was love in our relationship, but it came after money. I'm still happy that I did that 2 years ago.

Answer 9

So what you want is a double standard. Kind of a screw you clause. Good luck sweet stuff. I can come up with some drafts for you. Hopefully they will draft you to Iraq. They need fighters like you there and lord knows none of GWs friends or aquaintences will set foot there.

Answer 10

I don't think that you should marry him, as there seems to be limited trust between the two of you.