help my friends trying to steal my wife!!!!!?

Question

as u may have seen on my last question i have been a jerk to my wife latley so badly im worried she will leave, but now my best mate who ive known since we were kids is trying to make his move i know how he goes about getting girls and his doing this to my wife!! when i was being r jerk he was there for her and they become close but how do i tell him thanx but back off

my wife and his girl friend a best friends and my wife has said back off. he told her he masturbates over fanaties of her(my wife)

ok people seem to be confused. my wife told him to back off and that she cares for him as a friend but not lover. but with me betraying her im scared she might give in.

Answer 1

hey,when it comes to your wife there are no best friends.its time to stop being Mr Nice Guy to your so called BFriend,you need to give your wife something to make her want to be with you, like surprise her by taking her away for the weekend,if you wont it to work with your wife, then you are going to half to make her fall in love with you all over again.start treating your wife the way you use to treat your Bfriend.make her your BEST FRIEND.there's a big difference in loving and being in love.

Answer 2

I'd tell that guy to back off. So what if it's controlling, in this case it's warranted. He's disrespecting your marriage and taking advantage of your wife's worries and playing up the nice guy routine. Then when she gets mad, show some passion about the relationship and what it means to you. She needs your true deep down feelings about this marriage and what her and this marriage means to you. The animal instinct in her will be somewhat attracted to that anger and raw emotion so long as you DO NOT blame her, just win her emotions back. Maybe she doesnt feel as pretty since having another child, she wants to feel like she's still the most beautiful and this fool is probably filling her head with all this junk. Don't let this chump continue man, lay the law down! He's giving her what's missing from you(in her eyes) and that's attention and kind words. *Edit* Ok so you have her email. Use this to your advantage. She may be saying things you're not doing to him or things she is unhappy with. Don't get angry if you read these things but learn from it, change it, do those things. *Edit* I dont know any guy that goes 1500 miles for some coffee and a donut. That's a new twist on it. Man I'd monitor all the emails I could to get as much as I could on the big picture of this 'friendship'. That's uncalled for dude. What you do is tell her to end that relationship and that's final. I"f you don't end it, then i'll call him myself and end it for you". Then monitor what emails, text messages go back and forth to get the true nature of it. That chump should be nothing but an afterthought after a heavy fart.

Answer 3

If your wife told you to back off after your mate told her what he does when he thinks about her maybe his wife should know about that???? Also...if she refuses to communicate with you about this then give her some space and wait it out awhile...if that does not work...you don't need your friend or your wife....betrayal hurts but your wife should forgive you for being a jerk if you've sincerely apologized and have changed your jerky ways.

Answer 4

It might already be too late, but here's some FYI for everyone, one person can NOT steal another's wife/husband/partner UNLESS that person WANTS to be stolen. I hope you and your wife are able to work things out and that you get your fair weather friend OUT of your life, but if it doesn't work that way, you can use this as a lesson on how to treat women you want to STAY with. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Take my advice .. cut your relation ship with your friend and start with your wife again because believe me she will leave you if you being as a jerk with her and in the same time your friend trying to take his steps and being a good friend to her.. you have to be her best friend and show her that no one can lover as much as u do.. :) make her happy and let her enjoy every second she spend it with u.. so she feel every time she is sad or happy come to u not for your friends...

good luck ..

Answer 6

if he was a true friend, he would never take your wife. I would just come out and tell him that you are going to fight for her, and that you think she is seeing another man right now, but don't let him know that you know it is him, and then tell him that when you find him, that you are going to kick his butt, and that he will be sorry. this way he knows that you are serious about your wife. If he don't stop then kick his butt and tell her that you want a divorce if she defends him

Answer 7

Kidnap someone her size, give her surgery to look like your wife.
Lock her in the basement untill the scars heal.
Then tie her to your friends bed.
After she calls the police on him (never seeing yYOUR face)
He will never go near your wife again.

Answer 8

Unless u r a "lousy" man otherwise if yr wife is so "easy" to steal....y do u still want her? Even u can make her stay this time wat abt next time? Let her go if i were u... it meaningless to keep some1 by yr side n keep worrying that she might w another man!

Answer 9

If your wife loves you and is meant to stay with you then you won't have to worry about it. It's really up to her not to go with your friend. If she is bent on leaving you then it doesn't really matter who she is going to be with next. But if she loves you still and wants to be with you then she won't go whether your friend tries to get her or not.

Lose your friend, obviously he isn't a good one. Good luck!

Answer 10

Have you spoken to your wife about this?
Maybe you should...by doing that you will have if not the complete answer at least part of it..