I m in Job & in love with a person younger in age then me. Will Our marriage is possible & Successful?

Question

I m in Love with Mr. Shashi Ranjan who is the Student of B.Tech(IT) first year .He is a very nice & honest person having lots of patience to handle every situation. I m working in a university and is elder than him by 5 years. I m inspired with his honesty, practibility, generousness. I belongs to punjabi (Khatri) family, whereas he belongs to Yadav (backward class). We want to marry but not a single person of any one of our family is going to support us. what should we do? If we get married will our marriage will be the successful one?

Answer 1

A marriage is what you make of it.
Any marriage can work as long as there is trust, honesty, faithfulness, communication, and love.

Even if nobody else is in favor of you marrying it does not mean that it can not work.
But you also need to stop and reflect and try to understand what it is that everybody else sees that you are not.
Why does nobody else believe that your marriage would not work?
If you and he still feel that you can make it work together, then go for it.
You are not marrying his family and he is not marrying yours.

Just remember that when you take those vows then you are vowing to forsake all others.
You will honor him and be by his side no matter what your family says or does.

And when family does not agree with the marriage then they can tend to make things very difficult on you. You have to be able to take it, and not let it interfere with your marriage.

Answer 2

There is no way of guaranteeing that your marriage, or anyone else's marriage for that matter, will be successful. It doesn't matter if you are in an arranged marriage or found someone on your own. Whether or not your marriage is successful depends on both of you, how much you both bring to the marriage, whether or not you both love each other, etc. The fact that you have to ask that question leads me to believe that you have doubts. Or, you know that your family wants you to have an arranged marriage and because you are not wanting to follow in that type of arrangement then you are afraid. I can see two things happening. First, you need to have a talk with your family so they understand where you are coming from. If they truly love you and want you to be happy then they will understand and support you. Second, you need to really think about if you love this person or if you love the idea of this person or if you love the idea of loving a person that you found on your own and without an arrangement.

Answer 3

Marriage is until death. When you speak those words "Till death do us part " THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT IT MEANS. Marriage is not about love . I know this may shock many people , but is just not about love. MARRIAGE IS A COMMITMENT - BOTTOM LINE ; FOR BETTER OR WORSE. When we marry , we make a commitment to stick by OUR ORDAINED LIFETIME SOULMATE through thick and thin. No one fells out from love, they fell out from commitment. If you feel that you don't love your ordained lifetime soulmate anymore , the you have to work that much harder to refresh the marriage and develop new ways of sharing each other. The problem is we live in what I call a " Fast Food Could Care Less Society " ...... it's me , myself & I { I want what I want and I want it now } the problem is marriage is NOT fast food . It takes years of cultivation , nurturing , and God centered. A vow is a vow. God takes vows very seriously so we should do the same. A Happy marriage is not a destination - it is a journey. Divorce should never be an option no matter what . Divorce means quit and it's the coward's way out like is killing oneself is. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence is a big fat lie because on the other side of the fence is ALWAYS brown and it brings death. Second , third , fourth marriages after divorce is adultery. God is NOT a God of compromise. Life is not consequences . LIFE IS DECISIONS, AND LIKE THEY SAID , YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW !!!

Answer 4

First you need to get to know Mr. Shashi Ranjan before you want to get married. You need to get on a first name basis. You are saying nobody of your family is going to support you. Did you mean financially? Maybe you should first finish your school and find a job and then get married. If your marriage is going to be successful depends on you and Mr. Ranjan on how hard you work on it. Good luck!

Answer 5

The two of you will be married so how could you let others run your lives I think you should go for it because the whole reason people get married is to start there own family and life and as far as age it doesn't mean any thing when people are in love

Answer 6

Let him complete his B Tech and let him start earning on his own. That would be another 4 years. If both you are serious about your relationship, that is not much. Then you can get married no matter whether your families support you or not. A successful marriage depends a lot on the partners concerned.

Answer 7

is the feeling mutual- age has no bar but in relationships like these, most partners end up finding either Father figures or Mother figures, and that is the end of the relationship. a correct difference of age would probably be 2 years more or less. Be careful this is just infatuation. Then the religion thing. But in that case if you decide to marry, if both the sides dont accept the marriage and you both want to marry, you have to forget about your parents and elope, FILMI ISHTYLE.

Answer 8

Answer yourself these questions & then decide.
1. Can you wait till he completes his education & gets a job?
2. Are you both ready to take risk of being thrown out of your respective families?
3. Do your future plans & aspirations match?
4. After 10-15 years, may be your age difference will look more prominent? are you ready to face & tackle such a situation?
5. If you get married right now, do you have finance to live on your own & pay for his studies & expenses?
6. Close your eyes & imagine you are on death bed & you get one extra breath from God. Who would you want to talk in this extra time? This will answer who you love most.
Good Luck

Answer 9

My Dear, for marriage a woman must be matured that u are and qualities you told about the guy are must for a successful marriage life. But there is a difference of your families. I am also a Punjabi and i know the customs but i belive that if you both are sincere and committed then u will lead to a successful life. just do it and trust in God.

Answer 10

You have to ask yourself what important to you. Love? or pleasing your family? Personally I think your family will always love you but they may be upset. I would go for whatever makes you happy. If you two love eachother and want to get married then I suggest you do so keeping it mind that trials and tribulations will arise. Love conquers all and if you truly love eachother then you both will get through this and the marriage will survive! By the way...Age ain't nothing but a number! Good Luck.