i feel that i failed my husband,and i've even tried to kill myself because of it.?

Question

if i was a good wife,then my husband wouldn't had went to another woman.when it came to sex i had never told my husband no.not because i was afraid he would step out on me because i enjoy taken care of his need's .i would just like to know what i did wrong ,why did i fail him??

i would like to give everyone that answered my question the best answer everybobody that did was every helpful that you...and all of you are right.....i am not the one who failed he is the one that failed us.

i would like to give everyone that answered my question the best answer everybobody that did was every helpful that you...and all of you are right.....i am not the one who failed he is the one that failed us.

Answer 1

As a woman you probably did fail him but you can make it up to him. But don't go doing stupid things like suicide if you are trying to make it up to him you can't make it up if you are dead.

Answer 2

No man is worth killing yourself over or women for that matter. It sounds like you tried to do all you could to keep hi happy in the sex department. It was not your fault. Some people, men and women, seem to think that it's alright to cheat on their spouse. They don't even feel bad about it. To them it just variety and conquest. You could do two things. Cheat on him too (which is not the perfect answer but might make him realize how much hurts) (also is a sin) or divorice him. If he has cheated on you once, there is a chanch that you only about this one time, but he may have been doing before and to him it's no big deal. He still loves you, really. You have a very important decision to make, especially if there are children around. Do not kill yourself for this man for any reason. He is not worth it. I tried it once and a week later he chjeated onme. A few days after that, I filed for divorce. See what happens when you confront him abount his affair and then go from there, Forgive, open the marriage, see how jealous he gets, or divorce.. Above all, don't hurt yourself and if he hurts you, put him in jail for abuse. Good Luck!!! Sharon N.

Answer 3

There is no man worth a life of a woman, and sometimes man like a little resistance if they find something too easy they get bored, some women do too. Dont worry try to live one day at a time and when the time is right you will notice that you have healed, dont think about how long it will take just one day at a time. Do seek friends for support and so they can help you forget, not remind you of the past.

Answer 4

Hon, believe me you are NOT at fault here. A man who cheats would cheat even if his wife was perfect. A cheater is all about them self. It isn't even about love or sex it is about their own selfish need to get some feeling of power when cheating.

YOU didn't fail him.....HE FAILED YOU!!!

Please get yourself out of the passive agressive role and KNOW for a FACT that HE FAILED YOU.

I can't stress this enough that you didn't fail him. He was unfaithful to his marriage vows. You have been faithful.
Can't you see that you are looking at this backwards??? HE FAILED YOU. The question is why did he fail you? He is a unreliable creep. You might love the guy all your life but you don't have to be abused this way in your life. What happened in your past that made you think it was ok to be cheated on?

Time to change hon. You are your own advocate....don't take this guys crap any longer. He cheated. You didn't. If he wants other women then he needs to be single again. Please don't let him repeat this behavior again. HE either lives up to his marital vows or you need to say BYE BYE to him.

And if you have kids don't stay for the kids. From experience that hurts the kids worse than leaving.

I want to make sure you know that YOU didn't fail. HE DID!!!

Repeat after me.......HE FAILED YOU....HE FAILED YOU

Answer 5

that is a question that you may never know. My husband ran off with my best friend, and they stole my horses and that is what hurt me the most, loosing the horses. I think that I was a good wife, I worked, took care of all the horses, the cattle, the goats, the chickens, and the dogs, I cleaned everyday, I cooked, our sex life was good, when we were building our house, I lived for two years with no indoor water, and no electricity and never complained. I put up with his mother for 13 years, and never complained, I don't know what else I could have done either. But you know what, it is his loss, and I don't even care about him now. It is going on 4 years now, and I am happier now than I ever could have been with him. I now have two kids, and am very happy. You just have to hold your head up, let it slide off your shoulders, and not worry about why he was a jerk to you and just know that you will find someone better and will be happy again...

Answer 6

Never blame yourself honey its all his fault!He took vows and he should of stood by them.Never think of harming yourself for no man they are not worth it.Honey Ive seen men cheat on their wife's when the wife's were better looking then the women they cheated with .And wife's who give their husbands sex when ever they want it and they still cheat there really is no reason some just do it to do it.Not all men are like that but alot are.Don't bash yourself for his wrong doings!Id simply ask what went wrong and why did you feel you had to cheat?But i wouldn't for one minute blame my self. Hope you get some self esteem about your self and put the blame where it belongs and that's with him.Good luck

Answer 7

It is learnt from the question that you were not a failed wife. You satisfied your husband's needs despite the fact that he went to other women for satisfaction of his sexual needs. You are a good wife. Your husband is not good man as he is going to other women despite the fact that a good wife like you is available in his home. Your husband is not faithful man. He is trying to pass his time with you . He is also going to other women for sexual needs. In my opinion you are a very good wife. You are not failed. It is your hubby who is not sincere with you and he is having sex with other women. Good Luck. Continue to do this. One day he will come to you and will not go away.

Answer 8

You shouldn't blame yourself as its not entirely your fault. Your husband knows you are there for him giving him WHATEVER he wants when he wants, so he maybe thinking he can go flirt around with whoever he feels like, you'll always be there for him. Try to take care of his needs but give yourself space too. Another reason maybe that he feels that you are ONLY his wife, meaning that, in a marriage both partners sometimes like each other to be Sexy. During sex , I have noticed, men like to hear their wives fantasize about other men (not all men). Ask your hubby what he wants from you sexually, playing games is sometimes quite healthy. Just being the obedient housewife can become boring for yourself and ur spouse.

Answer 9

Perhaps u havent taken enough care of him, to keep a man u have to give him special attention. Stepping in his bed each time he asks u for doesnt mean u take care of his needs,perhaps he needed u to listen to him which u havent. But suicide isnt a solution if u have accepted he quiting ur life then i think u shud take a lil more courage to live and lives goes on.

Answer 10

what your husband did was selfish. he did not think of your feelings what so ever. at that point, it didn't matter how great you are as a wife, he was going to cheat on you anyways. i understand that right now you feel extremely vulnerable and wondering why he left you when you didn't do anything wrong. just know that he did what he did and you did your best as a wife. now you should move on and make yourself happy.

and yes...you didn't fail him, he failed you!

Answer 11

First ...you need to stop blaming yourself for his cheating. Men and women cheat on their spouses because they don't value their relationships. You may have done something,but he really harmed your relationship. How can you trust him again? How can you enjoy making love to him when he has been with another woman? And why on earth are you blaming yourself? Go get some counseling and see if that doesn't help you. Then consider leaving his nasty *** for someone who will respect you and your relationship. You haven't done anything EVER that should make you want to take your own life...maybe you are depressed? Get help! Please