I feel like a HORRIBLE person!!?

Question

What does it mean if a guy gives you direct eye contact all the time, smiles at you a lot, tries to make you laugh, touches you lightly a lot on the shoulders and back, gets jealous when other guys flirt/hug you, and is always is a gentleman and helps you out? Also, he calls you "mucho bonita" OH and btw: what if y'all don't speak the same language but can roughly communicate and their is a "spark" or connection between them. And when he talks to you he stares into your eyes and stands really close. and one girl said he's married, which he sure doesn't act it : why would he act this way?? oh also I am a Christian girl and I would never ever cheat with a married man because that is against my morals. I am not interested in a sexual relationship with him b/c I'm saving myself for marriage. I just genuinely like/care about him, but I don't want to fall for a guy who could be married....and I would feel horrible, absolutely awful for liking him if he's married. Why does he behave this way?

Answer 1

You haven't done anything that warrents you feeling so horrible. Everything he's doing is designed to make you feel that he's attracted to you, and it's working. Latino men are masters at seduction...that's why they have the "Latin lover" image. This person finds you attractive and wants to become physically intimate with you. Generally, Latino men cheat on their wives whenever they have the opportunity to, so find out for sure if he's married or not. If you ask him directly, he'll probably lie through his teeth, so be indirect about it...tell him you already know he's married and he'll probably confirm it. Latino men almost never wear wedding rings and being married will never stop a Latino from flirting. If he's over twenty, he's probably married...Latinos often marry at a young age. Anyway, if you can resist him and are only interested in friendship, then stay with your beliefs and morals and all should be fine. After a while, if he figures out that he can't get anywhere with you, he'll probably move on to paying attention to the next girl he thinks he'll have better luck at being sexual with.

Answer 2

If he is married and behaving this way it is because he is a dirt bag and a lousy husband. Also did you ever think he's just trying to get in your pants because you are a virgin which to him could mean a really good challenge. If he is always saying what you want to hear it's probably lip service to, once again, get in your pants. Tell him to back off and be friends only. If he can't accept that then tell him to shine on to another bimbo because you're not that naive. I hope.

Answer 3

ur not a horrible person.
dont fall for the "good guy" act.
while it might feel great to receive attention, you can find a guy who is more compatible with you. who shares interests with u and who isn't just looking to get into ur pants.
the fact that u are a good girl (good job btw) may be the reason why he is so "romantic". (havent u read lil red riding hood? underlying meaning=guys are wolves trying to corrupt innocent girls)
of course this is a great generalization. not all guys are bad....just make sure u go for the good guys, not the wolves.
theres nice guys waiting for girls like you. just be smart and know that saying no and keeping with ur virtues is the best way to go.
hope things work out

Answer 4

Cause men are pigs and they just want to dip their weeny.....Sorry but that's the way I see it. Married men are off limits and if you know he's married, then you should tell him that he's was out of line. NO flirting at all! Just think of how you would feel if you were married and your hubby was doing this to you. I always put myself in others shoes when deciding what to do in any situation. Hope I helped.

Answer 5

Well the first thing you need to do is ASK him if he is married!
secondly you should just be friends with him first anyway. If you were truely friends then you would find out he is married by way of knowing him. At this point it sounds like he is just an aquaintance.. and that is ok, and its ok to have a crush on someone. However if you want to continue to have these feelings for him , you should find out if he is married, and if he is married you should not have any contact with him , because he is flirting heavily with you and that is not ok for a married man to be doing. you dont need the drama that can bring, trust me!
Do NOT compromise your morals for anything or anyone! because you will be the one that pays for it not them!
Good luck and God bless

Answer 6

He wants to scr*w you, marry you, get his green card, and then dump you. Happens all the time. He probably already has at least one wife back in Mexico or Guatemala someplace.

Answer 7

Preguntale primero si esta casado o no y si esta casado dejalo inmediatamente y sepa que el no te dice l verdadad y solo quiere disfrutar con tigo.

Answer 8

He's trying to pick you up. If you feel like you are developing an attachment to him, it's because you are. If you don't want this to turn sexual, then cut off your "relationship" with him right now. If you don't, you'll regret it later.

Answer 9

If you feel like a horrible person you're probably not. Only people with faulty consciences don't feel that way.

Make it clear through your actions and conversations that you're friends and nothing more.

Answer 10

ITS NOT YOUR FAULT.
He finds you tempting and he will answer for his unfaithfulness. You are doing the right thing by refusing to give in to his advances. I wish to God, I could have saved myself for marriage instead of who I was with.

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