that could not be repaired in utero or afterwards, would u have the child or abort it? say you learned it at 5 months gestation.
think something like down syndrome or
spina bifida (but it cannot be repaired)
2006-08-22 18:52:40 · 17 answers · asked by chapped lips 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
if my wife was pregnant i say bring it on... what other challenges god has for us???
i can give examples
(beethoven was deaf, stephen hawking in wheelchair...greatest mind of the century...etc)
but please... i just need to say this...
if it was me that was pregnant i might jump off a bridge
lol....sorry i am a guy.
2006-08-22 20:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have a lot to say on this since it happened to me. Except I found out at 4 months. I decided to keep him. He'd have to go through many heart surgeries. He had half of a heart and partial chromosome deletion. I figured either way I lose him ...through abortion or if he dies on his own. Either way you greive. He did die, at 6 days old. 2 days after his open heart surgery. But, I saw his face, held him and that was better than doing an abortion. Sure, I would not have had to endure the suffering as much, but also would have wondered what might have been. I can't say it is best for everyone, because you do have to see too much and figure out how you are going to handle suffering of your child. Nothing can prepare you. I don't know if there is a 'right' choice. There is always a chance the child will be one to live a fairly normal life...but there are many who do really suffer too much. And there are no promises. Even children born healthy are stricken with diseases and suffering sometimes. And I have not heard of many children with disabilities wish they had not been born at all. The nature of human spirit is to perservere. You never know. Life can't really be guaranteed for anyone. Sometimes having a sick child brings rewards you do not know of. There are so many groups out there to support all kinds of handicaps for children. So, thats my thought, I'd do it again. As for anyone else, there is no judgement of right or wrong. It is a difficult decision that is not envied by anyone.
2006-08-24 01:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by livelaughlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep the pregnancy going on as long as possible. Not all birth defects are grossly serious. Like DS. Most children live happy healthy lives, only a few have problems such as heart defects that do not allow them to live so long. But how do you know which babies are which? How can you make a predetermination, play god?
My cousin was told her baby boy had lots of birth defects and probably would not survive the entire pregnancy. She was given the choice, and chose to let him go on as long as possible. Knowing he could die at any time. She experienced the pregnancy and bonding with him, felt his movements, etc. and gave birth to him at full term. He did have many deformities, but his face was perfect and he lived for 4 hours with his mother and father before moving on. (No suffering.) He touched all of us forever, and my cousin would never have changed anything for the whole world. She lost him, her first baby, but since then she has given birth to two more - a girl and a boy.
Did her choice hurt her or her family? Did her choice cause him to suffer in any way? I think not. It was a better choice than to end his life voluntarily.
Another personal example. I was told my baby boy had the possiblity of having DS. He was indeed born with it, and he is the best kid. He has few problems, physical, mental, etc. My only true concern is his speech delay. But hell, I can live with that! So glad he is here with me! Determined to help him enjoy and live a happy and full life. Can't believe others would consider cutting a baby's life short!
I hope this helps you. Good luck to you.
2006-08-23 10:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mahira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To protect my child yes. I couldn't live with myself knowing that I had brought a child into this world who will not have a chance at a normal life. If the child would not be able to walk, talk, take care of him/herself why put him/her through that? A child like this would need help their entire life and what would happen when I was gone? Who would take care of him/her? It would be selfish of me to want to put my child through a lifetime of pain just because I wanted a baby. It would hurt but I would rather spare my child from a lifetime of pain and suffering.
2006-08-23 02:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Extending on the "you can't have an abortion after 5 months", I'd just have to note that it's foul murder to abort at that stage. The baby's already developed into a full-human being, not that it wasn't when it was conceived.
If you're in this situation, be a benefactor, and don't murder.
2006-08-23 02:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by AxisofOddity 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats a personal choice, and a very hard one at that. Such a condition would be the only reason to even consider an abortion.
Me personally, id still have it.
2006-08-23 01:56:55 · answer #6 · answered by spdbunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the doctors give you a decision I would not go through with the birth. Why put the child through pain and suffering he/she may not need, not to mention what pain you would suffer with a very sick child if that is the case. Many marraiges fail when a child is gravely ill.
2006-08-23 01:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by nicegal36 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
5 months is too long.....no doctor in his right mind would abort. I wouldn't abort if it was 2 months, but that's just me.....every life is precious.
2006-08-23 02:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian, abortion is killing a baby. Fetus is a word scientist made so they could justify abortion. Abortion is murdering. The Bible says that the baby should live. Please do not abort.
2006-08-23 02:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by doglas p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a difficult situation, to say the least.
2006-08-23 01:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋