sleeping with a married woman- updated question?

Question

i asked this question previously- in a nutshell i am a 39 year old physician that is sleeping with a 23 year old married nurse, for about 2 weeks now. I received the feedback answers before, but i need new advise. she has been great and i am really enjoying time with her, not only sex. she has a daughter that i want to meet. this nurse is gorgeous, blonde hair, blue eyes, looks like a playboy model. she was homecoming queen a few years back. i never had a girl that is this hot and like her, i want her, am i still doing the wrong thing....

Answer 1

are you married? You really should break it off. It's not right to assist in breaking up her marriage and causing that damage to her daughter.

she's not only cheating on her husband, she is in essence cheating on her daughter.

do you want to be a party to the destruction?

And by the way - if she were to divorce and marry you - who will be her next victim? She would cheat on you as easily as she does with her current husband.

Answer 2

*Puts on a Viking's helmet*

Keep the relationship going. It just might end suddenly while you're not so prepared to accept it. She's the one cheating her husband and you're just fulfilling her desires, unless you're married, too, so what's there to lose, ey? You're winning!

Still concerned about what's going on? Is the relationship really wrong or right? Ask yourself again and again and make your imagination work... how much do you really want to have a woman like her? How much do you really fantasize about sleeping with a playboy bunny (yeah she's not a playboy bunny but she looks like one, ey)? How good does it feel to see yourself as the luckiest guy in the whole wide world to have sex with a woman like her without any serious obligation? How painful could it be if you lose her? How would it feel to be caught by somebody you wish would never catch you screwing somebody's wife? How would it feel to realize that you are a contribution to a young family's (not so impossible) destruction? And how hard would it be to deal with shame?

Nah... you're not ready to give her up yet. You rather think you will suffer if you lose her now. You rather prefer for her to break the relationship than you starting it. In fact, the relationship is still young and you're not getting enough yet... so what the hell, yeah?

But, hey, Karma is a real bítch -- it'll "definitely" make you feel like you wanna fúck your own áss. But why worry? You don't know what karma will bring you at the end of your fun, do you?

*Lits a cig*

Answer 3

Bro, I'm 24 and I definitely think a 23 yr old chick should not be married but the kid probably has something to do with that. I had an affair with a married woman (25) when I was 20 and regretted after wards, especially when I found out how pitiful her husband was. Reading your comments though, it sounds like you are just infatuated with the fact that you are getting some 23 yr old poon that sounds hot. I can't blame you there but I guess it depends on your view of marriage. Personally I have no faith in the institution but as I said I regretted the one time that I interfered.

Answer 4

You are married and you are seeing a 23 year old "girl".She is the bestlooking girl that you have been with and the sex is awesome.
You want to meet her daughter..I wouldn't.You may be out with your
wife someday soon,and run into your girlfriend and her daughter,hopefuly,your "girlfriend will look the other way but do not count
on her young daughter to do the same.You know she will approach you and than you will be answering lots of quetions.
Is your wife pretty? What other positive attributes does she possess? Why did you marry her "if" you didn't plan to obey your vows. Please.break it off with your 23 year old lover,and pray she doesn't stalk you and your family.She is looking for an older man to be a father to her daughter, and a husband to
provide for her and her daughter for the rest of their lives.( she likes it that you are a successful man and have made some excellant money.....I hope that you are using birth- control and that you are the one buying and purchasing one condom at a time ( she may prick a hole on a box of rubbers that you previouly bought and left there.Also, she may stop taking her birth control pill,so that she will become pregnant with your child.) I am being so serious.
The exact thing happen to my friend.I t ruined hid marriage and he lost his home,children,and has to pay alimony,and child support for his 3 children.
He didn't have anything to do with the woman that became pregnant with his child.He does pay child support and 1/2 of daycare expenses for that child too.You will have a hard time after divorcing,finding another woman that will become involve with you.
Why don't you go to a Psychologist and talk to him/her.They will help you.I hope that you haven't told anyone about this affair or that this girl didn't either(she did)!!!!!!!! Also talk to your wife and tell her the truth,it has only been a 2 week ,affair.She will be angry,but i hpe that she will trust you again in time.
Do things that will earn her trust, and If she wants to seperate then do it.Please,give her time to decide what her heart wants.Offer to go to Counseling with her,this will help the both of you.
This 23 yearold home-coming queen.playgirl only wants yout money,and a husband and father for her daughter..Why can't you see this?I pray that she isn't pregnant.Buy a pregnancy test at the drugstore and have her do it in front of you...so you know it is true.Than if she brcomes pregnant have a dna test run on you and the baby in question,she may have another man she is pursing.This is called blackmail. Be careful,you know what the right thing is to do.I hope you wil get your life back on track and i hope you do not lose your family.It is going to take a long time for your wife to trust you again..let me know how it goes,e-mail me sometime.Good-luck.

Answer 5

Sweetie, you just want someone to tell you that it's okay to do what you're doing. But, it's NOT okay. She's actually a skank because she's not caring what she is doing to her family. It's not only her husband but also her child. And if she did leave her family for you what makes you think she wouldn't do the same thing to you after she's gotten whatever it is she wants out of you. Once a cheat; always a cheat. Please wake up before it's too late. You need to quit looking at the surface appearance and start looking at the heart and soul of people. Looks fade with time. It really sounds like neither one of you has any moral character at all. Quit thinking with your d*i*c*k and start using your brains. There is someone out there who will fill your expectations but if your messing around with a MARRIED woman you may miss out on the one that was made JUST for you. Good luck.

Answer 6

wow, I'm not going to say anything about the situation you are in of messing around with a married person because I think you already know deep down that is wrong on many levels.
Im going to ask you to think about this little girl she has. Don't you think it will not only confuse her but could quite possibly do some damage to her not only emotinally, but with her relationship with her mother & her daddy. No matter how you are introduced to this little girl, whether it be as the mothers friend, an uncle or what, she is going to pick up on the "feelings" going on between her mother & you. The father will find out one day so be prepared to deal with the back lash of that.
I don't agree at all with what your doing, but who am I to judge hey, firstly I don't know you & secondly it's not up to me to try & change your mind. I know I said I wouldnt comment on the relationship at hand, but I must!!
I'm just going to ask you to please realise what you are doing & think about all parties involved, that being the child & her father, because ultimatley they are the ones that are going to be really hurt by this deception. Your lover clearly is not thinking about them so I think you should be the bigger person & think long & hard abut it. If it is meant to be, then it is meant to be, perhaps this lover of yours is taking you for a ride? Maybe she just wants to proove to herself that even after having a baby & being married that she is still "homecoming queen" & can get who & what she wants whenever she wants it. Pretty selfish dont you think.
Do you think that if she left her husband & started up with you that she would remain loyal & faithful to you? I dont think so.
Be smart my friend, & do what is right by all.
Dont be a sucker & hang onto something that isnt pure & let it go.
Good luck, I dont envy you when the husband finds out whats going on.

Answer 7

Doc, please don't listen to all this moral crap being portrayed here. You are a man, and a man has to do what a man has to do. Don't feel guilty at all, and don't bust your brains on it too much. It's called life and everything happens for a reason. Be proud about your situation, by what I read she sounds like a wonderful girl, and it's not your fault that she had to hook up with that loser of her husband, she knows it and you know it, and perhaps you deserve her, and she is there for your taking. Keep your chin up and ride with pride. Make her feel like you are the man she needs by her side. Win her daughter also, it works wonders with women. Just be happy and keep it on, cause ultimately this is what life is all about, you know, the pursuit of happiness. So screw all these moral fools brainwashed by society and brought up with so many limitations on their minds. Age is just a state of mind, it's how you feel that matters. You are really enjoying your time with her and this is all that should be in your mind, cause if you were to die right now you will die a happy man, and I'm sure that deep inside you feel this way many a times. If she decided to share her life with you there is a good reason behind it, perhaps you are offering her more than her husband ever has or ever will, and I'm not talking about material crap, I'm talking about the important stuff in life. So claim what's yours! Go get her!

Answer 8

I am afraid that it is against the sociteal norms.
but at the same time, since both of u are adults and more so consenting ones, there is nothing wrong in the relationship which i hope is based on the mutual trust and physical needs only and not to get some undue advantage or under any pressure.

Answer 9

Wow. I always thought doctors were supposed to be smart. I don't mean to be rude but think about this. She has made a committment to her husband and her daughter to be a member of their family. What you and the mother are doing is grossly unfair to the husband and the child. Don't you think the child deserves better than that? You do not need to meet this child, you shouldn't even exist in her world. If there's a problem with the family, they need to work that out by themselves. I don't understand why you can't find your own woman. You say you're a doctor. You're fairly young, you should have no problem finding your own woman/family (unless you already have one, in which case, you are extra-crappy). If you're single, stop selling yourself short and find yourself a woman who's availble to give herself to you fully, without the guilt. (My $.02)

Answer 10

I am not going to judge you... that is not my place...
:)

But I am happy that you are happy...

Your girlfriend should really end her marriage though. If she likes you so much, why is she still with her husband? Did she ever tell you why?

And what are your intentions... do you want a serious relationship with this woman? Or is this just a fling for you?

If it is just a fling, I can see why she won't end her marriage...

In the end, if you are both consenting adults who understand the consequences of your actions. If the risk is worth it... then enjoy it while you can.

T.

Answer 11

Well, no one has the right to brake a marriage. It's dangerious. Everybody is going to end up hurt, but specially the little girl. Think about her; she might never be the same after living a divorce. Her parents also will end up hurt, and you too.

Please, stop doing what you're doing. No one wants to be cheated. "Treat others as you would like them to treat you". Respect this man's wife.

God bless you!