Its my 6 month anniversary on friday,
I thought it would be nice to get my boyfriend a small gift (im 26, hes 29). anyway, Im terrible at keeping secrets, I get excited about buying gifts for people, so I txt him monday, saying I had bought him something small for our 6 month anniversary.
He got really angry, and told me that you should only celebrate 1yr anniversarys, and that I sent him a txt monday, to make him feel guilty so he would buy me a present.
we had a huge fight about it, I didnt expect him to get me anything, I thought I was doing something nice.
guys what do you think? Is he f..ked in the head?
2006-08-22 18:22:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow. That seems pretty dumb to accuse you of that? It was a nice thought and he's just being a jerk.
2006-08-22 18:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by Nixxy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys don't communicate as much as it sounds like you would want to with him. Maybe HIS family doesn't celebrate 6 month anniversaries. Maybe he's superstitious and feels it would " jinx " your marriage. Did you ask him WHY he got so angry? That he said you did it to make him feel guilty and to buy you a present wasn't nice,and if it hurt you, you should tell him. Talk about this! I would think Arguing about something small like an anniversary would be silly, However it could hint to problems about his personality that you don't want to spend another anniversary around (i.e. he could be f..ked in the head....what is his parent's marriage history? It could explain his behavior..) I'm 23 and don't think most people around our age should get married ,we still have a lot of life to live to be bogged down in a "relationship" that has an 80% chance of divorce. Enjoy your life and remember that most men are Emotionally Constipated !
2006-08-23 01:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no right to get "really angry" over something like this, which is a simple matter of guy thing/girl thing. I'm probably jumping the gun a bit here, but I think you should make this anniversary your last.
In case you don't get it, to him this signals a relationship full of ridiculous anniversaries like the anniversary of our first kiss, our first holiday together, and (you might find this hard to believe but it's true) sets up the first of many formal steps to marriage and commitment.
Reassess your relationship with this guy, who sounds awfully rigid (not in a good way) and inflexible, and has a terrible temper. Is this potentially the father of your children? I hope you see what I mean.
2006-08-23 01:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys (at least me) feel guilty if they are bought something and don't give something in return. If I found out today that something was bought for what is basically not a real occasion, I would be a little upset because A) there would be zero chance of time to go shopping for something and B) after just soaking a bunch of cash in a DVD setup, subs, amp and stereo in my truck, I'm down to a little over $100
I wouldn't 'blow up' over it but would probably ask why it was done or why it wasn't talked about earlier.
2006-08-23 01:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by The::Mega 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being together with someone for six months would be a big deal to me too. One of my friends from high school used to celebrate what they called "sugar moons" which were their monthly anniversay. They married after being together for 5 years and are still very happy 13 years later.
He doesn't seem to be the right kind of person for you...I don't think this came out of nowhere. He's got to know that you really like him. Or should I say, "likED"? Guilt never works though, maybe if you had just said, it makes me happy that we've been together for six mos, and it would make me happy to celebrate with you...then you find out what he thinks about that without the guilt.
2006-08-23 01:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by starspangledgirl77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He def. overreacted. Its ok to buy people gifts for any occasion. I wouldnt go as far as saying he's messed up in the head, but he surely has some kind of issue, he may have truly believed you put him on the spot by buying him something, and he had no thought of getting you something. He acted so defensive, thats prolly why
2006-08-23 01:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were him, I would appreciate your gesture. It's always nice to be remembered and be surprised. I can't see any reason for getting upset. Even if I don't think it's necessary, I would not make a fuss about it. But then again, he might have his reasons. Or he could be simply insecured. And does not like to be put into an "inferior" position.
Perhaps he'll wake up come Friday !
2006-08-23 01:28:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweety its not his mistake but urs.firstly bcoz if u wanted to show ur luv then u shud hav given him a surprise.ur txtng means u r reminding him about the ocassion and expecting him to get u a gift.these guys r not particular about celebrating anniversaries.k
and not all ur 6 month anniversary.
but yes he too hav exaggerated the fact
ne ways best of luck
i hope ur fight resolves soon
2006-08-23 01:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that he is messed up in the head, I think that maybe you are getting a little to carried away, Your 26 act like it, right now it sounds like your still in high school.
2006-08-23 02:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by tinydancer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was just acting out bad he need to say he is sorry cause everybody not going to have a woman that going to want to buy a gift for him he need to act right.
2006-08-23 01:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋