When I think back to some of the things that I've said or done to loved ones over the years (and what has been said/done to me in return), I am just astonished by the level of cruelty. Even in my adulthood, I sometimes find myself using mean-spirited remarks against my wife that I would never be inclined to use against a co-worker or a complete stranger (i.e. someone far less important to me than my wife). It would seem that nearly all close relationships have this love/hate theme at their core. How can the two extremes co-exist? Is it possible that we *need* a bit of cruelty to keep us balanced - to keep us grounded?
2006-08-22 18:20:47 · 10 answers · asked by Wendel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I should point out that I am not looking for counseling here. I don't engage in any more or less arguments than your average Joe Shmoe and have become quite good at resolving disputes. But nonetheless, I cannot deny that the closest relationships always seem to spawn the most callous words during the 'heat of the moment'. It's that phenomenon that intrigues me.
2006-08-23 01:46:23 · update #1
It's thoughtless and mindless. People take one another for granted or seem to want the one up.
2006-08-22 18:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by Veevee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Bozo....Oh Sorry, You need to realize your wife is NOT a co-worker she is your pal, friend. If you treated your co-workers like your spouse then you'd be fired....See she puts up with your crap because she loves you BOZO. Be good to her you are the lead and she will respond likewise. I see this in my brother.
Try just stopping and walking away from being cruel. It will work wonders in your relationship
Dr Phil
2006-08-23 01:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Uncle Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime is cos ppl just love each other too much. So when things "mess-up" they r so mad tat they "sprite" each other hoping tat he/she can get the msg clear n never repeat the same mistake again.... but wen it happened again n again we tend to lose patience w each other so we hurt each other jus to make ourslf "feel better".....till the end of it then we realise tat how hurting it is but too bad watever has been done cant b undo.... so wat u can do is make it up to them.... but it always "hard" loa... cos lots of ppl can forgive but most cant forget....specially if it is so hurtful la....
2006-08-23 01:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by D@ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not a nessecity, its just that everyone makes mistakes in life. Thats why they put erasers on pencils.
-NmD!
2006-08-23 01:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loved ones don't selfish people cause turmoil. My mother was selfish. Wonder where the heck she is....
2006-08-23 12:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by murph_ltt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is that special
2006-08-23 01:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by jlnunez06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once expectation and others performance is differing.
2006-08-23 01:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by Raja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bc love is a battle field
2006-08-23 01:22:37 · answer #8 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yea...if we hate each other we eventually learn to love each other.
2006-08-23 01:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by crishbk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a sort of showing INTIMACY.
2006-08-23 01:23:17 · answer #10 · answered by a j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋