In in a marriage an both end up cheating, can God forgive you?

Question

We were married 25 years and in a verbal if not physical violent abuse marriage, I took 2 years of talking to a guy friend at work till it developed into something of no return. I told my husband way before anything started that I had feelings for another guy. It got worse. After I stopped for about a yearand the bad names were still going on to and at me for about a year, He went out on me for spite. I filed for divorice. He even maxed out my credit card and put her name on his credit card. It's been 5 years now, I am married again. But he loves me , and he is still the love of my life (high school sweethearts). What can I do now that I am remarried again, but nowhere near in love with my 1st husband or 25 years?

Ps. I am Married to a new Husband who is 7 years older than me. He was not the person that ruined my marriage. But I love my 1st husband with all my heart and sould but do want to not hurt my new husband. He is good to me but strange.

Answer 1

Of course when both of you truly repent from cheating and ask Jesus to be your Lord of your lives and stay in your ordained lifetime marriage than God will forgive you. That means both of you have to forgive each other and start working on your ordained lifetime marriage God gave both of you to have in the first place. MARRIAGE IS UNTIL DEATH. When you speak tose words "Till death do us part " THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT IT MEANS.No one fells out from love , they fell out from commitment. Marriage is a commitment - bottom line , for better or worse. When we marry, we make a commitment to stick by our ordainen lifetime soulmate through thick and thin. If our mate screws up and makes mistakes , forgive them , work it out and maintain your commitment. The problem is we live in what I call a " Fast Food , Could Care Less Society " .......... that is me , myself & I { I want what I want and I want it now } the problem is marriage is not fast food . It takes years of cultivation , nurturing , and God centered. A Happy marriage is not a destination - it is a journey.GOD IS THE ULTIMATE MATCH MAKER !! Divorce should never be an option no matter what. Divorce means quit, and it's the coward's way out like is killing oneself is. Divorce is ONLY for people who could care less for their ORDAINED LIFETIME soulmate and ordained family God gives them to have in the first place. Second , third , fourth marriage are adultery .................... that is one way ticket to hell . Those people have to truly repent from these marriages by returning to their ordained marriage God gave them to have in the first place. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence ..... that is a big fat lie from the enermy { the devil } because over to the other side is ALWAYS brown and death. Life is not consequences . LIFE IS DECISIONS !!! The hard core truth is people only see what they're prepared to see and like they said , you reap what you sow. Each moment you get from time in a day is always God so be wise on how you spent it because life is very very short. Everyone of us has a responsibility to live right. Hey I know what you are talking about abruse , my one & only husband was abrusing me and our 3 precious children . 5years ago we went through a horrilbe time in our marriage that is when my husband { Paul Heinz } cheated on me with my X- best friend and he stil is with her plus my older child is living there too. My husband could care less for me and for our 3 kids because he is looking out for # 1. If my husband did truly care deep in his heart and truly born again he would be with his ordained wife { me } and his ordained family who is our 3 kids & me. So I can say what I said here.

Answer 2

yes God will 4give u & ur spouse, but u both need 2 figure out why u have done this 2 each other. dont use Gods 4giveness as a crutch 2 continue doing sinful things & expect Him 2 4give u. if u 2 r unhappy & r seeing others, then perhaps it would b better 4 u 2 end the farce of a marriage & go ur separate ways. that way neither of u has 2 feel guilty 2 one another. however, it seems that once u do not have that partner, the grass does not seem 2 b as green onthe other side as it did when u were tog. so make sure this is something u both want. remember, communication is the best thing in any situation...good luck

Answer 3

Of course, God can forgive ANYTHING, I heard this song once, that said something about when you ask for forgiveness once and you then go back and ask God again, he'll simply reply with "what sin? Your sins are as far as the east is from the west, buried in the sea of forgetfulness" I know that might not be a great help but it really helped me once. No matter what you do how bad it may seem God still loves you. all you have to do is ask for it.....

Answer 4

The bible says that the only justification for paying for a divorce is adultery, or perhaps then it makes it clean which you're able to forgive one yet another. besides the shown fact that, i understand a lot of persons, my mom in regulation being one among them, who have been in abusive relationships the place the youngsters have been being harm besides. In her case, her husband knocked somebody else up and left her. no be counted if or no longer divorce is faulty, presently, it fairly is totally almost impossible to make somebody stay with you and get counseling in the event that they do no longer prefer to. If the guy you married does no longer have an identical perspectives on divorce as you do, you're the two extraordinarily lots screwed. it fairly is fairly unhappy, i understand. people could bypass into marriage watching it as a existence long dedication, understanding that they are in it for the long haul, no longer just some thing that they are able to get out of in the event that they become bored.

Answer 5

Always know that no matter what, as long as you ask for forgiveness god will always forgive you...The question here is can two forgive eachother. It is difficult enough to know that one person is cheating, let alone to find out your both doing the same things. Maybe this is a sign to open both of your eyes to see that maybe you do not care for one another like you thought you did..Think about it and pray. Good luck.

Answer 6

God will forgive you. Can you forgive yourself? If ask God again for forgiveness again. He will tell you I have no idea what your are talking about.
S, process and let go, It will eat you alive. Forgive yourself and ask forgiveness from your man. Forgive him also and mean it. Time is on your side, use it wisely.
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Answer 7

i thnk god has already done his job.
if a partner cheats on the other then god has played his role by letting the other to cheat on him.
that is both of u hav now lost ur true companions.
this is god's judgement
obviously v r his kids he wud forgiv us but initially he let all of us pay of the sins v hav commited so that v dont repeat them

Answer 8

Even if God doesn't forgive both of you will be together to get the punishment and again you will be cheating. God will forgive you to safeguard HIMSELF.

Answer 9

If you confess your sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive your sins and purify you from all unrighteouness.

1 John 1:9

Answer 10

God always forgives no matter :) HE's the greatest love of all :)