I believe in God with all my heart in soul, so I know that he is in charge of it all..........but I've come from a hard past.......a difficult childhood, and terrible relationhips. I've come a long way, and have learned how to be healthy , both mentally and physically. I'm so scared......I want to marry this man. Any words of advice, encouragement.........warning? I try my best to relax and just enjoy this, but there is this looming doom....a feeling that I'll lose this because I've never been this happy before.
2006-08-22 18:17:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
good question.I just turned 30 august 17,.I also have had it ruff.But just like you I keep trucking.When something hits I bounce right back up.Even in my marrage I still try to resist the good thing I have.Am I resisting because I don't think I deserve.I think very highly of myself now,and still find it hard to grasp.I know I deserve good things and people,but always find a way to push them away from the wall I've built from being hurt.We have to learn to forgive are selves but most of all the ones who've hurt us before,and then maybe true happiness will reveil it's self.Tell yourself your deserving and knowing you are two different things.If you know this person is good for you and the childern that you might one day bare,fear will only stop those dreams from happening.Go for it girl!!!
2006-08-22 19:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 00:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by merralee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God has been with u all the way and u know that, this is not the time to be scared not when u seem to find the thing or person that will make u happy :) God has given u the strength to go through the tough times, you're not about to back down on this one, are you ? God is there, always there..so, go for it and be happy :) u deserver it :)
2006-08-22 18:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
28 is a nice age .. let me quote the cliche : it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved before. So go ahead. Enjoy the relationship. And since you've experienced terrible relationships before, you would be in a good position as you should be prepared should the worst happen (knock on wood!).
And don't be too pessimistic cos I believe in 'self fulfilling" prophesies. Think positive and trust.
Good luck !
2006-08-22 18:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you sound like you are a survivor, and very strong person,
It is normal, to have fears and doubt, in fact, that tells me you do have it together..
My suggestion is re the person you are in love with,,
does he also love God, as you do? Does he share the same opinions, of God and the church etc?
If this man is a lover of the lord, and you, than you are blessed.. and even i f you are blessed, remember there
are always going to be problems, because this is not heaven,
Just do not let go of your values and dreams,and most importand your faith,,
good luck
2006-08-22 18:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? You can't change your past or control what happened. You have to learn to move on. I have been there and know how you feel. And I finally realized that it is ok to love myself and others as well. You need to realize that you came through it all and you are a strong person. You can do it. It may not be easy but keep telling yourself that you deserve it. Good luck.
2006-08-22 18:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure he is the one who will always have your back and be a positive person in your life... if you accepted god good all for it but dn't be like those people who try to force it... just know is this the man you want to be with for the rest of your life... or is this goingt o be one of those situations that a divorce happends in about 3 years.... you are a grown women... don't worry about the future if your happy now dont think its going to be taken away from you just enjoy that you have someone whos is going to love you until the wheels fall of...
2006-08-22 18:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by iLoVeKeELo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is there to be scared about you've had a relationship all ready with this guy and it sound 's like your just taking it to the next level go for it and seek counseling for your self to help you in your life good-luck
2006-08-22 18:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry...i'm in a similar situtation. i didn't have a difficult childhood but i have had some rough relationships. now i'm with a great guy who i'm afraid of losing. he proposed a couple weeks ago and i accepted. i just hope i never lose him.
well all i can say is "good luck'' and "i know how you feel".
2006-08-22 18:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by deerslayer_101884 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a personal relationship with God, then just pray to him ask him what you wish and put your trust in him. Surely, everything will be well for you and you won't be scared anymore.
2006-08-22 18:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by bradd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋