I'll be in Manila next month....what's the best way to meet a nice, well raised filipina?

Question

How do I approach her without offending her?

Answer 1

just be friendly, be nice, dont give green jokes because we filipinas tend to be very conservative even though we look like we're not, and always always always be polite.

and like what other people here have already said, if you want to meet nice, well raised filipinas stear away from the bars. there's a bigger chance for you to meet well-raised filipinas when you stay in coffee shops in weekends (most well-educated girls with jobs hang there after work hours cos that's where they go to unwind).

another thing, make sure that you smell good. we filipinas have very sensitive noses. :)

Answer 2

If you are looking for someone whom you could treat as a friend, and not someone you just want to have a "good time" with, then try to stay clear of the women in the bars and clubs around the Malate area. I'm not very proud of saying this (being a Philippine-born-and-raised Filipina myself), but there are a lot of Filipinas in such places who could just be looking to fleece you of your money and hopefully a chance at immigrating elsewhere, so they are not the places to meet reputable women. If you do want to meet Filipinas in such a setting, stick to the clubs in areas like Greenbelt 3, Power Plant, and Rockwell.

Although this is not a foolproof strategy, look around the coffeeshops and cafes of the malls during the weekends. The women who come to these places generally have stable jobs, are well-educated, and are usually willing to make friends if you are nice enough. Just don't be too forward, and certainly do not approach them if you have "other intentions" in mind. They might not give any indication of being on to you, but they probably will be; they are just too polite to say otherwise.

Oh, and another thing: remember to be polite. While being a little forward is not so bad, just be careful about where you toe the line, and how. This is just a precaution, because some Filipinas might be more conservative than they appear to be, even if they think and speak to a certain extent like Westerners, and can take offense at certain things - even if they don't say it. Once you have established a certain rapport, then maybe you can start pushing a little and being more forward.

One final thing: when you do go out and try to make friends, make sure you've bathed and scrubbed before you leave. Filipinas are easily turned-off by a man with strong body odor, and unfortunately, that seems to be the case with quite a few foreigners who come by for a visit - so much so that it's almost associated with them. Again, though they might not say it to your face, they will certainly be talking about it when you're out of earshot.

Answer 3

Don't go to bars or the usual hangouts favored by many singles.

People of the Philippines are generally good people, hard-working. Many are devout Catholics. You might want to go to church. If you have a relationship with a well-raised Filipina you will also have a relationship with her family.

Spend the time to learn about the culture and the people. Learn to like them.

Don't approach any Filapina female with the idea you are "picking her up." You may succeed in picking one up but she will not be the well-raised Filapina you are seeking.

By the way, I very much like the Filapinos and Filapinas I have known. I met a lot of them during the year I spent on Guam and they came to work in Vietnam when I was there as well.

Answer 4

As mentioned before, keep away from girls who work in bars, and/or hanging out in sleazy bars. Some girls would jump at the prospect of getting involved with a foreigner, esp. an American, because of the promise of the green card and eventual citizenship., not just for her, but her family.

Personally, the best way is if you are introduced to them by a friend (fellow American?) who has known the girl/s for quite a while and has some ideas about her background. Maybe a colleague at work and such.

Some tips on how to find the right girl:

1. If and when you do get smitten and pursue a long distance relationship, NEVER ever send money. That's the test of her love for you. She's independent and loves you for who you are, not what you can financially give her.

2. If possible, choose a girl with one sibling, maximum 2, ideally who have both graduated from college/university. That way, you don't have to pay for their education someday.

3. Take time to get to know her, maybe visit every 3 months, even arrive unexpectedly if you still have doubts about her background.

4., Don't get someone too young. Closer to your age range is always better.

I know its reeking of distrust, but hey, it's just a precaution because of all the horror stories written here.

Answer 5

Get introduced to her through a mutual friend, preferably a local. That's the best way. The process will take a lot longer than meeting a nice western lady. It will in most cases take years of courtship to maybe even get engaged and serious. You will need to meet the parents and you have to ask for their consent first. There will be a steep learning curve the whole way with learning the culture and customs.

Unless of course, you head out to a bar and hit on the first "lady" you see. I say that because the chances are good the lady at the bar is out to get your money, solely intent on getting to the U.S. through deception or, don't laugh, could be a very convincing transsexual. I'm serious, you would not be able to tell the difference until it's too late. Good luck.

Answer 6

I'm a filipina myself I would highly recommend you stay away from bars like in Quezon City, Manila areas like Malate and Pasay and Pasig.. But you can try around the malls like in Makati areas, also try around hotels and churches... Although like what some of the other guys said there are some filipinas that are just users, PLEASE BE CAREFUL of them..U can tell if they are like that because they will try to get laid with you to get them pregnant, and when they go get pregnant you have to marry them... or if they become so aggressive that they want to marry you asap..that only means they're using you.. also you can tell if their family is very weird towards you. All these are just some signs of not true filipinas... Am sorry for how some filipinas are.. I was born and raised in Guam so I really don't have those qualities.

Take care and enjoy.

Answer 7

Aside from staying away from sleazy places ...

(OT: not just in the Philippines mind you, oppportunists all over the world so don't listen to some of the people here generalizing what Filipinas are. Filipinos are highly literate, most are college graduates working in offices, not just at bars. and what's wrong with working in a bar anyway? )

... may I suggest you try speed dating in the Philippines? See this webclip: http://www.clickthecity.com/clipcast/default.asp?SHWID=7

You can be sure that people there will be screened. Anyway, just try to have nice, clean fun. Enjoy your stay! :)

Answer 8

Be a well-raised man, be civil to the ladies. If you treat them right, they will be approachable. They are much into western culture.

Oh, Filipinas nowadays go to bars, not to work but to unwind too. So, good luck.

Answer 9

Just approach her the way you would do to a Western lady. Filipinas have accepted Western (Spanish and American) culture a long time ago. They think, act, and speak like Americans.

Answer 10

You are going to have a hard time finding a well raised Filipina in Manila. Even if you did find one, you need to be careful about a long term relationship. For one, when you get involved with one, you also are involved with her family and have to give money to them. Many are not good parents and are real materialistic. Many are looking for their green card to America or another foreign land, but usually America. No matter what they have told you, many have worked in bars as bar girls, aka prostitutes. I hate to burst your bubble, but the best thing you can do is take a load of condoms and have fun. Find a girl somewhere else.