should I shut down yahoo on my husband?

Question

this is his answer site and he has become infatuated with someone on here and sent her an E -Mail today and added her to his yahoo 360..Which he promised he would never do." we have been together for 20 years.when i asked him just a few minutes ago on the phone, he says dont be mad, i was just experimenting to see what everything does,But hes does this while i'm not home.

Answer 1

Pulling the plug would be a spiteful act. Try talking to him about it face to face. Tell him that you understand he may have just been having a bit of fun and experimenting with Yahoo 360, but the fact that he does so when you're not around and does things he promised he would never do challenges the trust you've developed in him over the years. Be open to the discussion, though, and realize that he may point out that you are overreacting. Accept whatever criticisms he may offer. Don't admonish him, have a discussion with him. Communicate. You are not his parent or his keeper, nor is he either of those things to you. You are both responsible for the state of your marriage.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I honestly feel for you hun... my husband is the same exact way he has actually had sex with women he picks up on here so to speak that I recently just found out about... he does all this when Im not home also hun your not alone there are probably millions of us feeling the same way to some point. I seriously dont think shutting yahoo down on him is going to make a difference, if he was just experimenting knowing you both agreed to not do that, he was aware of the circumstances if you found out.... and since you have been together for 20 years, I think if you tell him how much this bothers you and would like for him to stop, if he loves you enough and understands everything you are saying to him and he is in fact doing nothing wrong, then he wont have a problem stopping all together or doing it while your there.... Good luck hun

Answer 3

Wow, this is a hard situation that I am glad I am not in! Sorry that it has happened, though. I wouldn't know what to do. Obviously you have tried talking to him about it and he gave, what seemed to be, a poor justification to his action. If you are planning on talking about this to him again, I would, more than likely say something like, "Oh, since it was an experiment, you don't have a problem deleting things about her and stop contacting her?" Then if he doesn't, I would out weigh the options.

Answer 4

Some of this yahoo stuff is harmless.....but if he is connecting with women that is a big NO NO for a married man.
My daughter and her boyfriend made a pack to NEVER do Yahoo messanger or personals again, just to make srue they are NOT tempted at a weak moment.

Tell your husband that what he does needs to be something that he could do in front of you. Otherwise. The computer is a no no.

He needs to replace his habit for another habit. Like a computer game or something. If he wants to flirt tell him it is ok as long as you are sitting next to him.

some say men will be men...but we all have our limits

Some women know that their men like porn and they ignore it or
join them. Otherwise the man needs to be accountable to his woman.

You might need counseling. or take the computer with you when you are gone.

Answer 5

if u shut it down, he can get another account and u wont like it because u wont have access to it any longer like this one..so, leave it be, try peeping in from time to time to see what's going on..lol...just continue being his wife, remind him why he loves and married u and still is ..not necessarily by words but by actions:) just stay cool and show him, let him that you're his wife...dont pressure him too much about this, he'll come around..maybe he's jsut curious about this or about the person...you havent reached 20 years of marriage for nothing :) so u knwo you're husband more than anybody else does :)

Answer 6

I seriously doubt that shutting down yahoo will make much difference. He can just do it again. I would suggest that instead you talk to him more about it. Ask him if it would be okay if you would start doing that and see if the rules change, lol...many times there is a double standard there. Sorry to hear this...hope things work out.

Answer 7

If you shut it down, then you'll be acting like you are trying to control him. If he's infatuated and looking for another woman, then it's time to either see a councilor or realize he's getting ready to cheat on you. He can just sneak behind your back easier if you shut down your mutual account. Be careful. The same kind of thing happened to me.

Answer 8

mine does this kinda crap all the time well not as much now he is gettin better about it, I am threatenin him I'm gonna sell this thing, I guess they cant help themselves and it is their thing as a guy, dont understand and think I'm not enough for him!!!!! he says different but kinda hard when they keep lookin and I cant compete anymore like when I was younger, good luck and maybe you should or just hope he will give it up and pay more attention to you like should be and deserved before they lose all of us.!!!!!! and for the man if you are reading pay more attention to what ya got at home before you realize you lost it and didnt realize what a good thing you had and its too late, its not worth it you have a women who loves ya and is infront of ya not on a key board and not all what she seems

Answer 9

Oh my gosh Susie, i'm so sorry your husband lost his conflict and you at the instant are left doing this on my own as quickly as greater, i comprehend how satisfied you have been whilst he got here abode. God bless you. I believe the 1st answer to the question. you ought to write to three of his popular people in case you already know his password and enable them to comprehend of his passing. i comprehend i'm questioning some few of my contacts who had wellness subjects and want somebody might enable me comprehend in the event that they're ok. although Yahoo nonetheless has no longer fixed my e mail. Peace be with you, my buddy

Answer 10

You should explain to him why it bothers you and if he loves you then he will work with you on it. Getting rid of his account he can just get a new one and not give you access to it at all. Then he is free to do whatever, explain it to him and I am sure you two can work out a compromise. 20yrs is a long time to let it all start downhill over someone on the computer, work together.
-NmD!