sees me for sex, and I do it with him I think because I want him to love me, but he cant express it to me,. there are other issues concerning medical expenses and some controlling ways he has. should I move on? give up? he says he loves me when I cry and threaten to stop all contact with him. he pays a lot of my bills but does that mean he loves me. he wont tell me 'I love you' unless I say to him 'Do you love me?' then he says ya, i do. do you think I am wanting too much? should I move on? I just want to know if other women would take this kind of crap? I mean I see other couples holding hands hugging and loving each other laughing with each other not at her. I cant feel the love from him. is it because he doesnt love me or what?
2006-08-22 17:35:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, he's your ex for a reason. Do you really want to relive that? Think about it. He didn't give you what you wanted back then, why would he now? Becuase he has sexual urges and can offer you financial security. That's great and all, but you know, as well as I, that it takes more than that to make things work. Don't settle, you will find someone when the time is right. However, if you keep sleeping with the ex, there is less of a chance for meeting someone else. I know it may work for right now, but keep that mindset. Believe this is just a temporary thing and the two of you are only using each other until someone else comes along.
And for your question if you are wanting too much? I'd have to say no. You want from him what you wanted before the divorce...to be loved no matter what, to be respected, and to be happy. That's not much...that's what we all want out of life and if he doesn't do it for you, then it's time to move on.
2006-08-22 17:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men have problems w/ showin or aT least mst do they do at first cause they need the win over thing and its also new but that dies out, I do think you should go on if you are already thinkin this isnt what you want I know its easy to get bills paid and stuff but is it easy to go on like this? I do believe you love him and havin troubles given up, but sometimes it needs to be done to be happy, I hope you find what you need to be happy again and he turns around or leaves, sometimes its easier than you guys findin somethin new and different and just keep the same, but unless you are doin it because of the love then you dont need to do.
2006-08-22 17:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you feel is right. I would not allow my x husband to use me in that respect though. Try moving on or even try cutting him off from sex and see how it goes. Controlling ways are not good. I think perhaps that can lead to further problems if you aren't careful.
2006-08-22 17:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on...love is the most beautiful thing in the world...and it is very important that the one u love loves u back...LOVE HURTS WHEN ONLY ONES IN LOVE...it sounds to me all he wants is sex...and him paying ur bills for it is not helping it seams like its a lil like prostitution...no offence...and i think u need to start over...find a new man...live ur life full of love..LOVE IS A BATTLEFIELD...but u got to take your chances with it...it sound to me like all u need is love...and ur not getting it...
2006-08-22 17:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by jordanmichellecoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on, you have already divorced him. Let him go and stand on your own two feet.
2006-08-22 18:12:45 · answer #5 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and start again
2006-08-22 17:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel there is someone els out there for you
leave him and go huntiing
you will make it w/ $ or w/ out so do what u feel in ur heart
2006-08-22 17:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by ez-goin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-22 17:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋