i am eleven years i saw my dad take condoms to his trip (without my mom)?

Question

the trip he went to was to meet his "family" in turkey. He is still on his trip me and my mom were looking through his clothes and i saw a t shirt that said Rouge Gentlemens club it is embarassing to tell my mom that my dad took trojan condoms to his trip so he is obviously cheating my mom would say what is a child my age know about this stuff i also went trough the history of my dads sites and there was nasty stuff live amsterdamsexlive.com or audultfriendfinder.com my mom has no clue i also saw a email that said i am looking forward to oral *** I cant sleep at night what should i do life is geting messed up

Answer 1

Aren't you glad you snooped?!

"A wise heart concealeth the matter." Are you adult enough and calm enough in your heart to keep this to yourself and tell no one? That is the right thing for you to do. You'll NEVER be sorry if you keep quiet.

If you were raised to squeal, then perhaps you have to talk -- so wait for your father to come back from his trip and talk to him in confidence about what you've found. But this course of action isn't as good as keeping quiet and no telling anyone anything.

I beg you to avoid snooping in the future. In the long run, you will find out more as someone who always respects privacy and always keep secrets. The secret-keeper is the person who becomes a wise adult and a kindly elder.

Answer 2

You know something, it's possible that you've stumbled onto something that "looks" really bad for you dad but in reality may be something entirely different.

No one should ever ask you to keep ANYTHING from your Mom for ANY reason. PERIOD!!!! Not your dad, not a teacher, not the strangers on Yahoo. Having honesty and an open relationship with your Mom is VERY important. You should feel as if you can talk to her about ANY and EVERYTHING.

I know, I'm a Mom, and I have three boys who are 20, 17, and 16 years old. They have ALWAYS been able to talk to me.

In keeping silent (not telling your Mom) you would start to feel even more quilt and responsibility than you already do and she would NEVER want you to go through that. I'm sure she loves you very much and would feel very good knowing that you trusted her enough to share with her what is on your mind.

Good Luck and if you need a friend just send me an email.
Julie

Answer 3

Wow, I'm really sorry that you are in this situation. This would be extremely difficult for anyone of any age, especially eleven. I have no idea what you should do. If you do nothing, you will be bothered by the burden of the truth that you know. If you tell, then you will have to deal with the drama that comes along with such a situation. I would suggest that you talk to a professional counselor to figure out the best way to deal with this situation you are in. Good luck.

Answer 4

I understand how you feel. Talk to your dad and tell him what you found out. Don't be afraid to ask questions. Your dad should be manly enough to admit & explain things. Whether he is able to convince you or not, tell him so. At this point in time, I think you should not tell your mom yet. Observe your dad. Maybe he will change for the better after you talk to him. If this is the case, then never mention the whole incident to your mom. But if your dad continues to misbehave, then it's time for mom to know. Let her do what she ought to do and be there for support.

Answer 5

Damn man im sorry to hear this but welcome to the real world where mothers and fathers arent the super heros that we make them out to be when young. One thing about being an adult is the truth hurts and if you dont want the truth then dont look for it. I mean your doing some dora the explorer investigated stuff here. Hang in there and when your get married and settle down you be faithful and show your pops how to be faithful.

Answer 6

I know you don't want to get your father into "trouble" or jeopardize your parents' marriage, but I also know that your mother doesn't want you to be messed up and in pain about this. Please start by telling your mother that there is inappropriate stuff on the computer and show her where you found it. She will deal with this when your father returns. You also need to tell her that the computer stuff was scary to you and that you are worried about your father while he is away from home and that you love them both.

Answer 7

For someone that is only eleven you sure did alot of things on the computer (open up e-mail, track sites) you even know what Trojans are??? and oral sx. If you really are 11, you should considered going into computer hacking for the government (you can get into alot of troubling doing it yourself).

Answer 8

Tell your mom! This is very important! If she's willing to take back your dad, then he's lucky. Either way, you'll see your dad, but you really don't want to live with them if they're going to fight all the time. And if you don't tell, it will eat you alive.

Answer 9

do no longer even think of of marrying a stranger. you in basic terms comprehend this guy from his writings and that of people. you don't comprehend him so why marry him? he's barely been a widower for 2 years. He seems somewhat too desperate for a spouse - any spouse - and you're very worrying and smart to think of of his daughter. he's by no skill questioning approximately her which makes me think of that consistent with danger he's no longer as advantageous and worrying and delightful as you're able to think of he's. do no longer wait till once you're legally sure to this guy to discover precisely what form of ogre he's. discover that out previously marriage and which skill a protracted (2-3 years) courtship era.

Answer 10

You really need to tell your mom Do you really want her to be with a man that is cheating on her...