My wife lost a lot of weight and was getting more attentionfrom men. Back in May she met some guy and started talking to him on her cell phone ALL the tile.. try over 3000 minutes in June! She kept denying things but over the last few months I found out that: 1 . He lives fairly close, 2. He is a friend of the nextdoor neighbor, 3. She originnally said she was only talking to him however I found out she was meeting him, 4 At first she said shenever kissed him but she finnally told me she kissed him many times. She says ahe hasn't had sex with theguy but with her record of deception I'm sure I find out eventually that they did. Part of me just wants to cheat on her too and another part says divorce her and move on.
2006-08-22 17:33:29 · 16 answers · asked by Pete T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I went to a counselor. She refuses to see one.
2006-08-22 17:47:48 · update #1
Been married 12 years. 2 kids. We discussed open marriage but Decided we shopuld try to work it out, or so I thought. She still talks to this guy.
2006-08-23 15:27:47 · update #2
No cheating isn't the answer. Maybe she is looking for something that she isn't getting at home. Maybe you need to try marriage counseling.
2006-08-22 17:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you have heard this saying many of times. TWO WRONGS DO NOT MAKE A RIGHT. You will just be hurting yourself going down to her level. You need to ask yourself am I willing to take her back when in the back of my head I will be thinking she will hurt me again. Cheating is not the answer maybe split up for awhile and see other people so it will not be on your concience mind. If your heart aches for her and you know in your heart that she will not cheat on you again then give her another chance. If you find someone that is going to be faithful and love you the way you want to be loved that is another option. Cheating is not the option you should take.
2006-08-22 17:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes another answer like this.... 2 wrongs dont make a right.... I have been with my husband for 14 years, he has made it a habit to cheat on me every year... I have never once cheated on him. Most people say Im stupid for staying since this is what he always does, but I do love him and I always look the other way.... if shes cheating, end it now.... dont let it go any farther and dont let her think your going to allow it to happen possible again. Look at me, Ive been there and still going through it, but now im strong enough to walk away and file for divorce.... if you let it continue or forgive and forget make sure its just that FORGIVE AND FORGET cause you cant forgive if you cant forget. But if it keeps happening you wont have trust and thats most important, dont let her think your going to sit back and wait for it to happen again
2006-08-22 21:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...since she refuses to see a counselor, looks like she won't make the commitment to work on your marriage. Just divorce her.
Two wrongs don't make a right and even if you cheated on her, the original problem which prompted you to cheat will still be there.
2006-08-22 18:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When cheating comes into the picture I think it's best to move on. People can not go on hurting one another with affairs. It will get out of hand, you never know what can or will happen from there Is the pain from it all worth going through from day to day, month to month, I would not think so.
2006-08-22 17:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right. You have the moral high ground. Hold it. But you are a door matt and she's playing you like a fool. Your relationship is now all about lies, deception and disrespect. It might be time for you to cut and run.
2006-08-22 17:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, all points to a cheater. You at this moment are free to divorce your wife, no questions asked. If you choose to cheat on her, your no better. If you plan to stay in this marriage, a councelor is much needed. good luck.
2006-08-22 17:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Funk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. Seek either counseling or divorce her. If she loved you no amount of weight loss should have made her cheat. And she did, even if it was only a kiss. Good Luck!!
2006-08-22 17:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by bsnana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so tell her that if she is going to have a boyfriend then you will have a girlfriend. If she can't handle the open marriage then you need to get out.
2006-08-22 18:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother that is a wrap! since she lost all the weight ,she now has all thi s new self esteem, since she broke/forgot her vows to you and GOD,RUN down to the courthouse and file for divorce,on the grounds of adultry,if she leaves ..deserrtion too...2 wrong don't /won't make it right or go away so prepare to go your own way!!! f*ck her and the neighbor who helped to destroy ya marriage!
2006-08-22 22:17:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋