A very close friend of mine,comes to me this past weekend and tells me that his g/f's birthday is in another week or two...and that what she wants for her birthday is to induldge in a 3-some. something they both have obviousy fantized for awhile now.My friend & I have been cool for a great many yrs; and in our past while we both were single-men & a bit wild...there were those couple occassions that we did share a couple women. But!...now in this particular situation (involving his g/f) I am feeling greatly un-easy with the idea. The difference is that there are "emotional-ties" between the two of them and, I am just not sure that i am willing to jepordize that or "our" personal-friendship? I am just concerned that for me to go through with it would ultimately change the entire course of our friendship. Also i am concerned that to do so could possibly put my friend in a very competative situation with his g/f while knowing that i am a very well endowed & sexually gifted Man.
2006-08-22 17:29:00 · 9 answers · asked by anthony J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hey there Anthony,
Well my friend, all I can tell you is if you are having all these concerns then this is probably not a good idea. Not just for you, but for the both of them. I mean in everything you wrote about this situation I think you should of been able to answer this yourself. I believe you want to do this, but you know at the same time that there will be consequences later. You are afraid that this will complicate the relationship that you have with the 2 of them already. Im not gonna lie to you, things wont be the same if you go through with this. Thats just not me telling you that, its a fact of life. Basically my friend, if you are having any doubts what so ever about doing this, then maybe its best that you dont get yourself mixed up in this touchy situation. I know its probably very tempting for you, but I would pass this one up for now. Good luck, dude!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-22 17:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by D.J B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Putting your enormous ego to one side for the moment, I think you are correct in thinking that this endeavor would change your relationship dynamic forever. This, after all, is not some random girl you have hooked up with for some wild sex, this is his girlfriend. If he was to marry her some day, there would always be this between you. I think you should be flattered that he trusts you enough to ask you, but I think you should say no.
2006-08-22 17:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how uneasy you feel about this 3-some and explain to him the consequences of this in the future, particularly, in their emotional ties. saving this friendship means saying " no " specially when you know very well that this will put your friendship into jeopardy. hopefully, your friend will understand and respect you as a friend.
2006-08-22 17:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by bradd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first if their relationship is strong nothing should be able to come between it and if he asked you that means he trust you enough to include you in their little "experiment" but if you don't feel comfortable let him know but I don't think if you do it would ruin your friend ship.
2006-08-22 17:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by ELLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation about two years ago...Plan A was my boyfriend wanted to have his threesome in return, (w/ my friend), by allowing me to fullfill her desires. That worked! She backed out of it. Plan B was to blame my boyfriend, by saying he wasn't comfortable with me and another man. Good Luck!
2006-08-22 17:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Ma'am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him and explain to him and make him understand and if he could take the risk then go for it, have fun !
2006-08-22 17:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you've told us, show him even! He'll know how uneasy you feel about it then.
2006-08-22 17:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by ©Wayne© 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be difficult to "Just Say No."
2006-08-22 17:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a lucky bastard with no offence
2006-08-22 17:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by adeep s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋