Hi, I am searching for the healthiest path in my life. I have a daughter with my husband. I just re-married him for the second time. I just want my daughter to grow up with both her parents. I seem to not beable to love my husband the way I probably should. I thought that I would fall in love with him eventually. I think I fell in love with our friendship and I am worried that it may not be enough. I came to the conclusion to marry him again to work on my family so that i can say that I am trying. I have been deeply in love before ;I know what it is like. But with that relationship love wasn't enough. I am missing that real in loveness and am afraid I won't beable to love my husband like that ever. I love him as a great friend. This is our second time being married. Did I subcounciously do it for my daughter and to please his love for me? Can I actually go through life married that way. What if as life goes on and I run into someone , and trying to be loyal. Is frienship good enough?
2006-08-22 17:16:59 · 4 answers · asked by expression 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
friendship is not good enough. Your daughter can live with both of her parents in her life- but they don't have to life together! You should marry for love.
2006-08-22 17:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say a marriage also has to have a friendship as well as love to be able to go through those hardships. I think both of u are mature adults and u should know by now that u dont need a marriage for ur daughter to have a mom and dad, they might not be together but u can still be there for ur kid at all times. And if u already married him well too late, what kind of advice would we give u? u already did it. So work on it and remember u cant make anyone fall in love.
2006-08-23 00:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by sourgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans are very sexual people. That is kinda to keep us from dying out. It seems like you are still interested in sex. Being so, getting together "just for the kids" is never really a good reason. The chances of you cheating are very good, then what will that make you in their eyes... the one that cheated on dad. You did not mention if he is still attracted to you. If he is then he also could possible cheat if not satisfied. I think it is a good idea that you want to try to stay together for the kids, you have taken the first step by re-marrying husband. Now is the hardest part, try to rekindle your love for him. You should talk with him find common interests, do things together, make "dates" with him, hopefully you'll fall in love with him "again" it's happened before, It is not easy takes alot of work, but it can be done. Good Luck and I admire you trying.
2006-08-23 00:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by Tony in Texas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes just let him go and if you a good friend he will always remember you.
2006-08-23 00:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by Happy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋