My man and I have been together for 4 years and our sex life has always been alright, we enjoy eachother. We just got our internet fixed and I got online tonight to see he was viewing porno. WHY? I just don't understand, I know we satisfy eachother, but what the h***? I know he has never done this before so why now?
2006-08-22 16:51:02 · 11 answers · asked by thedreamer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks you are beginning to make me feel better! I still don't get it though since he has never done this before. (i am positive)
2006-08-22 16:57:46 · update #1
If your sex life is fullfilling and you are both getting enjoyment from it, then him watching pornography is fine.....as long as its not taking the place of sex with the two of you. When a peson is in a satisfying sexual relationship I think anything between two consenting adults is fine. The thing that worries me is that it upsets you. Have you told him it upsets you? Have you asked him why he enjoys watching porn?
A lot of men who are in a satisfying sexual relationship still like to look at pornographic material.....sometimes he and the partner watch it together. A healthy sex life means you can talk to each other about sexual issues including pornography. Maybe you could offer that you join him in watching....Maybe it would be a big turn on for both of you. Just because a man looks, doesnt mean he loves you or wants you any less....its just something men do....and like I said if it is not taking the place of sex, then it is probably a stimuli for him, which may make him a better lover for you.
2006-08-28 21:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have been with my man for about a year and a half and he has been looking at porno for a long time. I didnt like the idea and told him how I felt and that it makes me feel like my intimacy just isnt cutting it and suggested that he and I watch it together. I also realized that sometimes men get real turned on and cant wait til we are around and use porno as a fantasy for the women they're with so he isnt thinking about the porno chick he's thinking about you. If you talk to him and say how it makes you feel or be straight up and ask why im sure hell tell you why wouldn't he nothing should come between love, good luck.
2006-08-22 16:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know but every guy friend I have has watched porno/ watches porno and even the ones that are not single do. Dont take it personally guys just like to watch porn
2006-08-22 16:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by Equik 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Comedian Jeff Foxworthy says that all men want two things: a beer, and to see somebody naked. He's not far wrong.
You really shouldn't take it personally. Most women do, and it really has NOTHING to do with how he feels about you, whether you're good enough, whether he's faithful, or anything else. It just means his eyes still work.
2006-08-22 18:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by Scott F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the typical naive little girl that just don't have a glue. He didn't just start you really need a reality check. I am not saying there is anything wrong with him viewing porn but he didn't just out of the blue start guys are into it very early and we hide it because of little girls like you telling us you don't understand.
2006-08-22 17:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man will always want to watch naked women. Whether is naked women masturbating, having sex, wrestling, whatever...it's what we like. And some folks are voyeurs; they just like to watch people have sex which is what I am. Watching porn lets you see things you wouldn't normally see while having sex. That's where I get my thrills and I'm always ready to have sex right afterwards.
2006-08-22 17:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by makeherwett 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ask him. Don't accuse him of anything, or make it out to be dirty or anything. If you rather that he not look tell him why and have a discussion about it. Yeah men and women like watching porn but we don't know why YOUR man was looking.
2006-08-22 17:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by Dainlynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's just satisfying curiosity. have u ever tried watching it with him? it CAN be a real turn-on, PLUS u can learn new stuff to try and make ur sex life better
2006-08-29 10:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by Vol_Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many men are visual people. It's not that he doesn't care for you. Maybe he is looking for different ways to excite you!
2006-08-22 16:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes they want to their eyes to be satisfied... there are different types that they want... it may be visual, oral, etc....
its just normal for a guy... and he may just be curious about stuff so theres nothing you should worry about
2006-08-22 17:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by mina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋